well i was dateing this guy for a year and he left me for my bestfriend amber and he didnt even tell me that it was over i walked into school and seen him and my friend amber makeingout and holding hands and i dont know how to get over him and its been a mounth and i still cry every night and every time i see them together.....so how do i get over him? and because of him i feel like i dont even want to date ever again....someone plz help me
2007-05-23 14:24:16 · 15 answers · asked by cherry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello there..now i hate reading questions from a broken hearted girl... especially early in the mornings.Breaks my heart too u know..
Ill tell u, for u to have to face your everyday life with pain and anger not only to ur ex but also ur bestfriend..id have to respect u for that..ur strong girl (stronger than u think) but i guess ur loosing grip now that u feel like exploding and eventually turning to yahoo answers for help..
Girl, id hate to tell ya the awful truth of reality in love...theres no quick way to fall out of love from ur past relationship especially if he left u first..
Only time will help .. time will kill that feeling .. but wat u can do is make the process of forgetting bit quicker..
Listen(or read i mean) ..TRY this,may help..:
1. DONT listen to sad love songs - switch ur mode of music to maybe something fast pace,upbeat.. i reckon u go find these songs by Destiny child (survivor),beyonce (irreplaceable,beautiful liar),ciara (like a boy),girlfrend (avril), peaches (boys wanna be her),katherine mcphee(over it)..
DONT listen to love songs, big no-no..ok?
2. Dont go to places u normally go with him ..at least not alone.. makesure u have at least a fren around whn u go anywhere to do with him.. but just makesure u dont go alone..
3. Find a guy fren to talk to.. to tell ur hurtful feelings and make sure his a genuine fren,preferably a guy that u have known as a fren for a long time....its different when u talk to ur girl frens and a guy fren..
4. Dont think of it as the end of ur life..
He dont treat u as ur supposed to be treated.. u deserve better..much much better...ur young, beautiful heart and angel soul.. there is no problem for u watsoever in the future-u can get someone much-much better than him..owh god, how lame is that - goin for ur bestfren.. wat a loser..
5. And u know wat, as for ur bestfren - u should actually thank her...why?
For 1, if its not because of her , u wouldnt know that ur boyfren was a manipulative double-crossing lover... its better u know it now then he cheats behind ur back and laugh at u and even worst if u were cheated after 5 years together.. .. right?
And u know wat , shes number two..choice number two and will always be number two.. Uve had him,
tried him for a year... so be it.. u can tell wat kinda women she is, i mean.. she can just settle with used goods? and plus she's choice number two for him.. ur better off without him n her.. think about it that way..
6. Dont have to think of getting someone new or watever.. u just take steps everyday .. avoid wat u need to..
do wat u have to.. (good things ya)..leave those two good for nothings.. go out a little..stop soaking..stop lying in bed reminicsing
And believe this.. KARMA..
"What goes around,comes back around.."
Believe me, it really does..they will get wat they deserve..
takecare ait..
ciao
2007-05-23 15:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by kim_stolz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 17:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie I wish that you could believe me when I say this will pass one day and you will be no different than the other millions of young ones that have been heart broken. Esp in your school ages you will go through these more than you want to, trust me. But for you to believe me then you would have to have been through those years to see what I do. My granny used to comfort me when thse thigs happend and told me the same thing. One thing she always said was that there are more fish in the sea, and some may have better TAILS than he did. There is a right fish for you so find him and don't be scared, love and dating is blind and you run into some losers before you find the winner. Now as for your best friend as you call her, forget about her with FRIENDS like that you don't need enemies. SHE IS NOT A FRIEND!!! There was something that my mom told me as well about the crying.....don't let them see that they have you down hun. SMILE NOW, CRY LATER!! If he knows or atleast thinks he didn't hurt you it won't be as much fun being with Amber. Also try just writing, write random things about the situation until you get mad about them instead of hurt, put real feelings on paper, get mad about it, it's ok. Keep your head up sweetie and know like I said that there re wayyyyy more guys then him, that will TRUELY deserve you!!!!
2007-05-23 14:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by sapphiresc3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there girl!
Im so sorry that you have to go through this seriously. That guy obviously hurt you so much that your going to bed crying your eyes out till it hurts.
I have no idea why he would turn on you like this but he did and it hurts like crap i know. What you can do now is only take this time to realize that he never deserved your love!! Never be scared of love, just be careful who you give it to and when your opening your heart out. After a year and he gets with your best friend amber!! STUFF THAT SERiousLy!!
Your so much worth that her friendship and him. Cuz if she was a friend she wouldn't even think twice about geting with your ex.
Secondly don't use the term "my Ex" ! he's nothing and that's the only way you can move on!! He's nothing of you and the only way you can move is maybe change to a diffrent school, get rid of all the pictures of him and her. Move on seriously don't think about this twice cuz i hate to see you crying every nite and day about him!!....
If you need someone to talk to just add me ok.!
Kind regards and in the end you will find your knight in silver armor!! stuff him!!
2007-05-23 14:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let it get to you...think about all that you got out of that relationship, a couple converstions, a couple phone calls, a couple kisses every now and then, i mean, just think about the next guy and how he will do 41815015406x better then that last jerk off...take it from me i know where you stand...he was a jerk, just make a list of your perfect guy and if your ex dosent qualify then whats the use of him...does that help somewhat? if you need a lil more...just ask...
2007-05-23 14:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't be with her any longer before he finds fresh grass! "The grass is greener on the other side of the fence," you know! Actually, it's only artificial grass! Forget about him and don't worry about dating anyone. just be friendly to everyone and take a break from dating for a while....
2007-05-23 14:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....letz deal wit dis 2gether lol im ging throu that same stage....... i luved my ex soooooooo much but since all unsteady relationships end..... well it happens. So all im telling u is 2 NOT GET ANOTHER BOYFRIEND Any time soon because u might feel like your using him- and that might lead 2 more problemz trust me- i kno!!!!!!!!! how about u try 2 have distractions like hang out with your friends more.... u kno......... girlz night! that way youll feel better
2007-05-23 14:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by .NeNi™ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't speak to him or see him for 60 days. And keep yourself busy with anything but him. DON'T think, write, or talk about him. TRUST ME i just went thru this last month. (7 year relationship)
2007-05-23 14:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Niki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol time table dates! i'm completely extreme. like set up dates with each and every guy that asks you out and settle on later in case you enjoyed any of them. it will save issues under administration, and not finished chaos
2016-10-13 06:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL i HOPE U DNT TALK TO UR "FRiEND" NO MORE CUZ iF THAT WAS ME i WOULD KiCKED HER AZZ BUT N E WAYZ..i THiNK U SHOULD TRY UR BEST TO STOP THiNKiN ABOUT HiM N START THiNKiN ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE U COULD GO OUT WiTH...N MAYB GOiN OUT WiTH SOMEONE ELSE WOULD HELP U GET OVER HiM..
2007-05-23 14:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋