If a mormon and a non mormon want to get married. Would I have to convert?

Question

And If i convert. Would I have to go to church? Cause I really dont believe in the mormon religion. But I love my boyfriend. if any of that makes sense. haha

Answer 1

To answer your question.... no... you do not have to be a convert to be married... And your non-member friends CAN go to your wedding. Now to be Sealed in the Temple you would have to convert and you non-member freinds would not be able to witness that. My sister married a non-member.

As to the "cult" statements... that is ridiculous and uneducated. If we were in a "cult"... you could not date your boyfriend or marry him until you converted... you would not be able to leave the church once joining... you do not have to worry about being treated as an outcast if you don't join... however, you need to see how your man feels about his eternal goals... you shouldn't join just for him... you should really research it with your man and make it known how you feel... it is a personal decision for the two of you at that point. And yes... you can ask me any question you would like and I will help you with the answer.

That invitation is open to anyone btw....

But hey... look at your boyfriend and his family and how they live their lives.... does it appeal to you or seem like it is something that would effect you negatively?

Answer 2

When you're in love, what makes sense is subject of interpretation. If you don't buy into the mormon religion now, chances are good you won't later. Converting and living a lie takes a toll on a marriage. Also, you don't just marry the guy, you marry the church. The church has the potential to be the worlds most annoying in-laws, and have damage more mixed marriages than helped.
His ticket to the Celestial Kingdom is a temple-going wife who consents to be a baby-maker for all time and eternity.
Give it considerable thought and let him know of your reservations.

Answer 3

This is a serious question. Unfortunately outside of Mr. Perfect's answer, there wasn't an accurate one in the bunch. This is very sad that people think they know something so they share incorrect information before confirming what they think they know.

The reason this is a serious question is because Mormon's take marriage as a very serious religious obligation. Much more so then even the Catholic Church (who see marriage as one of their seven sacraments).

Mormons believe that men and women cannot receive the highest rewards in heaven, what they call exaltation, except as husband and wife together. To do this they believe that they must be married in a Temple by someone holding authority to "seal" (i.e. bind in marriage) the man and woman together not just for this life, but forever. The concept of marriage forever to someone is unique to Mormonism and adds a whole new level to a marriage. No other major Christian religion believes in this concept. That's why other Christian ceremonies have the words “until death do you part.”

As a non-Mormon, it would not be possible for you to be married to your boyfriend in a temple as this is only open to committed members of the LDS Church. This makes sense.

However, the option to marry your boyfriend in an LDS Chapel (as opposed to a temple) is open to you, just like anyone else. There are no religious restrictions on Mormons to marrying outside of their faith. However, there is a doctrinal understanding that such marriages will be for life only, just as if they were done in any other religion. There is also a doctrinal understanding that this may mean that your boyfriend may be choosing to give up the highest possible rewards in heaven. (No, it won't send him to hell or keep him out of heaven in Mormon belief.)

So to answer your question: no, you do not have to convert.

However, please consider the seriousness of a decision to marry someone of a different faith, particularly if you are both committed to your respective faiths. No matter what faith both of you are, this is a serious decision that is possibly a source of friction for the rest of your life. Marriage is difficult enough without adding additional problems.

I believe you should both consider this decision carefully. You must weigh both of your commitments level to your faiths and you must decide carefully if this is really a risk worth taking because of your love for each other.

Finally, both of you should look into each other's religious beliefs in detail. You should learn about the Mormon religion and he should learn about yours. This isn't for the sake of conversion, this is just a matter of taking serious something your potential future spouses take very seriously (assuming you do, of course.) If one of you were to feel called of God to convert, that would be okay. But converting “for a marriage” is a bad idea.

Answer 4

No, it just means you would have a normal chapel or civil wedding, and not a temple wedding.

My sister is an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (Mormon is just a nickname) and her husband is not. They were married outside under a tree, and have a very good marriage. He does go to church with her about once-a-month (but that was his personal desire).

My only suggestion for you is that if you two do decide to get married, be sure to talk about how you would raise any kids you might have regarding the religious differences. Life will be much more peaceful if you have that figured out before you get hitched.

best wishes

Answer 5

Have to convert?? No...if your boyfriend won't marry you until you convert...then that's your call. If your question is can a mormon marry a non-mormon, then the answer is yes...it's not like either one of you would go to hell. But, if your boyfriend wants to get married in the mormon temple, you would have to be a member (in good standing) to enter the temple. PLEASE, don't join if you don't believe. Don't join just to marry...it will just cause problems later on in life for you.

Answer 6

You can be married in his chapel. It will be a temporal marriage. Ask him if he wants a temple marriage. For that you both need to be members. I would suggest that you learn more about the religion first. I'm sure he'd be happy to help. Then discuss it with him to see if he is going to have a problem with it or not. The church will not do anything to either of you if you decide not to convert and get married. It's really between the two of you.

Answer 7

Of course you don't have to join. His beliefs are his not yours. It might cause problems... I don't know. Has he gone on a mission? How old are you two? Don't rush into anything until you're both ready. Being married is a wonderful gift, but don't jump into it prematurely or it could back fire.
Both my wife and I are Mormon, but we always weren't. I believed in the church and in the Prophet Joseph before she did. I told her I loved her very much, but I was still going to go to church with or without her approval. It's up to you. God gave you your agency

Answer 8

I guess it depends on how much your boyfriend wants you, or someone who is LDS. If he doesn't have a problem with you not being Mormon, then don't worry about it. The only problem I can see is if you have any children someday and then you will have to decide how you are going to raise them, as far as religion goes.

Answer 9

No. I don't think that his church would require you to convert or require you do go to church. They believe that almost everyone goes to heaven . They even baptized Hitler and his girlfriend and married them. So technically you can tell him to baptize you after your died and knowing what you would know when you are dead you will either reject or accept the baptism and if you accept you will become Goddess and have children for all eternity.

Answer 10

I know that I would want to have a Mormon husband for some hard to explain reasons... and I'm sure your boyfriend has those same reasons.