im interested in losing my virginaty to my boyrfriend of 3 months. i really love him and he loves me. im just sooo scared of the pain that comes along with it and whats going to be going on and stuff since im VERY self concious. :\
2007-05-23 13:42:07 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
mk so yes i respect all of you guys' opinions. im not 100% ready to have sex because yes age factor is VERY important. i have known this guy for about 3 years but we recently started dating. [ps im very bad at spelling so spell check virginity*] im not self conscious around him he makes me feel like im perfect and that i have nothign to worry about. but i do understand where youre coming from. im not sure if i want to say im waiting till after marriage to lose my virginaty because i dont want to set myself up for something i dont think i can do. and im not quite sure i want to do. please dont get me wrong im not a slut, im just interested in exploring sex and im sure its not as great as its made out to be, but i want to learn for myself ya know?
2007-05-23 13:55:22 · update #1
hehe like the others ive answered ill say the same sex is a normal thing nothing to be scafred of nothing to think of the pain feels good when it happens and no im no sick person and if you been with him 3 months wait till like 4 to know him more and if you know him enough then i say do it.
2007-05-23 13:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by HeadShrink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you don't state your age, but I sense that you're very young. Three months isn't a very long time for a relationship, either. Please rethink it, and don't do it if you have any doubts or concerns. Better yet, try to wait until you're married.
If however, you insist on going through with it, then at least educate yourself, go to an ob-gyn, learn about the process and the pain, get some type of protection, and prepare yourself for the possibility of disease and pregnancy.
If you aren't emotionally ready for all this, just wait. If he loves you now, he'll love you a year from now, when your relationship is stronger, on solid ground, and you'll be a little older, wiser, smarter, and educated.
2007-05-23 20:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I wouldn't give it up to someone you've only known for three months and I definetly wouldn't give it up when you can't even spell virginity correctly. This is something you will never get back, it's a once in a lifetime event so you'd better make sure you're good and ready and remember that it's hard to go back. If you're not sure then that's your answer, you aren't ready yet, give it time, you'll know when it's right.
2007-05-23 20:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by Icarus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are absolutely sure that you are ready, then make sure there's a lot of foreplay. The more turned on (and wet) you are, the less it's going to hurt. It's going to hurt to some degree, but there are worse things. As for being self-concious, EVERY girl is. Good luck.
2007-05-23 20:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age, or just how serious you are with this guy. I hope that you really DO love him and are ready for sex. Have you two really talked this over? Please do before you make love for the first time. Make sure that you are both ready and that you can both handle the responsibility. Don't be self-conscious, I'm sure he's very much attracted to your body.
2007-05-23 20:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months is not nearly long enough to give up your virginity to someone. But thats my opinion.
If you are sure you are going to go thru with it though, make sure you use protection, and lubrication (astroglide). And yes it will hurt, and probably bleed. Make sure you take your time and that he respects your wishes and if you ask for him to stop, he does.
Shima
2007-05-23 20:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by hiroshima23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are that concerned you are not emotionally ready im sorry to say all of your concerns are valid they just dont apply usually with a considerate partner where you both take the time to enjoy what is happening --- if you do decide to take the plunge ALWAYS use protection go somewhere safe and comfortable --- best wishes
2007-05-23 20:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not mature enough to be thinking about doing this, having sex is a big deal and not something to be taken lightly. if he loves you, he will wait and if you have any self respect you will wait until you are old enough to manage the consequences of such an action
2007-05-23 20:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by k p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as long as you're in love...go for it, but you have to be aware of the positive and negative consequences. Yeah, age might be a factor but as long as you really wan to do it, go for it. Just do one thing for me, THINK ABOUT IT FIRST! think of everything you might lose or gain if you do it. Good luck!
2007-05-23 22:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by lialove_18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u should.....considering 3 months isn't a very long time and just because u love him doesnt mean u have to give up ur virginity.....and just because he loves u doesnt mean he wont lose interest in u a few months after
2007-05-23 20:46:47 · answer #10 · answered by Moo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋