I ejaculate in like a minute or two whenever we have sex, leaving her unsatisfied, so she wants to leave. She's my first and we've only had sex like 5 times, in which times i always come like 4 times before she comes once. She frustrated and wants to leave. What do i do to sexually satisfy her and make her stay.
2007-05-23 14:03:18 · 11 answers · asked by Kiddo C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are actually several different exercises that you can do to last longer when having sex. First I would say that if your young, and its your first time having sex, eventually you will get more use to the feeling and be able to gain more control and last longer. The most used technique is called the 'start and stop' method. Basically you get an erection and just stop doing anything. Once you start to lose your erection you stimulate yourself again. This gets you more used to the feeling of maintaining an erection. You can also start to masturbate and when you feel as though your going to ejaculate, you squeeze the tip so as not to allow any 'fluids' from escaping. Leave it alone for a little bit, then start back up. Eventually you'll gain control of that feeling and be able to control it more. If you have a willing partner I'd try the start and stop technique with her, where you insert your penis into her, and get use to the feeling of being in her vagina more.
For a short fix with little work on your part (the other methods are designed to take awhile, but they help in the long run) Id suggest using climax control condoms. They have a special lubricant that actually numbs the penis a bit so it takes longer to climax for the male. I believe Trojan sells them, but there a little expensive.
Hope that helps.
2007-05-23 14:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by JJ F 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are so many things you can do. Try taking a tantra class together. I have gone through the same thing with someone I dated, and sometimes toys help. There is also a condom that has something in it to make the erection last longer. I would say take your time with foreplay with her and take things slow. Do some internet research on tantra as I have been told it helps.
2007-05-24 02:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by mypromisedlv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women can't orgasm just from intercourse. You need to make sure to have plenty of foreplay before sex to make it easier for her to get off. Oral sex is usually your best bet. Have her tell you what she likes. And if you just started having sex you should realize that it will take you a while to get in synch with each other and really know what satisfies you in bed- so don't worry about it too much.
2007-05-23 14:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are other ways to satisfy her... first thing is to remember foreplay is imp. to women. Spend time on her and enjoy her body before the actual act. Maybe you can make her orgasm then? Stimulate her cl*t, play with her body.
Even when you go on to the act itself, there are ways to continue to give her pleasure. And after you're done, linger and continue to satisfy her...
She'll thank you for the attention you're giving her.
Hope this helps!
2007-05-23 14:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she seems completely selfish... this isnt something that you should be worried about alone. she would be working with you and figuring out what works best for the both of you.
try a lot of foreplay... try to get her to orgasm before you have sex. while you are having sex... this may sounds weird... but think about something else... a mark on the wall, anything except the sensation.
good luck
2007-05-23 14:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by avita81 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, that is when you perform oral sex on her for a while until she is satisfied and then, you have sex so, if you finish quick, you have already satisfied her.
2007-05-23 14:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lindy Vansaghi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
spend more time arousing her and dare i say dont stop --- just because you are "finished" does not mean you cant keep going and the second time will be MUCH better for both of you --- if this does not succeed there are desensitising creams available --- just be considerate of her needs and enjoy --- perhaps oral as well (for her not you)
2007-05-23 14:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
practice to go slow and when you are close to climaxing try to hold it back and thinking about something not that sexy - like tantra. dont go just for the prize - enjoy getting there.
you can try doing it when you masturbate - try holding back and makeing the process longer.
2007-05-23 17:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Natalie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not to be blunt you need to go down on her. It will help her get to a point that will help her come during actually intercousre
2007-05-23 14:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by hotmomma4 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's a tough one if she doesn't like you for who your are then she isn't it.
2007-05-23 14:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋