My family is falling apart!?

Question

Dad- looks at bad pictures on the internet
Mom- Yells at whoever gets in her way (NOT THAT TIME OF MONTH)
Me- REALLY REALLY STRESED OVER ALL THIS AND IT IS MAKING ME VERY HOSTILE AND I AM SOOO WORRIED!!

Im 11.

HELP MEEEEE

Answer 1

Oh that does not sound to bad all men look at nasty pictures just most of them do it in private and as for your mom at least you are not starving or getting beat up!

Answer 2

No your family is not falling apart - communication is a challenge for many families. Start by talking with the parent with whom you are most comfortable to respectfully discuss issues that are stressful to you. Ask if your family can plan inexpensive outings together that will be more fun to help reduce stress. i.e. picnics in the park (you plan and make the lunch - simple sandwiches & fruit are just fine), maybe a walk, bikeride, fishing, games or ? Ask your mom if there are chores around the house which she needs help with.

Don't panic, but if family discussions haven't improved the situation, confide in a trusted teacher or another relative. When I have difficult situations, I start with prayer looking for ways to change myself, first, and than try to understand why someone I love is acting in an unloveable manner. Often, things look much worse than they really are, and in faith we can all grow.
Blessings,
Grannie

Answer 3

So sorry you are having to go through this sweetie. I don't know if you feel comfortable talking to your mom, but I think if you do feel comfortable talking to her, you should. I don't think your mom is angry with you, it's probably your dad she is angry with, and that is why she is so hostile. She probably knows about the bad things he is looking at on the internet. Wait until it seems like your mom is in a relaxed mood, and then go to her ask her if you and her can have a talk. If she says yes, then just tell her how your feeling, and that you know that there is a problem, and it's scaring you. She loves you, she'll try and solve the problems that's going on. I prayed for God to help you. God bless you.

Answer 4

Hi. I come from a very stressful family situation myself. Different than yours but all the same very stressful. I have family members who are alcoholic, spendaholics, bulimic and it goes on. However, there is only one thing I can do and that is stay as healthy and as physically fit as I can and stay focused on the good things about my family. There is always a silver lining. You are the only person You can change. Just love them at a distance and get some help for yourself. Maybe your wonderful image will rub off on them. The other thing you could do was to have a family meeting if you thought and tell them you wish you could help them but you cannot and that you will just have to take care of yourself. Do you have a nice teacher that you could talk to and trust with your problems??? Keep coming back here to talk to us. Try not to worry.

Answer 5

what kind of bad pictures, sweetie?! why does your mom yell alot?! you know what it aint really your concern. i know it's hard on you but you dont have to fix thier problems your only 11! but try to get away for a while, ask can you go stay with a relative or friend cuz that's too much stress on you but you need to get away for a little bit good luck

Answer 6

Sweetheart, I only wish I knew the answer. Here's a number, it's to the Boys and Girls Town, they have a chat line that you can call and discuss this with. 1-800-448-3000
http://www.girlsandboystown.org/
Good Luck, I hope things improve for you

Answer 7

Well, I know of a plan to workout problems. it's called the minute plan. When you're parents start fighting, tell them to write down what they're mad about and think about it for a minute. Then if the problem is still worth talking about it they can discuss it for a minute then use the other minute to come up with a way to resolve it without fightin. You can also tell your parents that their behavior is hurting you.

Answer 8

Hey sweetie!
I say confront your parents your parents!
I mean i know its hard but its the least you can do or tell a teacher or relative or even a friend! It would be better than asking strangers!

Answer 9

Start a discussion next time the family is in one room.

"Mom, dad, will we be together this time next year?" might be an opener.

Answer 10

Sit your parents down and tell them you know what is going on and that you don't want to know about it. Nothing stops parents dead in their tracks like a kid telling them to grow up.