I was diagnosed with aspergers syndrome 3 years ago.?

Question

my problem is that i cannot communicate with people on any level, I left school early because of my illness and i have no education because of it. That means it will be unlikey that i will get employment in the future. The reason i left school was because i couldnt cope with the confusion that i was going through. The worst problem i have is making friends or even saying hello to people, people seem to dislike me the second they see me. Most of the time i spend alone,i can't even communicate with my family. I know people with aspergers syndrome have the same problems as me by my case is worse. I will never have a family, children or get married or be employed and that just a few things that affect me because of my illness my question is WHY ME.

Answer 1

You can accept their "diagnosis" of a "syndrome"

Or you can drop what they've told you and Deny the possibility that you are simply fated to a limiting "illness", get out there and, face your obstacles and overcome them.

I've suffered from some of the very same things you've spoken of and I know how it can feel. But you've got to face them head on as a spiritual battle rather than some medical complication.

I'm not preaching god or religion, but emotions have a flow to them that you cannot pigeon hole with convenient explanations and medications. You'll likely complicate things even more with those things. Learn how to just dump what doesn't work in your mind while allowing yourself the freedom to let the chips fall where they may with your actions. Couple that with the persisting decision that you expect the best from life and it will come.

Answer 2

For one thing you communicated quite well with what you wrote!! So saying you can not communicate is not the case.
We have this in our family. We may not have a bunch of people at our house, we may not be seen out in public all the time. We may even have our "ways" people think are strange.
But it does help to be around others who understand. This is where this family is lucky. There are four of us here who are on the autism spectrum, I have relatives who are on it. Only one of us here is disabled with it (through the government thus far).
Depression is just one of the feelings that one has to do something about. What does your mental health doctor say? Do you have one? If not, why not?
Our you taking meds every day? The side effects of these meds might be what is causing some of your problems.

Why can't you have a family, children, or get married?? Who has put into your head you are so different? If you are a child, and it does sound as if you are young, quit listening to those negative people! They are not doing you any good! Quit feeling sorry for yourself and look at what you do well! People with aspergers are not known for being stupid people, but highly intelligent!! Learning just might be different ....be proud of who you are, not what you are diagnosed with.

This is what I tell my youngest when he comes home crying because someone hurt his feelings or he got beat up....

Answer 3

we're all eccentric in our family, and it's probably asperger's. My brother is the one I talk to about it. He has tourette's along with the asperger's and bipolar also. He got much better at communication by going to votech and college. My friends who didn't see him all the time were amazed at how much his communication skills improved (they still aren't good, but he writes pretty well, as you do also). I think what would help you is practicing your skills, ask a friends to coach you. I checked out a very basic kid's ettiquette book for my brother, it was an american girl one (that's a company that sells dolls) and it taught him a lot. His manners were much better. I also had to tell him that he has to say thank you to people when they do something for him. He was awkward about it for a few months, but it goes smoothly now. He is studying communication like any school subject now, really working at it.


We all have challenges. I have bipolar disorder and have to deal with suicidal feelings every day, sometimes all day. I was like that when I was your age too (got sick with it when I was 12?) I was molested repeatedly as a child. I'm fat and my pills make me want to puke all day (but they help enuf to be worth it). I'm on disability and ashamed of it. My husband has diabetes and is legally blind from it and had to have a toe amputated.******* But we have a pretty good life anyhow!!!!******* You're going to be another one of those with more challeges than most. What I find is that for my brother, people find him to be different at first and after awhile they accept him the way that he is.

Best of luck to you. In the past, this label didn't exist, and so what if you are a little eccentric?

Answer 4

We all ask that question why me? for one reason or another one. My son has aspergers syndrome. I have Borderline Personality Disorder. It gets though sometimes but I am trying to survive this issues. My house turn into a mess sometimes. I had someone staying at my house and help me with this. It is hard for me and my son have people over. First I thought why can't I make friends, why this why that nobody cares about me or us. I stopped being a victim of this cycle. If people don't want to be my friend or they don't want to be with me I don't care anymore. It was hard, it really was. Now that I learned to be by myself and accepted myself they way I am, I have more friends than ever. Found people that care about me and call me sometimes. I do keep them from a distance in case I don't feel OK or in the mood to be with somebody I let them know I don't feel good maybe another day but let them know I am OK and is nothing to worry about.

Answer 5

I am a speech pathologist who works closely with many children and adults with aspergers syndrome. Look online for inspiration. There are many, many people that are able to learn and use compensation strategies to secure jobs, pursue relationships, etc. Temple Grandin. Your email sounds very negative...you can get help and have a wonderful, fulfilling life. If you can find a local speech language pahologist in your area, he/she might be able to give you some resources such as support groups, therapy, etc.

Answer 6

I have Aspergers Syndrome. I was diagnosed with it just a couple weeks ago actually. I thought my life was over, just like you. All I can say is that, from reading your story, I am no different then you. Now you ask "Why you"?. You are very lucky to have Aspergers Syndrome.
-Albert Einstein had it
-Isaac Newten
-Motzart
And many more people, had Aspergers.

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Answer 7

To the person who said "Luck of the draw", I'll say "BALONEY!"You CAN get a good job, you CAN have a family, you CAN have a good life. There lots of state run, and local run agencies who can help you find ways to over come your problem on ALL levels. What I strongly urge you to do is get on the internet and find them. I myself have the condition, and I'm getting the help I need. I wish you Good Luck.

Answer 8

luck of the draw (statistics)
a certain number of people will have various illnesses.
some people have spina bifida or multiple sclerosis or
scizophrenia or club foot. There's no reason in my opinion.
Just say it's bad luck. Like being the one sitting at a stoplight when a semi hits you. Your task is to make the best of the life you have been given. You have to figure out how to use your life. It is yours to decide about. You obviously write well.