My husband is coming home from a long deployment... I want to do something romantic for him AT HOME to show him how much I love him, how much I've missed him, and how proud of him I am. If you could choose what a woman would do for YOUR homecoming, what would it be? I need suggestions.
2007-05-23 12:18:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Oh, and he ISNT in Iraq... He's on an aircraft carrier in the Gulf... he wont be traumatized from what he has seen. He's ready for ANYTHING I throw at him! Tee Hee**
2007-05-23 12:34:42 · update #1
Pick him up wearing something sexy -- but softly sexy. After my first deployment my wife, who has a great figure picked me up in a semi-sheer white sun dress, heels and nothing on underneath. and we never made it home before.... you know. That was back in the mid-80s and I still remember it quite well. When we resumed our normal duty the other guys in my unit even commented about how great she looked when we returned. They said "She came to tease you, but we all noticed too."
Then big dinner. Yes, steak would be awesome. Beer if he's a beer drinker -- but if he really likes wine or champagne go with that.
Then AFTER dinner, the long, slow, candles, romantic session... the first "encounter" will be too fast for all that.
2007-05-23 13:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When i got back I truly just needed some downtime and understanding that I didn't want to talk all the time about what I went through. Just walking around town without feeling you have to be alert all the time or the knowledge you will be in a firefight more than likely is a strange feeling to come back to. I think the feeling of loved ones around and that you are excited he is back will be the best present you can give him...although like you said...it may be different being on a carrier. The answer from the other carrier person is probably the one to go with.
2007-05-23 13:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by sketch_mylife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will answer your question as a Man that has been over there three times....PACE....go very slowly....he is coming from a very intense very laborious place...let him have a few weeks to calm down get back into a routine....
The reason I am saying this is because I would hate for you to go through all the trouble and effort of making something very romantic when his Primal Instincts are still very keen and the whole romance of the situation would go right by him and he would be oblivious to the whole thing and the expectations you would have for such an encounter would hurt your feelings...
Give him a HUGE hug and kiss take him by the hand look him in the eye with your best smile and say Welcome Home I Love You and have Missed you so much...then sit back a little and let him take things at his own pace..after a few weeks when you notice he is "back" then plan it and you will have a better more relaxed romantic intimate time....best of luck and I truly hope this answer helps you I would invite you to ask some other Military Wives they may or may not agree but they damn sure will share their experiences with you....be well and congrats on your husband surviving and making it home...HOOAH
2007-05-23 12:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by Lance 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Having come off of 6 different West-Pac cruises, and the following was the best:
Met at the NAS North Island pier, she was wearing a very nice dress and a big smile... I learned in the car that there was NOTHING under the dress. She then directed me to the Hotel Del Coronado rather than the extra 10 miles home.
She'd rented a suite, and had room-service deliver beer and a HUGE Rib-eye, fresh salad, and baked potato. We got to the meal after about 30 minutes...
Oh, I then took a 30 minute HOT SHOWER, and she had my favorite robe, and tapes of some of my favorite TV shows (this is in the days before DVDs and Satellite TV on the boat).
Welcome home to your Husband and all of his shipmates
2007-05-23 13:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by mariner31 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. Romance and sex are wonderful but family is better(IMO.) He has spent a long time away it helps seeing his family will remind him of what he is over there for. Have a nice homecoming with the kids. But have a sitter for the night. Whatever you do don't invite others over at all. my wife made the mistake of loaning our second vehicle to some friends who were picking up someone off the ship as well. just when we started our adults only time they returned them. Shouted "Were gonna leave the keys on the table." and proceeded to slam the door. waking the 1yo(thus why i say get the babysitter.) Have a favorite meal planned. If you decide a hotel is in order get a room with a hot tub. Whatever you decide don't rush things it is going to take some time to get comfortable again. And when in doubt, if possible ASK HIM WHAT HE WANTS. Communication is the most important thing in a relationship anyways. Surprises are really not as important as getting back to those you care about.
2007-05-23 12:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by cutiessailor 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
me and my bro are in infantry and when we come home there's a schedule for things.
1st off it sucks when you have a week or 2 b4 leaving and we both cant stand to get dragged around the first day back. we move at our pace.
But to ur question, i just got back and the first thing i wanted was a home cooked meal and to stay home and watch TV and relax. was really nice b/c of the time difference so u have to get used to it. so i would say a nice meal and maybe a nap lol. i know it sounds lame but its a great start. then maybe the next few days he can really do some visiting with family then a few dinners at a good restaurant or bar. like me i go to buffalo wild wings lol. i hope this works.
2007-05-23 12:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by blsfan 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Romance1 is ABSOLUTELY correct. Even if his deployment was less stressful or traumatic than for others, you want to reintegrate him with his family, and you lead the way for this.
However, each man is different, and you know him better than anyone. When I came home, I just wanted to take in the atmosphere of my home and my family.
Hope this helps.
2007-05-23 12:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by Think-It-Through 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try this website. A few weeks ago, we did a welcome home on the pier for a sailor on a Destroyer. Go to the left side of the home page and click on CONTACT US. Fill it out and someone will contact you. It costs nothing to do. We do it to stand for those who have stood for us. Check out some of the pics in the PHOTO GALLERY. I hope you're in Norfolk, I'd love to do another on base welcome home!
Well, it just dawned on me, if he's not home yet, you're not in Norfolk. The Ike and her battle group just got back today, and her planes came home Monday.
(USN, retired/proud Patriot Guard Rider).
2007-05-23 14:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my roomate was in iraq for 16 months, he says sex, lots and lots of sex, it will be the greatest ever, lots of unused testosterone. keep communications open, because he will probably come back a different person, it is a culture shock for the returning soldier, so help him to ease back into life in the states, stand by him no matter what.
2007-05-23 12:27:28 · answer #9 · answered by alex l 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just have Steak and a Bl*wjob Day (Usually March 20th) early!
Cook him a big, thick Rib-eye Steak...and when he’s done give him a bl*wjob that would make Jenna Jameson stand at attention and salute you
2007-05-23 12:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by ganjaman415 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋