My girlfriend and I are about 16 years old. We live about 20 miles apart and only get to see eachother on weekends. Whenever I want to do something with her, her mom seems to try and not let us.
I'll let her know 4 days in advance what I want to do, and she'll say she has to think about it. Then won't tell me til about 2 hours before we're supposed to do whatever.
I'll let her know the day before and she'll say that it's too short of notice.
She also seems to have no respect for me, and will not drive, or allow my girlfriend to drive the family vehicle to see me. I'm supposed to do all the driving, and with gas prices, that's just making it even worse. If I want to hang at my house, I have to drive there (20 miles), drive back (20 miles), drive there (20 miles), and drive back again (20 miles). I just think it's a bit ridiculous.
We've been dating for almost 7 months, and I'm very happy. I just don't know how much longer I can put up with this. What do I do?
2007-05-23 10:12:34 · 16 answers · asked by badoil_49 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have the EXACT problem...except I am a girl...whose mother wont let me go see my boyfriend. Well, the first thing...STICK IN THERE! If you are happy...and think that your girlfriend is worth it...just hang in there. Eventually you should be able to see each other once in a while....and honestly..I think this will test yours and your girlfriends relationship. If you can hang in there.....maybe till school is out...when you are 18 and can do whatever you want to...just wait for each other. If it doesn't work...then you know you aren't meant to be together. Also...try talking to her mother...sit down with your girlfriend and her mother...and tell her what is going on. Just bite the bullet so to speak. Good Luck...and hope it works out for you! ^-^
2007-05-23 10:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just, keep your gf away from the house during the day. Once she's 18 maybe she'll move out. Don't call the cops. You will cause your gf pain, if she gets taken away and seeing her mom be in jail.Isn't part of being a relationship making sure you don't hurt the other person?If you think that by calling the cops, just because she smokes weed she'll be in jail for years or something you're wrong. You should just stay out of it and don't confront the mom. The best thing would be for you to tell your gf that she should just talk to her mom and let her know that she needs to stop. That it's no what she wants her mom doing.
2016-05-21 01:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy then you need to take care of the situation ASAP or you will get frustrated and break up. I would suggest that, if you have to pick her up at her house anyways, you call her mom and say "I would like to talk to you, would it be ok if I come over Saturday and we can all sit down together." If you are mature about the situation she will probably be willing to meet with you guys. I would then explain that you really care for each other and would like to be able to hang out on weekends. Her mom may just not want her to be gone every weekend and feels ya'll are spending too much time together. Just ask how she feels, there is a reason she is saying no and I'm sure if you ask her she will explain to you why. This will help clear the air for everyone.
2007-05-23 10:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by crys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like this isn't going to work out. You two are too young and live too far apart. But you said you were happy, that's important. Obviously you know the mom doesn't want to put up with you, or she just doesn't want her girl getting hurt. Either way, you need to talk to the mom yourself and figure out a plan so you both can be happy and you don't waste all your gas money. Tell your girlfriend that your feeling stressed out about all of this. = )
2007-05-23 10:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by kathleen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy that your only dating and not married. Just imagine how up in your kool-aide she would be then?
Just remember that she is your girlfriends mother. Respect her no matter what she says or does. Be the grown up in this relationship. In the long run, deep inside even if she doesn't want to admit it, you were/are the better person in all of this.
2007-05-23 10:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I would give up and move on. I know you really are happy and you care about her, but if it's always going to be this way and as young as you are, you can cut your losses and move on and meet new people. I'm serious. Even if I was older than that, I would put up with all of that. You stated you think it's ridiculous, so I think you know your answer =) Good luck!!
2007-05-23 10:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont leave her bc of it its not her fault! Im in that same situation except its my mom and me driving all the time except we live like 50miles apart! its really hard but if you love her then you'll find a way to work through it! my bf usually gives us gas money when he can! maybe offer to meet halfway or just hang somewhere closer to her place!
2007-05-23 10:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by bRoWn EyEd BeAuTy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest man it seems like the mom has this situation right where she wants it...the mom obviously doent want you dating her daughter or maybe she doesnt want her daughter dating at all i would suggest you have a sit down with the family meaning you her and the mom and get down to wats really going on...cause if you dont then it aint gonna last bruh...cause sooner or later you gone get tired of the bull
2007-05-23 10:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do. Just remain respectful.
Bottom Line
2007-05-23 10:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say try to get in good with mom
2007-05-23 10:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋