Me and my ex-girlfriend were together for 3.5 years and about 2 months ago she said we needed a break the day i headed 6 hours away to school. We talked everyday after i left for about a month until she met someone else(me and her are 25, this new guy is 19). We would still talk but it wasn't the same, she said she didn't know if she loved me anymore. So anyways after school got out I stopped by and picked her up from work and we hung out and we had sex 3 times that night, even though she is dating this new guy. She tells me that I am her best friend and she calls me everyday. She says that she can't stop loving me no matter what she does and that she cares about the other guy. And she says that she has some resent towards me and that she sees us getting back together later. Right now we live 1.5 hours away from each other. But she says she still wants to hang out with me about 1x a week. What should I do? would not talking to her make her miss me?
2007-05-23 08:33:18 · 18 answers · asked by phegotgame14 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a crowd. You need to move on w/out her. You deserve to be loved and cherished not shared at her times. Cut her loose for good and if it's meant to be she will come back. Come on you are not a teenager anymore..you are 25 yrs old...this is good, you have plenty of time to meet the right girl for yourself and get marry if that's what you desired. Don't waist your precious time with her anymore. No contact for at least 40dys.
2007-05-23 08:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by Princesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 1/2 hours away does not seem to be that far to me. I think she loves you but if you have been together for almost 4 years maybe she just needs some time to go out and date a little and figure somethings out on her own. I have seen too many girls her age get married and then in 10 years always miss partying more, or having more fun before they settled down. Just give her some space.
2007-05-23 08:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by GEE-GEE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it from a logical perspective. What is the worst that can happen if you stay with her? You share her with another guy. Now I am sure you are not crazy about that idea but she has already made this decision for you. What is the worst that can happen if you leave her alone? You lose a friend but learn a valuable lesson about your wants and needs. You obviously like your ex still and it seems like you want to be with her but she is dating another guy. Look at this situation for what it is. You have the choice to stay with her and allow her to see this other guy or you can take control of your own destiny and tell her that you and her can only be friends and you are not having sex with her as long as she is dating someone else. In other words you need all of her or none of her.
2007-05-23 08:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by soulsearcherofthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't "get" her to open up to you. She will open up if she feels comfortable - but sounds to me like you guys have some issues that are complicating your relationship. The advice I would give is - don't be 1) too desperate, or 2) too pushy. Just be yourself, have a good time with her - but don't be all over her in any way. OK, she has this crazy idea that you only want her for sex; well, don't bring up sex at all, keep your hands to yourself, and enjoy the conversation. I'm not really sure what her problem is - I don't get it how can a girl be with someone for two years, and be convinced that this person is only with her because of sex; that's just silly. It sounds to me like she, herself, doesn't know what she wants - and it can be kind of a dangerous situation for you, as you could get your heart broken very easily. Just be careful, ok. Good luck.
2016-05-21 00:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be open wiht her. She is very important to you, and vice versa. You need a break, take a vacation, lose the stress. Now, after your deep breath, give her space, no pressure. Call her once in a while to see how she's doing. Tell her you still love her very much. She needs to hear that from you. Really, and you MIGHT get back together, you never know.
2007-05-23 08:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds confused! Also why is a 25 year old with a 19 year old anyways! Well from not seeing you for a while she most likely lost interest in when she saw you it was back again!
2007-05-23 08:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my boyfriend for four years and I think that if I were in this type of situation I would just be as honest as possible and tell her how you truly feel about her. Because that is what really matters. BUT be sure that you are being honest with yourself and that you know what you really want. She may be kind of stuck in the middle like that because she isn't sure about how you feel. When it comes to how people feel about one another, I feel that honesty is always number one.
2007-05-23 08:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by Chel C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just respect that she dosn't like you no more i think. actually i don't know but when two people have been 2getter 4 2 long they may want to see other faces. so try to move on. another advice even tough she dosn't like u no more girls hate when guys make them jealous, so try to get a new girlfriend and make her jealous go out with her every day and probably your x will come back asking you to forgive her.
2007-05-23 08:40:52 · answer #8 · answered by A* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not talking to her would make her mad, not miss you. She said that you are her best friend. go with that. because to be good in a relationship you have to be friends, and to be best friends is even better. She may be seeing someone else,but that someone else is not her best friend,. you are.. Don't take that for grantide. in the long run, you are the one that she will run to, that she will come to when things go wrong. and eventually she will see that you are the only one for her.
2007-05-23 08:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let her go. She's cheating on the other guy with you. You want to share her with him? Either be just friends or be in a committed relationship. You dont sound as if you just want to stay friends because of the sex....
2007-05-23 08:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋