What is love to you?
For me "Love is patient, Love is kind,....."
Can love ever be called love if it is filled with bitterness or insults?
2007-05-23 13:33:02 · 26 answers · asked by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Love(Agape Love) is seeking and striving for the other persons highest and greatest GOOD. Amen!!
1 John 4:8 - He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.
1 John 4:16 - And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.
1 John 4
1 Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world. 2 Hereby know ye the Spirit of God: Every spirit that confesseth that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is of God: 3 And every spirit that confesseth not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is not of God: and this is that spirit of antichrist, whereof ye have heard that it should come; and even now already is it in the world. 4 Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world. 5 They are of the world: therefore speak they of the world, and the world heareth them. 6 We are of God: he that knoweth God heareth us; he that is not of God heareth not us. Hereby know we the spirit of truth, and the spirit of error. 7 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. 8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. 9 In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him. 10 Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. 11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another. 12 No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God dwelleth in us, and his love is perfected in us. 13 Hereby know we that we dwell in him, and he in us, because he hath given us of his Spirit. 14 And we have seen and do testify that the Father sent the Son to be the Saviour of the world. 15 Whosoever shall confess that Jesus is the Son of God, God dwelleth in him, and he in God. 16 And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him. 17 Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world. 18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. 19 We love him, because he first loved us. 20 If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? 21 And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth God love his brother also.
2007-05-24 10:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Truth is of two kinds.1.Paramarthika sathyam(Eternal truth) 2.Vyavaharika sathyam(truth pertaining to the world). Eternal Truth is One, changeless, It is common for the entire Cosmos.It doesn't undergo any variations. It alone exists. In fact, from the Eternal Truth only, the Cosmos originated, sustained and merge in it. In the context of wordily existence, truth is what one observe is expressed as it is without any modifications. In the worldly Truth also we have to utter that truth which doesn't hurt other(Sathyam Bruyat, Priyam bruyat, Na Bruyat Sathyam apriyam) An interesting anecdote. A hunter was chasing a deer. A saint was doing meditation. The deer passed in front of the saint and hid himself behind a bush nearby. However the saint noticed the deer hiding. The hunter came there, asked the saint, whether he has noticed the deer that was passing by. The saint was very clever. If he utters the Truth, the deer will get killed by the hunter. If he says 'no' he will incur the sin of uttering a lie. He was in a fix. Thinking God, he told the hunter that the eye that see can not speak, The tongue that speak do not see. Thus he escaped from both the sins. He has not uttered a lie. He has saved the Deer.
2016-05-21 03:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by marylee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the truth hurts. You have to be sensitive to that fact, and while you don't change what the truth is, you pick your moment, you speak it with a kind attitude ("love is kind"). And no, bitterness and insults do not represent love at all. Bitter words come from bitter people - who would probably need to hear a few truths spoken in love themselves.
Remember: people who have been hurt often hurt others.
If you are looking for love here on YA, you will sometimes find it. But too often you find people who just want to put clever answers, and don't care how they say it. Their purpose is not necessarily to "speak the truth in love".
2007-05-23 13:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Love to me is an emotion that lies within the spirit, not the heart. True love never dies, the heart however does. A persons spirit just grows stronger with time, just as love do. Love is forever growing when its real. Love cannot be filled with bitterness or insults, its filled with adoration, honesty and faith. When those things are present then you know its real love.
2007-05-23 13:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Can love ever be called love if it is filled with bitterness or insults?"
Bitterness? No! Insults? Well, I guess it depends upon whether or not they have a redemptive purpose in speaking the truth plainly to someone instead of beating around the bush.
Matthew 23:29 "Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you build the tombs of the prophets and decorate the monuments of the righteous, 30 saying, 'If we had lived in the days of our fathers, we would not have taken part with them in shedding the blood of the prophets.' 31 Thus you witness against yourselves that you are sons of those who murdered the prophets. 32 Fill up, then, the measure of your fathers. 33 You serpents, you brood of vipers, how are you to escape being sentenced to hell?
2007-05-23 13:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by Martin S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak the truth in love means- that you should love the person enough to be honest. Sometimes TRUTH hurts, most people don't like being corrected and what not, so they take what you say as insulting when it reality it's just the truth and best for them to KNOW so they can correct it.
2007-05-23 13:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by ™Tootsie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means Love is truth, but truth is not always love. I believe love is a universal law and everything positive/loving is a derivative of this universal law. How can truth not be loving? If it is said with bitterness, for spite, or insults (as you state above).
Peace, Love, and Blessings
Greenwood
2007-05-23 14:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by Greenwood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is Mother's love and right now I love one of my sons because he is my son, but I'm so disappointed in his behavior toward me I can't see straight. I have let the frustration build up far too long and then when I say something about what's been eating me up it comes out in an abusive tone. I know better, but sometimes you can only take so much. I know I would be much more effective if I would speak matter of factly at the moment the issue came up. My therapist says I have to say that kind of behavior in my house has to stop and then I have to come up with a consequence that I won't give in on. We all deserve to be treated with respect, whether giving or receiving. I used to be holier than thou, too, and sucked things up but some things happen to you that you just can't believe and you get to the point you can't take it any more.
2007-05-23 13:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have "nice" things to say to people but sometimes we have to confront them. It is during those times it is important to convey what you have to say (even though it may be negative) in a loving way. Confrontation doesn't have to equate bitterness and hate.
Jesus had righetous anger at times. Those times when being angry is just and right. It is the words and attitude we use during those times that are so critical and could make or break the statement "Speak the truth in love" :)
2007-05-23 13:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by Kaliko 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can you claim to love at all, if you are dishonest? true love is all those things that you say, but to love someone is to tell them the truth. i'm not sure where you get the "bitterness" or "insults" in conjunction with speaking the truth in love. they are exclusive terms. of course, if you are overly sensitive, rebellious or refuse to hear the truth about yourself, then anything that even remotely goes against your personal views may be construed as being mean-spirited.
2007-05-23 13:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by chieko 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Speak the truth in love"
Telling the truth in a way that can be understood. A parent who see's a child reaching for the hot range top may have to "YELL" to stop the child. The yell isn't to scold the child but rather to protect the child. As the person takes their 'baby-steps' then you can reveal more to them. So, a child may need to feel heat (without getting burnt) to learn that the stove top is hot. Eventually, with patience and experience the child will be able to use the stove to cook a dinner and then to serve others.
2007-05-23 13:43:43 · answer #11 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋