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My wife and i have 3 girls, Parker who is 4 and Taylor & Jordan who are 2ms. I am an only child and so was my father, leaving me to be the last male Rizzionni. I feel obligated as a father to have a son to carry on the name and my wife and i constantly get the comment, "So when are the two of you going to pop out a boy?" Like the three girls we have are nothing. We usually ignor eit, but has anyone else's husband or yourself go through something like this or get this comment? I would love to have a Vin Jr. running around the house but theres still always that chance we end up having a 4th girl...way too many females in my book.

Answer 1

I went through the same thing with my mother in law. My husband is the only one left to carry on the name and with my first pregnancy they always wanted a boy and well I got my beautiful little girl. My mother in law never cared too much about my daughter and always asked me when I was going to have a boy like if I was some kind of magician and had the power to make myself have a boy. Well one day I got fed up of her always asking me about a grandson so I went out and bought a male turtle. I had it in a box and I went to her and told her that I had great news for her. I told her that she was finally getting her grandson and she got so happy because she said that she didn't even know I was pregnant. (I wasn't) Anyway, I handed her the box and in it was the turtle. I told her that we adopted the turtle and that was her grandson. She got so mad but she never bugged me about it again!!! You should've seen the look on her face. But hey it got her to shut up. Anyway, now I'm pregnant with a boy and well she's happy but doesn't make a big deal out of it!!

Answer 2

We use to get this comment ALL the time (except about having a girl) up until about a month or so ago when i found out that i was pregnant with a little girl. I have 3 boys that are 9, 7 and 3. I love them all to death and having sons is wonderful, but i always longed for a little girl. My brother has a son and my husband's brothers have girls but they're all in their late teens, early twenties now. Both sides of the family wanted a new baby girl and turned to us to bring one, like all we had to do was push the Boy or Girl button on a machine and magically one would appear. We both came to turns though that we wanted to try for another baby, preferably a girl, but for US, not the family. Of course there is no magic button to choose the sex of your child and (theres a whole bunch of methods that frankly i don't believe work) we would be happy with either a boy or a girl. You get whatcha get, I tell my boys that all the time. We were blessed with a girl and the whole family is very excited.
You have a great last name, but i would make that the motivator to try for another baby. The ONLY reason for you and your wife to try again is if the two of you want another child. Not because the family wants it, not because you want someone to carry a family name, but because you would like to raise another child. Maybe one of your girls will carry on the name. I would! =]
Best wishes and good luck!
btw i LOVE your daughters' names.

Answer 3

First, to luisa_mapacha, the names Taylor and Jordan are acceptable for a girl as well as a boy. Don't know about Parker, though, I'll have to check.

But enough about baby names. Vin, if you already have 3 girls and you try again for another baby, chances are it will be a girl, and you will continue to have girls every time. Perhaps your wife has something in her developmental system that kills of the Y chromosome in gender determination, despite the fact that the father is the one who determines the gender of the child. I've listened to my friend say that in determining her inability to have a boy, as she has two daughters, is one of three sisters, her older sister has two daughters of her own, and her mother is also one of three sisters. Something like this is bound to happen in familial generations of women.

It's too bad your parents were phyiscally or financially unable to have another child, though. It can be heartbreaking to not be able to carry on the family name. But think of it this way, more and more women are opting to keep their maiden names when they get married. So you might not have anything to worry about.

Answer 4

I remember almost 22 years ago my husband and i decided we would start trying for a baby. Well, i called it trying for a baby. My husband called it "having a son." All that man wanted was a boy. Someone to play sports with, do "manly activities" and bond. Needless to say, that "son" was my daughter Jackie, and 4 more daughters followed her, each one labeled by my husband as "the son". We never found out the sex of the baby while we were pregnant so it was a surprise each time. Our daughter would be born and he'd be excited, kiss me and go "next one will be the boy." Ugh.
We use to get that comment all the time about having a boy. I wanted a large family and quite honestly, i really didn't want a son. I grew up in a house full of them and having 5 girls was fine with me. Whenever we got that comment i'd say "When are YOU going to pop one out?" I tried that ignoring things and the "mean glare" but the family didn't get it. Finally one day i just snapped and screamed "Why don't you "pop" one out!"
As much as my husband longed for a son, he's happy with his 5 daughters. Two of them LOVE football, one of them loves fishing, 3 of them like this, all of them like that. For every activity he enjoys he's got at least one of our daughters tagging along. He always says he's got the best of both worlds.
Our daughters are now almost 21, 18, 17, 15 and 12. They're a lot of work as I'm sure youre three are, moody sometimes, break down over nothing, scream at boys...haha. But then there are the graduation moments and seeing them grow up into young ladies and get all dressed up. If you want to go for #4, then go ahead, but do it for yourself and your wife and for the want to have a child, not just a son.
Good luck!

Answer 5

YES my inlaws say it all the time....like my girls don't make my family complete because they don't have a penis...I get so irriatated. I just blow it off as well because I was hoping my second would be a girl anyway...not that I would not love to have a boy. When someone would say to me oh another girl are you going to try for a boy still....uh no...you don't try for anything you try for a baby and god willing its healthy. Like you my husband would love a little boy ....but I think he wants to be done with the 2 we have. Anyway ...this is such a touchy subject with me...i hate that comment and I get it all the time from my father in law.....my husbands brother has 2 boys and once my father in laws said how nice it was that our family was growing blah blah blah and actually said to me..having some problems over here butmaybe the next one will be a boy...now you know how protective mothers can be...it took everything me not to explode...but i keep telling myself it does not matter what others think. Sisters are awesome and they will be so close...I have a sister and I always had someone to turn too...and it probably kept me out of trouble to some extent getting advice from someone I knew would not steer me wrong...

sorry to ramble..
Enjoy your Girls.

Answer 6

My dad is the proud papa of 3 girls and the guys at work razzed him like nobody's business. Luckily for my dad I played soccer and baseball (w/the boys), 1 sister played soccer and softball and the other played soccer and golfed so my dad always said he had the best of both worlds. Little girls who adored him and tomboys who played sports. That was until we hit puberty...poor man lived in a house with 4 women, 2 female dogs and 1 lone male dog.

He was thrilled when my first child was a boy!

Enjoy them. The guy that lives across the street from me has 4 girls.

Answer 7

I have seen a lot of that, but I also see that for friends who have only boys, everyone asks with an almost dreamy look in their eyes "so when is a little girl going to come?"

I think its just everyones internal desire to have experience with both a son and daughter. Or the interest in how a baby of a different sex in a family of all one or the other will effect you.

Just my opinion.

Answer 8

Yes here is my story my husbands family his moms and dads side have nothing but boys he only has 3 girls on eather side. And I am now 17 weeks pregnant and everyone wants me to have a boy. Why to carry on the name. Its so stupied I feel really bad for you that your girls get pushed aside like that. I know how you must feel but maybe you and your wife are just girl makers lol. Well good luck.

Answer 9

If you don't feel like raising another child, don't do it. It may be a girl or a boy. Who knows. But go with your instincts and don't take what people say about your children to heart. You love the ones you have. People throw at me that I haven't had any kids yet all the time.. and I just try not to let it get to me.

Answer 10

Next time someone asks when the boy is coming either come back with a smart remark like saying 'We're saving him for number ten' and if they're smart they'll get the idea that you're being sarcastic.

Another idea is to ask them in a very serious as well as slightly hurt way if they have something against the girls. They’ll get the idea that you love your daughters and don’t like people down playing them like that.