keep in mind, my daughter is generally well behaved, but she has always been difficult and has some trouble with her temper. I would say she is fairly normal but I am having her checked out for any ADHD or other problems with her Dr soon. We punished her by having her write an apology to her teacher, and grounded her from ALL electronic entertainment for 4 days (tv, video games, radio, music etc). Do you think that was a good response to her actions?
2007-05-23 09:40:49 · 34 answers · asked by eve m 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
DEAR MISS
SPANK HER LITTLE BOTTOM GOOD
WASH HER MOUTH OUT WITH SOAP
PUT HER ON HER KNEES NOSE TO THE WALL
EACH AND EVERY DAY THAT SHE IS HOME WITH YOU
OK YOU CAN SPANK HER FROM AGES (2-19) OK
AND WHEN SHE GOES BACK TO SCHOOL GIVE THE
TEACHER A PADDLE AND LET HIM ARE HER SPANK
HER AGAIN AND THAT WILL STOP ALL OF THIS OK
BY THE WAY THE LISTED ABOVE IS GREAT TO AND
GROUNDING FOR THE SUMMER MAKE HER WORK FOR
THAT SAME TEACHER PICKING UP LEAVES WALKING
THE DOG PICKING UP THE MAIL OK
I AM NOT TRYING TO BE CRUDE RUDE HEART LESS
ARE HURT FULL BECAUSE I WAS NOT RAISED THAT
AWAY IN THE 70,S 80,S 91 BY MY PARENTS I GOT MY
BUTT SPANKED BY BOTH PARENTS AND TEACHERS
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS SIGN A PAPER SAYING YOU
WILL NOT SUE THE SCHOOL FOR SPANKING HER
LITTLE BOTTOM OK BUT SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT
SHE WILL NOT ACT LIKE THAT IN SCHOOL OK
SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE A GREAT MOM OK
GOD BLESS YOU
TAKE CARE
PEACE
BEST WISHES
2007-05-23 16:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
It depends on your idea of parenting. How big of a deal is it to you that your innocent little girl would do this? If you make it a light punishment, see won't see it as being that serious. And then she will find that an effective way to hurt someone.
Your daughter can learn to control her temper, by knowing that if she doesn't, there will be consequenses. It is the parents who don't discipline enough that end up with kids who grow up with temper problems, and basically do whatever they feel like doing.
Personally, i would go much harsher on my daughter then that. i would restrict her for at leats 2 weeks to let her know that 'flipping people off' is NOT ok. I would also sit her down and give her a talk. i would let her know how hurt I am that she would do this and talk to her about what it means. I would tell her that I felt like a failure as a parent when I see her like this. This would be more punishment than any discipline could do. It would make her see that YOU feel guilty for HER actions. Who wants that kind of burden?
But, then again, that is just what I would do. Youi are the parent, you decide how you want to raise your kid. Only you.
2007-05-23 09:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by Bren J 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I like to use creative punishments that address 1) Giving Back, 2) Apologizing, and 3) Remembering. Definitely have her apologize to the teacher and work out a plan for helping out in the class at lunch time or after school for 1-2 weeks. Then have her wear a colored bandaide on the finger/hand (or a glove with the fingers cut out) she used to flip her teacher off with for the next 1-2 weeks--no matter where she goes, no matter what she does (expect for bath/shower time of course). Take time to be creative and it will be an object lesson she will remember, appreciate, and even laugh about later when she is a young woman. Mom. . . .remember that time you made me wear that ugly glove every day. . . .
2007-05-25 11:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not only did she show disrespect she showed lack of self-restraint. The punishment should have been more harsh. I would say no electronics for 2 weeks, no friends, telephone, outside play, etc either. Also, the apology is good, but writing a research paper on either respecting authority figures and elders, or something would have been better.
2007-05-23 09:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I did something similar when I was that age. My Father tapped my middle finger up and the others down for a whole day(not a school day). I still don't flip people off because I remember the embarrassment when everyone looked at me.
2007-05-23 09:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by niki 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The punishment is fine. I like that you are making her write a letter of apology. I think that you should talk to her about her temper and discuss better ways to deal with anger. Unless this becomes a recurring problem, let it go at that. Don't bring it up again unless the behavior repeats itself.
2007-05-23 12:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by Momma 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LMAO! As a parent, It would be hard for me not to crack up after hearing that from my kids. She is three, so tell her to stand in the corner or take away her favorite toy for a bit. Then tell her if she continues to talk that way with you, you will have to wash her mouth out with soap. Ivory bars are by far the bast reality check! Oh the memories! lol
2016-03-12 21:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a fine punishment. Sometimes, when I was little and I did something bad, my mom would punish me like you and then sit me down. We would have a chat and she would help me understand that what I did was wrong and that if I do it again there will be serious consequences. Have you talked to her about why she did it?
2007-05-23 11:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The apology is great. She will learn that you mean business with taking her things away and not letting this slide. I'd say have her work to get them back, instead of making it a certain amount of days. One by one she gets them back. Teach her appropriate ways to express her anger, things that are okay with you.
2007-05-23 09:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by nanners454 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds completely appropriate- except for the length. I'd say 9 days.
2007-05-23 09:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋