I went on multiple dates with a male. We are not official. We flirt. I tell him I like him first. We continue on dates. We get close, nearly did the dirty (BUT WE NEVER ACTUALLY HAD SEX). But he stopped as he knows I didnt want to rush things. I ask himif we are official. He says he doesnt want a girlfriend because he wants to have some more fun and didnt want to hurt me. But that I was a cool chick to have around. I agree. Then I offer myself up to be friends with benefits, he said no. He wanted to maintain our relationship as JUST friends as FWB will complicate things.
So i take it that he isnt interested in me and cease communication of ALL FORMS. BUT then after THREE DAYS he texts to check on me. He still texts and calls me to check if I was okay. I have been replying but keeping the converstaions under 2 minutes. or 2 texts. We still talk the same way, positive and flirty.
I AM CONFUSED. I think he still wants a friendship. BUT DOES HE LIKE ME AT ALL? Please EXPLAIN. PLEASE
2007-05-23 11:29:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know he has commitment issues. But why keep trying to be friends?
What is going on? Is he still attracted?
2007-05-23 11:29:44 · update #1
girlfriend I am afraid that he is just playing with your heart watch yourself!
2007-05-23 17:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to make you into his fall-back girl. He wants to go out and date other girls and have a good time, but when he's ready for a girlfriend he wants you to be there. By "checking in" every few days he is not only maintaining the lines of communication, but also checking on you relationship status and ensuring that you don't forget about him. It's kind of a jerk move, actually, but that's guys for you.
Keep doing what you're doing - short convos now and then, keeping it casual. Go out and date other people and have fun. If he comes back and wants to be with you, you can decide then if you want to give him another chance.
2007-05-23 18:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by eileezy2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just be friends? If he doen't want the benefits, so what you have someone you can trust and talk when you need to. Unless you don't want to be friends then just tell him. He likes you like a sister, not a girlfriend.
2007-05-23 18:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by cyran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, some ppl dont really like 2 get into relationships like that. maybe he doesnt wanna get in it wit u because he knows he has relationship problems and doesnt wanna hurt u. then gsome guys juss like flirting and not getting "serious". but at least u arent his rebound wall. he probably thinks that if u guys become a couple, it`ll juss complicate things and u wont flirt as muc. he prob thinks that it`ll get boring and he doesnt wanna ruin ur flirty freidnship. so juss keep flirting wit him. dont get bored
2007-05-23 18:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by ilovesoccer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he just wants to take things slowly, or that you may not attract him sexually, or he could be gay- who knows- if you really like him,, back off of the relationship a little.... things will come around
2007-05-23 18:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by pinkprincess051180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a typical male. He just wants sex. If you don't want to be hurt later, I would consider stopping this whole thing. Just start talking to him less.
2007-05-23 18:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by MAC Addict 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to be friends for now, doll. Just roll with it if you are interested in a relationship.
2007-05-23 18:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by DiscoBiscuit! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least he's being honest with what he wants. You need to decide if it's ok to just be friends. If you want something more meaningful, I think you need to look elsewhere.
2007-05-23 18:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by WinterBorn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has already answered your question...he said he wants to remain friends as is with no sex....so, you either accept that or leave him alone.
2007-05-23 18:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by Carmen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he is attracted to you if not move on
2007-05-23 18:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋