Do you think 60 is to old to have children? Is it selfish?

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I don't think so. I think people that are financially stable and live in first world countries need to have more children. They can give their children more time, send them to better schools, and give them a better life. In fact, I think its selfish of people in these first world countries to not have children. Their ancestors made sacrifices so that their children and grand children would live a better life. Yet these people who choose not to have children take all the good and don't pass it on to the next generation. I don't have children yet, but I would be mad if my children decided to remain childless.

Answer 1

To all you nay sayers. You are just jealous. This woman is financially well off so if she dies early it wont be a financial problem .She is darn good looking for her age too and healthy.So why not.Good luck to her and i hope she desides to have another one. It's her business not yours or mine.The state will not have to raise those kids.

Answer 2

The age at which a woman has a child must be thought about from different perspectives. Ideologically, the reasons you stated have some truth. But there is a practical answer to the dilemma as well, and practical answers need to be looked at.

You can have a baby at any age - it is biologically possible until quite old now, but that is not the question. What you have to consider is the age and energy, and capacity for understanding, that a parent will have later. It's not only the physical bearing of a child that's important, but the abilities of the mother throughout childhood and adolescence.

So think - how much energy will the mother have all through primary school? How clever and capable and willing to keep up will she be when her child is a teenager, struggling with life in high school?

What sort of mothering will she be able to provide at age 65? At age 70? How will she relate to other mothers in her child's group? Mothers depend on each other sometimes - they need peer support - how will she get on with the 20-somethings she will inevitably meet at playgroup? How much will she have in common with the other mothers at sport meetings, scouts, dancing?

And what about the generation gap - how will the child relate to a mother old enough to be Grannie? Although there are some advantages, it cannot be ignored that the child will eventually notice that Mum is much much older than Johnnie's mum. Will that be cool? How much control would a mum that age have over a rebellious teenager? Does this matter?

Money and society matter, ability matters, perception matters, energy and determination matter - and yes, they are all different in different individuals. No matter how the mother looks and acts at 60, when their child is 15 they are going to be aged and tired. Then what?

All this has to be considered.

Remaining childless throughout life is another question - one that is too personal to be attacked as being selfish. No one really knows the secret motivations of another person. Having children (or not) is a decision (or non-decision... to some people life just happens to them in whatever way it does) that others cannot really judge.

First world or third world - the decisions you make have to be the best ones you can handle yourself in the circumstances in which you are. The world cannot - and does not - run on SHOULD. The world runs on what's available at the time, and the ability of any individual to cope and decide.



Hope this helps

Answer 3

I don't think it is selfish, but I would reccomend against it. No child wants to watch their parent die and it is even harder when they are younger. Having a child that young would really up the chances that the child would have to watch you die before they are 20. Or have to be responsible for taking care of you at an age when they are still trying to take care of themselves. I would agree that you may be better set financially. But I don't think the child would care that much about how much better off they were financial if you die when they are very young.

Secondly, I don't think it's a bad thing not to have children at all. They are more than enough people in this world, not everyone needs or wants to have children.

Answer 4

It is too late. Even the nature itself does not normally let it happen. I also think it is selfish. It is perfectly fine when people work on their careers and financial stability first, but some of them just don't want to compromise anything. They enjoy their young years and perceive their careers, travel, etc. When they get older and they feel lonely, they start thinking about children. But, when they have them there is a big age gap between them and, as the result, children often can not enjoy their childhood like they would with younger parents. Imagine that: a 65 years old dad trying to play on the font yard with his 5 years old son. Nobody can tell me that it is the same like having a 35 years old dad in that situation. Also, imagine your parents passing away when you are only 18 but they are about 78. Not good.

Answer 5

I personaly do not think anyone over 40 should have children. I understand accidents happen but not to a 60 year old. I wouldnt think it is selfish either I do think they have the best interest to heart but you have to think about the child. sure the child will love them but how long will they have with them? how active can they be with them. most kids want active parents to play with. the child at 20 they will be 80 no way they will be around to see any grandchildren. I think god made you stop having kids for a reason that is the time to be a grandmother .

Answer 6

Honestly yes....I am the baby of the family and my parents are in there LATE 50's...dad is turning 60 in Dec. I am only 23 and most if not all my friends parents were at least 10 years younger then mine were...so i cant relate to my friends parents or a boyfriends parent very well because they are a different generation from my parents, its just harder for the kids to relate to other situations they will come across later in life and by that time it may be too late. its not fair to not have your parents through all phases of your life from birth to when you get married and become a parent...at 60 you should be a grandparent not a new parent....at least in my opinion.

Answer 7

I don't think it is being selfish, I do think it is not practical. There are a lot of factors to being a parent at your age.

I can understand you wanting to have a child to love, teach and guide. You have lived a long life and want to share your love and knowledge.

Did you ever think about mentor program or maybe a adopt a grandchild program if they have one. There are so many kids out there who have one parent and need a friend, or no parents and would like a parent figure.

There is always a child out there who needs someone and can benefit from having you in their life.

Answer 8

I hope she lives long enough to see her kids grow-up. Why do that when you're in your 60's? Yes, selfish!!!! I hope she lives a long time.
The lady who had them is a psychologist. Figures, another twisted psychologist. Who has a twisted mind.

Her quote(She said that people who consider new motherhood at her age inappropriate "need to get ready for what's coming up in our society.")

I'm glade I had my 2 kids in my 20's!! At least I can move around and I'll be around for 60 more yrs.

Answer 9

I dont know....I went to school with a boy whos parents were much older. They didn't have him until his mom was 46 and his dad was nearly 60. His dad died when we were in 4th grade and his mom died from cancer when he was a junior in high school. I know that his moms death could have happened at any age but still, how would you feel to have BOTH parents die before you graduate high school? They would never see your wedding, or children, or anything like that! It would be sooooo hard. I know he was completely heart broken. Plus he had nowhere to go after that, both sets of grandparents had already past and both his parents were only children. It was hard for me to just think about it, I couldn't imagine living it...

Answer 10

Yes for many reasons..number 1..normally by 60 you are going or about to go through menopause and by age 45 there is already a higher chance of mental retardation so think of how it would be by 60..also...think about the child...as it gets older...by 10 years she'd be 70 by 20 she'd be 80 if she lived that long...whats that doing for the child...think about it? yes thats selfish