so.. my boyfriend and i really like eachother and we wanna get married when we're done with school and im completly in love with him and i know he is with me.
the think is.. i know he wants to have sex and ive told him no because i knew what could happen and hes ok and completly supportive of it. well now i really want .. its nothing to do with pressure i just really feel ready to do this with him and i love him and he loves me.
but i dont know because i know itll be great on my wedding night and sometimes i just wanna be that good cristian girl who waits for her fairy tail wedding .. does that even happen anymore? so should i follow my little fantasy and wait or should i go with how i feel now?
2007-05-23 12:39:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not a fantasy. If those are your beliefs you will feel better sticking to them. If he really loves you, he will wait.
2007-05-23 12:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by wyldflower 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will assume that "done with school" is to mean high school. I will answer using this theory. There are many stats proving what can be bad about getting married at an early age. There are also many stats concerning having sex because you are emotionally in love. Without protection there is a 23% change you will be with child. These are not good odds considering it will destroy both of your lives in the future.
As people age they choose different paths in life. There is a good chance that these paths will separate by a great distance. I does sound rough but I would suggest waiting for the marriage. If you agree with sex then protection is a must or you will spend some time coming up with a name.
2007-05-23 12:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Natural Medicine Man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If waiting till your wedding nite means so mcuh to you, then wait, but the first time you have sex is normally painful and slightly uncomfortable and hardly ever enjoyable. My opinion is to get to know eachother sexually before you get married, because sex is diffrent to many people and you guys might not have the same opinions or desires and it's nice to enjoy your wedding nite in pleasure not in pain, plus there's alot of sexual weirdos out there so take time to get to know eachother, better know than divorce later, all this applies if you're 18 or over, if not both are too young to even understand sex.
2007-05-23 12:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first time having sex isn't all it's cracked up to be. Also, what if you find out he sucks in the sack on your wedding night? You're stuck. If you feel you're ready, then you're ready. I definitely wouldn't wait until my wedding night because as special as you want it to be, it hurts and is really weird and uncomfortable the first and second and kinda the third time round. Start doing it now so by the time your wedding night comes, you two will have your own groove and you can make it special
2007-05-23 12:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~Sweet Turtle Luver~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how long before you get married?
he really wants what he cant have and its driving him crazy. there are lots of things you can do without doing the act of love making. sometimes cuddling is just as cool as the act itself. but by no means think that you have to have sex to validate your feelings. you sound absolutely like an angel and he would be foolish not to wait. never compromise your virtues. stay strong and enjoy your wedding night. the best things in life are worth waiting for.
2007-05-23 12:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by wee willie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that you should try it before you buy it. People always say that it doesn't matter much but
Sex is a very important part of a relationship... but don't do anything your going to regret. If you two are truely in love that night after your wedding will be just as special as your fist time... good luck and here too a wonderful marrage!
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2015-02-04 10:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with your morals....don't give in to your fantasy. It will be so worth the wait if you don't have sex until your wedding night. The Bible instructs us to wait until we are married to have sex. Plus, there are so many bad consequences that can come about because of premarital sex. I say wait until you are married!!
2007-05-23 12:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by Karen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your fairy tale is fabulous, i pray that my daughter will have that exact dream. if you feel that you are ready then so be it. however, waiting could be very special, how do you think that you will feel on your wedding night if you have already had sex? that's what you should think about and the fact that you are a christian tells me that you should pray about it as well. your heart will let you know!!! honestly.....i wish that i would have waited!!
2007-05-23 12:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have sex now, make sure you are ready. If not, then wait for your wedding or when you are ready.
2007-05-23 12:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋