i dont no whats wrong with me, iv always bin a strong person n never have bin scared of anything but all of a sudden i am now. i'm scared of men (yer ino n i have a bf, he's manipulative), i'm scared of being alone in quiet place if i'm out, i dont like public toilets coz i think i might get raped, n i'm scared of trusting people. y am i suddenly like this?
2007-05-23 10:35:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You are right to fear public toilets and being out alone, this is good logic.
As for your other fears You sound like you are suffering from anxiety caused by the manipulative b/f perhaps. you don't need him give him the flip and see if you feel any better if not consult your doctor.
2007-05-31 02:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to be careful, but you don't need to be that careful. Trust your instincts. If something feels wrong then it usually is. I have similar struggles, but I am a former rape victim from 2004. I have come a long ways from where I was but I still have difficulty with men being to close or the way they look at me. I was raped by a co-worker that I knew for about 2 years and I didn't see it coming and afterwards every little thing haunted me and I saw everysign when it was too late. You could possibly be holding something back that you may not realize and your mind can't figure it out. I was in repression for a year about the whole thing. Only little bits and pieces would come out, until I finally broke down on the anniversary date and I couldn't deal with it anymore. I too was a very strong willed and outgoing person and I am just getting that back now.
2007-05-30 20:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by blazergirlblazergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite understand "(yer ino n i have a bf, he's manipulative)". All that I know, is that you can be the most happy, self assured, strong person in the world, but once you get yourself into a relationship with a manipulative person, you eventually change...and you can't realize when you're in the situation with the person manipulating you, that they are the cause of the change.
2007-05-31 08:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a counselor and get rid of the boy friend. Since English is obviously not your native language, perhaps you feel out of place because you cannot understand what is being said around you. But the very best thing you can do for yourself, now and in the future, is to get rid of a manipulative boy friend.
2007-05-31 17:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had that also... i didnt really get that about a manipulative bf thing ... but if he is like that thats probably it, honestly u dont need someone messing with ur head all it means is that ur way over that kind of person... he knows it... and has to resort to something that ghetto, but im very sure in the end its that... because when someone doesnt treat u the way u should deep inside ur mind starts thinking ur not worth it, because well u cant even get respect out of the one person from who u should... and then u start thinking with new people oh damm if he cant they wont either... i bet ur damm pretty all girls are, dont let it get to u and just keep urself open for someone who really dazzles you just do the same with him dont give him importance, im very sure its because of that #$$hole so good luck u sound like an awsome girl dont let someone get u down like that... if he does forget about him he sounds suuuper ghetto!
2007-05-23 17:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did something happen to you to make you feel this way? Maybe you watched a scary movie involving such things? I know sometimes movies and tv get me kind of tense about going out in public.
Just remember you can't let fear control you. It will destroy your life until you aren't happy anymore and you just want to stay in your house all the time. That is no life! Face your fears so you realize that nothing is going to happen. Maybe bringing some kind of weapon with you everywhere will help you get over your fear, like mace.
2007-05-23 17:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by Niki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we get older our sense of strong and inbreakable seems to wear down. It could be that if your b/f is manupulative and this has been a long term relationship that you have become this way from that behavior. You should seperate yourself from this relationship to see if this changes your attitude. It sounds like you could be suffering from mild panic disorder as well. This affects the ability to be in public places for fear of something happening to you. You should see your doctor about this as soon as possible because if this progresses you could become inable to leave your home (safe place)
2007-05-30 09:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things happen to us and we push them to the back of our minds! Not trying 2 scare u, but I did not believe that until I started going 2 therapy and things started to pop up out of nowhere leaving me sinking further and further until I could no longer hide from them because I had no corners left to run to! I AM a strong person, for a while there I was far from it, but sometimes u gotta take one step back.... to get 2 steps forward....God I sound like my therapist now!!!!!!!!UUGGH!!!!
2007-05-23 17:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may have a chemical imbalance since this just recently started. You may also need some help coping with general anxeity. Talk to your physician.
2007-05-31 13:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by TAT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it might be personal experience and maybe it couldve been something u seen in a movie, or just u getting more frantic or something in that sort. it could just be consciousness--sign of being more mature.
2007-05-23 17:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by smartie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋