I was diagnosed with aspergers syndrome 3 years ago.?

Question

my problem is that i cannot communicate with people on any level, I left school early because of my illness and i have no education because of it. That means it will be unlikey that i will get employment in the future. The reason i left school was because i couldnt cope with the confusion that i was going through. The worst problem i have is making friends or even saying hello to people, people seem to dislike me the second they see me. Most of the time i spend alone,i can't even communicate with my family. I know people with aspergers syndrome have the same problems as me by my case is worse. I will never have a family, children or get married or be employed and that just a few things that affect me because of my illness my question is WHY ME.

Answer 1

Perhaps you can homeschool, go to a smaller school. If you absolutely cannot go to school, you could try buying tax liens., which would at least help you pay your bills, even though you'd have to wait a while before getting the money. http://www.middleclassmillionaires.com/How_To_Buy_Tax_Liens_A_Primer.htm?gclid=CJ3k-aG4qYwCFR6AWAod0AHaRw
As for the friend issue, maybe you could find some online, maybe you could e-mail some of the users on here.
Remember, there are positive aspect about Asperger's which include loyalty, not being good at lying, being highly intelligent, and constantly questioned things.http://www.asperger.net/aapc_authors_caroline_levine_letter.htm
good at visual things, focus on a problem intensly, great memory skills, are creative, think outside of the box of the neurotypical world, and have a special interest. http://www.aspergerinfo.org/AspergersSyndromeAnEaglesEyeView.pdf
Some other things that can be nice are not giving into peer pressure, following the rules, thinking logically, and treating everyone the same despite age or status.

Answer 2

I don't know what age you are so I don't know when you left school, but I'm sorry to say that that post is kind of... ridiculous. My sister has Asperger's Syndrome, and she'd been diagnosed at 3 with autism. At school, she got support for her condition, not illness, you're not sick. I mean, you sound like you were fine until a doctor said "Yeah, looks like you have Aspergers". A lot of people react negatively to that news. But you seem well-written and intelligent. Go back to school, learn, get support and go to support groups if you can. There are people out there who keep trying to tell you what you can and cannot do with your life because of Aspergers, but really with support your opportunities are endless! And of course you can have a family! What the hell is stopping you?? With support you'll be able to talk to people you want to make friends with, and if they don';t like you, move on! I'm really shy which affects my social life, and I have few friends but I love them to bits. Aspergers Syndrome is a lifelong condition, but it's not the end of the world. All you need is support, maybe see some psychologists and speech and language therapists if you can. If your family stick by you and help you flourish, you'll be fine.

Answer 3

Because you allow it to be this way. And if you have such a hard time being around others you need to work from the inside out. Your self-esteem is suffering, it sounds like. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. What you need to do is put yourself out there in a social setting so that you can learn how to do it. Reach out to your family and tell them what's bothering you, someone will listen. My Psychologist thought that I had Asperger's.......you act as if it's a disease (no offense) Bob Dylan supposedly has it, Bill Gates, Mozart, Einstein definitely had it. They managed and are managing. If people don't like you, good for them. There are other Aspie's out there and those that "aren't" and will love you just the way you are. It's not so bad being quirky or lacking social skills. You'll be fine....

And you can always go back to school, it is never too late. Like I said, who cares what anyone thinks. I too dropped out of school and I finished. If you plan on going ahead to college go for it. Nobody is stopping you in life but you. You have to do what you like and find people with those common interests. It will all fall into place. Don't give up hope.


I also recommend reading a book called "How to be Your own Best Friend" and make sure you pick up Don Miguel Ruiz's "The Four Agreements"

Answer 4

Contact your county/local mental health agency to see what they can do about therapy, or through the Catholic church. See http://www.aspergers.com & http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/ & http://myweb.usf.edu/~begeiger (~begeiger/as-symptoms.html) Some sufferers manage to find employment, with suitable management strategies, outside of the mainstream, usually, so don't be too quick to dismiss that possibility, until you have tried long and hard, first. The question: "WHY ME?" indicates to me that you may well be feeling sorry for yourself, which will not help you. Try practising daily one of the 5 relaxation methods at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2; read that page, and note the tips at the mental-health-abc & conquering stress websites, see self esteem/confidence tips. There is no reason why you can't do some of the volunteer work from home, like writing letters, or proofreading a page daily, maybe doing something outside your home later, like helping at Meals on Wheels, or the Salvation Army, as a basis for future employment, to get you into the work habit, and add purpose, meaning, and structure to your life, as well as learning new social skills and coping techniques. These include such things as not looking at people in the eye for too long, or they will regard you as being aggressive, and asking yourself often in social situations: "How would a normal person act now?" It would also boost your self esteem, and show a potential employer that you are not only a reliable person, but have a social conscience, and you could get a good reference from your supervisor, which would be very valuable to you. Try contacting a social worker, through your local hospital, or mental health agency, since they have many ideas and contacts. It is vitally important that you actually DO what you can to help yourself. Your written expression is quite good, and a valuable asset. I am a physically disabled Asperger's sufferer, but have found that my place now is in helping people with various problems, both here and on other websites. Keep trying, and eventually you should find something suitable. Another good idea would be to start, or locate a support group for people like you, who you could not only contact by email, IM, or phone, but in person as well. Yahoo is one place to start, but there are others.