My boyfriends mother won't come to our wedding stating she can't afford to so she said and also she wants my bf to come say he is sorry for yelling at her she had continually lied to me about his life and he confronted her now she and his two brothers (groomsmen) won't come I don't know what to do I just went over there to get our lawnmower and she told me wedding haha he told me there wasn't going to be one I didn't say anything another ? HOW DO I GET HER TO STOP LYING?
2007-05-23 10:31:18 · 13 answers · asked by melissa s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is nothing you can do to stop the lying and drama except show her it is not going to effect you. Let your soon to be hubby deal with his family. I know you want things to go smooth but, I can say from experience that if you let them get you all upset they win. They are trying to take the focus off of you and make it about them. This is not normal and I don't think you want all this drama for your wedding as it will not make for a good day. Work on your wedding plans and enjoy the day If they go they go if not there loss.
2007-05-23 16:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kat G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you and your fiancee need to just sit down together with everyone and clear the air about a lot of things.
Clear the air with the groomsmen and then go to your future mom-in-laws house and clear the air there as well.
It sounds like the only way to get everyone back on the same page. It will not be pleasant conversations but, don't leave until everything is resolved.
Hopefully that will stop everything in it's tracks by taking it head on.
good luck
2007-05-23 10:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by hotelmajor 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This isnt your problem, its your fiance's and his mothers, you should just stay out of it. Men are wierd, it takes a while for them to wake up, if this makes him miserable enough he will handle it, if he doesnt he cant blame anyone but himself. Plan on her not attending, and let it roll off your back, what do you care if she doesnt come, she is only doing it because you are both giving her attention. I would ignore the situation on the whole. MILs are all the same it seems, they threaten until they realize "this thing is going on without me?" and shewill change her tune and come, she wont be able to stand not being there. Until then take her with a grain of salt and brush her off, her presence isnt your responsibility. If she chooses not to come (that would be so awesome BTW) then she has to live with the decision she made and all the repercussions that go with it, namely the absence of your children in her life.
2007-05-23 10:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to get your fiance to stand up to her. YOU can't do anything about it...trying will only create even more trouble.
It's HIS mother, not yours, and he is the only one who can address the situation with her.
You might apologize for the stress caused by your confrontation...but otherwise, this situation is out of your hands.
P.S.
Any family members who would not come to their son's/brother's wedding due to a trivial argument are probably not worth having - especially as attendants. They're supposed to be there to support your marriage...if they can't get over a family spat to even attend the wedding, they won't be capable of helping the two of you through your rough spots.
2007-05-23 10:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-05 04:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by dembinski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh brother! I have found that when you marry the man you marry the whole family. Are you really certain that this is what you want? The problems don't go away the minute you take off that wedding dress.
2007-05-23 10:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by lynda_is 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Time for your FI to start cutting ties with mom. If he won't, then you need to rethink this match because things won't change and you will ALWAYS be second on the totem pole.
If she's lying and refusing to come to the wedding, so be it. Her presence won't make or break your wedding.
2007-05-23 10:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't. My mother had lied for 60 years and she shows no sign of stopping.
2007-05-23 10:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. This woman has issues and she is who she is. I recommend you plan your day without her and her spineless kids. I would also recommend that you have a serious talk with your man and set up rules for how to deal with this woman BEFORE you get married.
2007-05-23 10:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You all need to sit and air this out. If it can't be aired out go on with your plans without her or the brothers. This is your new beginning!!!
2007-05-23 15:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by Nana 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋