I am getting married next year. I have alot of family members that im close to. How do I include them without hurting their feeelings?
2007-05-23 10:32:28 · 19 answers · asked by KIMBERLY J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You don't have to give everyone a role at the actual ceremony. Elect some people to help you with the bouquets, others to address the invitations, if you plan on having a bridal registry let some of them go shopping with you. Some could be ushers at the wedding or be responsible for the party favors. Make it a big cooperative effort and go with it.
2007-05-23 10:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean in the wedding party? I've seen weddings with up to 7 bridesmaids and 7 groomsmen! So there's no limit really to how many you can have. I also have a big family and was stuck with the same situation. But I didn't want a whole parade of people in the wedding party. So I opted for immediate family members, and my best friend as my maid of honor.
For the reception, I just let my mom handle who to invite for our side of the family, and gave her a seat limit because I was on a budget. But she also planned an informal party at her house several weeks later where anyone could come.
2007-05-23 17:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by cynthia c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can invite them to your rehearsal dinner, that is what I'm doing in July when I get married. Also, you can allow different people to put the shower on for you. Maybe let someone else throw your engagement party. They are always involved just by coming and seeing your ceremony. Tell them all that, at the rehearsal dinner and thank them for it. Call people and get advise on things that you could do. You don't have to do it all, but getting people's input helps people to feel involved and worth while.
Anyways, congrats, and good luck. Remember it's your day and do what you and your fiance want and believe is most important, or you'll get swamped trying to make everyone happy. Have fun
2007-05-23 17:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask many family members to participate in many ways. You may have as many ushers as you would like (they don't need to be male or wear matching dresses/tuxes). You can ask a favorite aunt to watch over the guest book and ask people to sign it. Have two special cousins light the candles before the ceremony. Have people do readings - Bible verses or poetry you love. Have someone pour punch. Serve cake after it's cut. Direct people to the receiving line. There are many duties at a wedding and you can definitely include as many of your relatives as you would like.
2007-05-23 17:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be better to include none of them. Have only one attendant. I had just my sister, then cousins and friends didn't feel slighted. What ever you do, don't include everyone by asking your aunt to serve cake (me) or your brother to tend bar (my nephew). My daughters were each attended by their brother and sister. My son is the only male bridesmaid I ever knew, but he loved it. One son-in-law had his father as best man, and the other had his brother and sister!
If you're asking about how to just invite them all to the wedding, then go for a simpler wedding so you can afford to include everyone. I just served cake and finger foods, and we're still married 38 years later.
2007-05-23 17:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get married there are so many things to do theres always room to include people my aunt has great writing so she did my place cards for me I had my soon to be sister in law in charge of the wish book and I had a niece in charge of handing out things at the kids table and my other sister in law pass out the boutineers just small things make them feel included.
2007-05-23 19:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by bvilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many's "alot"? Is having them in the wedding party and option? What about flower girls/ring bearers? Ushers? You could have them do readings or sing during the wedding too.
2007-05-23 21:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can hold a family dinner beforehand or afterwards so you can include your family. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, just a dinner at your house or the home of a relative.
2007-05-23 17:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do mean? Why would including them hurt their feelings?
2007-05-23 17:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite them all to come and join you celebrate because it happens only once most of the time in life, so call , or talk to them before it is too late and of cause they will be happy
2007-05-23 17:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by Noel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋