An internet friend will come to my town for a couple of days (for short weekend holiday). She said that she would love to meet me while she's here. of course i dont mind at all to see her. Yesterday she sent me a message and told me that she can't find any hotels and asked wheather they (3 people) can stay at my place instead. unfortunately - there's 2 others friends staying at my house for 10days. So I told her, i have a full house at the moment, even i gave up my bed & sleep on the sofa. With 3 others people, I don't have extra beds of even space. But she said she will bring her own sleeping bags hmmm.....(2 extra people, i have to cook extra everything on me and make some time for them to do things - sightseeing etc yes extra money)
I told her SORRY not now. The house is too full. But seems she doesn't understand that her holiday is not my holiday and i dont have any extra budget to preparing their breakfast and dinner. What I have to tell her again she still wait me to say YES...
2007-05-23 11:23:40 · 11 answers · asked by Sacha D 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
She sounds like a user - ie not very considerate of YOUR needs and feelings. Most people wouldn't make a request like that of someone whom they had never met in person. Most people, I think, would even feel guilty about asking their parents to do something like that.
However, maybe she is desperate. If you have a tent, you could set them up in the back yard. Don't try and provide food for them. Tell them straight out that they'll have to provide their own meals, because you can't do it on that short notice and are already overburdened.
I would tend to think that a real friend would be offering to bring food and cook it for you, anyway, as a fair exchange for the accomodation (and as an apology for surprising you with two of her friends)... but then, I'm Australian, and that's how we do things over here. We're not as "polite" as in some countries. Fair is fair.
2007-05-23 11:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by MumOf5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I smell trouble what that arrangement. You don't really know her enough to call her a friend. All she can possibly be is a casual acquaintance. All you know is what she has told you. And that can only be taken with a grain of salt, because she has only shown you the side of her she want seen. And you don't know those other two people at all. They sound like a group of "takers".
You aren't running a flop house, and you shouldn't be coerced into doing so. Don't let yourself be a doormat. Just tell you that you can't let her stay at your place, for the reasons you mentioned. Tell her you'd love to see her while she is in town, if you can fit it into your schedule. Maybe meet for dinner or something, but don't get more involved than that.
2007-05-23 18:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her You'd love to see her but have already invited the other guests. Say that your sorry, and you wouldn't mind feeding and boarding her for these days but the added two will make things impossible. Not to mention the potential for personality conflicts and transportation issues. Tell her that you hope that she can visit some other time and you'll understand if she can't come without her friends and leave it at that. If that ruins your frienship, it's better than three days of chaos with a result of a ruined friendhship
2007-05-23 18:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by fbarkon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said this girl would like to meet you...and stay at your house for days with 2 other people (that you've never met)? NO ABSOLUTELY NOT! You don't know these people they could steal from you or worse.I hope you are not considering it! That's dangerous. Make an excuse and tell her next time they're in town! And meet them in a crowded/safe location. Or better yet don't meet them at all!
2007-05-23 18:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
god she seems like a bug-a-boo!! you know even if you did have the room in your house i wouldnt let anyone stay there that i only know through the net with her two friends...tell her to get over it ..youre right her holiday is not your holiday and you dont have to provide lodging..if she really wants to go and meet you then she will find lodging with her friends...and meet in a mutual place...dont ever let anyone you met off the net know where you live until you get to know them in person for a while....its a scary world out there and in reality you dont know what she is like and her being persistant like this is kind of a sign...be careful hun.
2007-05-23 18:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its disrespectful of the friend to ask that of you and you really don't know the person why would you let three strangers stay in your home? I think if they cant find a hotel they should make other arrangements elsewhere.
2007-05-23 22:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by hourglass_beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm. Tell her you really can't have one more person in your house, that it's really inconvenient. Recommend her a cheap hotel or YMCA. She doesn't seem to be a very sensitive person to others comfort. On top of that having strangers in your house is really dangerous. She could be an accomplice to robbery, rape or murder. DON'T LET HER STAY WITH YOU.
2007-05-24 07:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being asked too much of, especially of a person you are meeting for the very first time.
2007-05-23 18:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Find a hotel with a vacancy and tell her about it.
2007-05-23 18:28:44 · answer #9 · answered by af 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
she's not ur friend. she's a psycho. if she's too poor to get a room, then she should't be on 'holiday.'
2007-05-23 23:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by johntbui1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋