Is disrepectfull to tell your parents..??

Question

that youll never raise your kids like they raised you...

i plan on raising my kids different so0o0 different ..
who else feels like this?? or opose this??

Answer 1

i always told myself that i wouldn't raise my children the way that my parents raised me. in a way that's true. you can't raise children of a new generation in a old generation way because "new" rules apply. however, every day i find myself becoming more and more like my mom.

Answer 2

There a saying take the good and leave the bad.
If you can tell your parents what you are going to do in a way that they like it. You done OK.
Remember if you can call a person a bad name and they like it. You found the right words. When you get it right your parents will think its right. Then you found the right words. But don't insult them. Remember this, they are doing there best to give you the best they got or know. Raising children is no easy task. I raised a boy and a girl. I would rather chase a mad bull then punish my children. I spank my son once and never my daughter. My boy is an engineer and my daughter is in the chemical industry. I and my wonderful wife must have done something right. I hope you don't think you have all the answers. Your parents do not have all the right answers nor will you ever have all the right answer. Love your mon and dad for they love you and are trying very hard to do right.

Answer 3

Ok even if you are going to raise kids differently either don't tell ur parents or say something like you taught me a lot of parenting things to do and things not to do or when I raise my kids im going to do it a little differently. But there is nothing wrong with raising kids differently then parent. I totally agree with that

Answer 4

You must have had a seriously abusive childhood to think this where you were beaten a lot by your parents. You never got the affection you were hoping for. In this case, I would even encourage you to tell them that right to their faces, saying that you'll smother your children with the love and affection you never got. Furthermore, you'll even encourage them to grow up so fast when they hit adolesence (telling them to find a job while going to school, etc.) I don't think I'll want children of my own, because I am not strong enough to bring up infants, due to cerebral palsy. (Maybe I'll marry a single mom, or adopt.) But I agree with you, and I definitely feel this way.

Answer 5

Yes I feel the same way, but our parents were just trying to look out for us...I plan on raising my kids different too!!!

Answer 6

Of course you will want to raise your kids differently, but you don't have to voice that because that makes a parent feel awful, like they did a horrible job. We all have strong areas of parenting and weak, so raise your kids differently but don't blame your parents.

Answer 7

I said that for years and years and years to my mom, and although I still feel that way about some things, I totally think she did a much better job then I ever gave her credit for.

I think its something that many of us say out of anger or frustration. Ironically, my "gift" to my mothers day this past mothers day was actually telling her that I thought she did a great job and sorry for being such a pain in the a$$ teenager for so many years lol.

Answer 8

No, it isn't disrectful. I'm not going to teach my kids that viplence solves all. I understand how making your child as an anger toy can relive stress for the parent. But I'm as sure as hell not going to make my kid start cutting at age 9, that's for sure. I hated my life so much back them. But then my girlfriend litrally saved me from there. Which I am glad. Oh, by the way, I'm not going to tell my kids that there going to be kicked out of the house for being gay. Which is also wh both of us have deicded not to tell a single soul who knows us untill we are 21, of legal drinking age.

Answer 9

You may not have liked the way that your rents raised you, but I bet you anything it was 100x better than how they were raised. You don't need to rub it in their faces when they feel they did a good job right? You're going to raise your children different, sure but I bet they'll hate it too and they'll raise there's different from you too.

Answer 10

We all think that at one time or another. And guess what? We end up most of the time doing what our parents did when rearing us. The older you get when you have kids, the more you realize where your parents were coming from, and what they went through to get us into adulthood without killing us. I didn't agree with some things my parents did, but I would never disrespect them in any way by telling them I disagreed with them, and the way they reared us.