By successful I mean, did you come away from it feeling good about yourself? Did it result in true passion or true love? What made it successful?
2007-05-23 13:48:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not with an younger man, an older man.....passion and love
2007-05-23 13:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by wolfkiss 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can emotionally detach from this woman enough to be able to just have a sexual relationship with her, then you are more emotionally evolved than the rest of us and I'm happy for you. If this is the case, just tell her that you intend to start dating. That way, she knows that you aren't just waiting in the wings for her to leave her husband. Given her situation, she has no right to protest this decision. If she cares for you, she will understand your pain and not stop you from dating others. If she was just using you as that security blanket, she may get mad and leave. But at least you will know. And at least that weight you've been carrying around will be gone and you can go find an available woman. Be cautious though. Make sure you are not fooling yourself into thinking that you are just staying for the sex - when you're really trying to hold on and not admitting it to yourself. Stop asking what she wants. She is not the only one who can decide the fate of your relationship. Decide what you want. And if what you want is not possible right now in this relationship, go find another one. If you wait, the pain you feel right now will only get worse. Or you will stay with her until you hate her for the pain she has caused you. Accept what she has to offer right now or walk away. Believe me, you'll feel better once you take back control of your situation. Good luck.
2016-05-21 03:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it was worth it because it boosted my self esteem which was at an all time low at the time (ex husband was physically and emotionally abusive). Both of us knew it was strictly for fun, so neither of us allowed anything more than that to happen - which to me is what made it a success. The ego boost encouraged me to leave my joke of a marriage. I found out later that the young man (he was 20) was a virgin when I met him!
2007-05-23 14:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a younger guy married to the older gal I had an affair with.
She rocks my world.
Thank Xenu for mature ladies!
2007-05-23 13:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Smug Monkey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt there is any success in affairs, short of satisfying your lust as a trade off for surrendering your integerity. I guess if you never had it to start with there is no loss :)
2007-05-23 13:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope! Never had an extramarital affair. Don't want one.
2007-05-23 13:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never.
2007-05-23 13:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by Queenie knows it all. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nope i always go older
2007-05-23 13:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
probably not a good idea
2007-05-23 13:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by leena 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What on Earth!??!
2007-05-23 13:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by Cutiepieraypec 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋