my cat just died and im devastated?

Question

and i have no one to talk to and i dont know what to do. she was 11, and she belonged to my little brother who died a few years ago. it was like she was the last piece of him that was livng. someone kicked her so hard in the stomach it killed her, she was in so much pain b4 she died and when the vet tried to give her painkilling drip she couldnt take it anymore.

what should i do now? i dont want to just leave her with the vet. she died alone and i feel so guilty, i had just left her and the vet foned 5 mins later.

Answer 1

Oh NO!! I am so, so sorry to hear that. Whoever hurt your kitty is a complete and utter f*"5?!%^*!$ and I hope they rot in hell. What a vile thing to do to an innocent animal. Disgusting. Please report them if you haven't done so, or if its (understandably) too hard for you to do this right now, perhaps your family could help you report them?

Like so many others here, I know how devastating a loss this can be. Our pets often become like a member of the family, a companion, a friend, - and if you were close to your pet it is normal to have the reactions to it's loss that you may experience in the death of a person i.e. shock, disbelief, numbness, anger, pain, hurt, sadness, guilt and overwhelming grief. Please don't feel alone and isolated - there are people who understand.

I reckon that our spirit lives on after the body is gone. I know that doesn't help when you want your little cat to be with you, where you can see her and hear her purr. I understand exactly how it feels. It hurts. I had a cat, Bluey, who died on Christmas Eve when I was little, and our kitty Dink, who we had for 11 years, died on December 13th last year. Dink's twin, Puffin, died back in 1995 and that was hard going to say the least. I lost my 2 day old kitten, Squiggles, on January 17th last year. Sadly there's no clear way to 'get over it'....you must keep focusing on the good times. It is horrible and very tough to get through, but you WILL get there.

Try and picture this scenario: I bet your kitty is having the time of her life right now! My cats will be showing her round, wherever they are... I bet she's a good looking cat, mine were all toms so they'll be out to impress her! They'll be getting high on catnip, chillin' out listening to John Lennon. (Maybe our cats are singing backing vocals for him? They'd sound better than Yoko.). They'll always be with us. They're probably looking down at us now thinking how silly humans are for not being able to interpret cat language,and how superior the feline species is. They are, of course, right :-)

I know that last paragraph was silly, but I hope that helps, my friend.

Answer 2

Oh my goodness that sounds almost like what happened to me last week. Though I managed to be with my Sam when he died.

Why don't you bring her home and bury her in the garden (your little brother would have liked that) if you can that is what I did. I wrapped Sam in his favourite blanket first. Now I have covered his own patch with pretty violas.

Don't feel guilty it's not your fault. You will feel devasted for some days and will keep calling her it's only natural after all those years. I had Sam for seventeen years he died after a stroke following a big operation.

There are some really wicked people around and you must feel very angry about it. But just try and think that these people will never have the love your wee cat gave you. She is at peace now and out of pain. Get a picture out and keep it by you. You will find consolation in her photo.

I will be thinking about you tonight my dear. Love to you xxx

Answer 3

Your other cat will be ok in a few weeks,just give her a bit of extra attention for a while,do not replace your cat with another,i know how hard this can be,i lost a cat at the age of just over a year,i actually saw him get run over,the driver didn't even stop! i had nightmares for ages,before that i had a cat for 16 years,she never had a days illness,came in one night and collapsed, i rang the emergency vet and they said she has had a stroke,they came out and put her down as i held her,she just gave a big sigh and was gone,i could not believe how devastated i was, so emotional! Its one of the things that we have to get used to if we have pets,just give them love and a good life,its all you can do,my grand daughter says in heaven there is a special place for animals,lovely parks and trees for them to run around in for ever!

Answer 4

First of all I would like to offer you my most sincere condolences, I have two cats, and could not imagine my life without them. Second, don't feel about about having had her die alone, and know that she is in a way better place than all of us are now. Plus, I'm sure she knew you were supporting her in spirit.
I would suggest that you get her cremated, and either keep the ashes, or place them around your brother's grave knowing that regardless of what you do, they are now once again together.
About the psychopath who abused her, I would suggest you contact peta, the humane society or any other organization that protects animals, so that they can more appropriately tell you what to do.
I can honestly feel your pain, and I don't think there are any words that could effectively ease your sorrow. Regardless, I wish that God gives you the strenght to go through all this with as little suffering as possible.
God bless!

Answer 5

Im so sorry to read your message.I too recently lost a beloved pet-my dog Dexter,and like you I was not there when he died.He died unexpectedly while I was out from an epileptic fit and my daughter found him in the garden.I cannot put into words the sense of loss and grief we have all felt.In your case it is especially sad as this was a cat that had special significance to you as well as being a cat who lived a good many years as a part of your family.Like you my dog died as a consequence of someone elses actions (the vet in our case made a mistake with our pets medication)
What you will probably be feeling is a mixture of anger (at the fact that someone else caused your cats death),guilt (because you wanted to be there with your cat when she died)and utter grief as this reminded you of the loss of your dear brother so all those memories have flooded back. Everyone deals with loss in different ways-for me I was so upset I never got to say goodbye but I dealt with this loss over many weeks and had my dog cremated separately from other pets.When his ashes were returned to me I then made the desicion to bury them in our garden and we bought a bird bath with a simple inscription to mark the spot he loved best in the garden.As soon as we buried his ashes and his favourite toys we could say goodbye properly and we all felt a sense of calm and serenity as now we could remember all the happy times we had spent together rather then dwell on the manner of is death.
I would recommend you talk to others who have lost pets too-as everyone will understand what you must be feeling.If this is not possible try writing down your memories of this lovely cat even recalling some of the times you may have even got annoyed with her as these are all treasured memories.Try adding photos of her to help you deal with your loss.
Over time you will feel better I promise-you wont forget her but you will learn to stop feeling guilty and remember how well she was cared for by you.
Best wishes x

Answer 6

If you live in your own home, bring the cat home and bury her somewhere in a safe place in your yard. Put up a memorial for her so it will seem as though a piece of her and your little brother are always there with you. We just recently lost a cat to the pet food poison and so I kind of know what you are going through. We have a garden spot where we buried our cat and flowers planted around it. This way we can visit and it feels like our cat is still with us. By the way the plants or flowers will grow better and bigger. I know because we have buried other pets in the same way and that is what has always happened. I hope that this helps comfort you.

Answer 7

ahhh hunny this is so sad it bought tears to my eyes. I couldnt imagine life without my cat, it must be particularly hard for you with it being such an important part of your brothers life.

You did the right thing but taking your cat to the vets and they would have done everything they could to relieve the pain, there is no need to feel guilty as you did everything right.

How can people just get away with this, have they no heart.

Definately go to the media, unfortunately we have many such stories appearing in our local papers, it really does raise awareness to animal cruelty.

It will take a long time to come to terms with what has happened but your cat is with your brother now.

Answer 8

Aaaaaaw I am SO sorry to hear that. I too have lost a cat that was 10 years old. It seems like she meant something to you because she was a symbol of something your brother loved. The pain will be with you for a while but trust me, it'll get better. Have you thought about cremating your cat and keeping the ashes?

What helped me after my old cat died was to get a new one. I didn't get one right away, but I would always go to the shelters to see the kittens/cats. Until one just picked me out.

Answer 9

I'm sorry that your cat died. I'm sure it must be difficult to have that part of your life over. At least you know that your little brother and cat are together again.

You could bury her somewhere in your backyard. If that's not an option, see if the vet has a way to take care of the cat (like cremation) and also see if the will let you spend a few minutes alone with the cat to say goodbye

Answer 10

Sweets ... if you can, go pick her up and have a little chat to her, even tho she's dead it doesn't matter. It will make you feel better. You can decide what to do with her - whether it's burial in your yard or take her to a pet cemetary. Then find a nice person or counsellor to offload your burden onto. It will really, really help, believe me. Make sure you find someone who you feel will be sympathetic. Some counsellors advertise that they deal with pet loss. You can't keep grief to yourself - it will kill you and leave you an empty shell. Just take action - it hurts but it will help enormously. It's not time that heals, but what you do in that time. Do something kind for yourself and get support. Love...