Hey, i know this might sound really stupid but i need to talk to about it. I recently got a job working with children and adults who have disabilties. Well i started a week ago, and im finding myself very scared of them, i love to help them and make them smile, but im scared of them hitting me, and abusing me,, which they do and have tried already, im worried about making them upset cause i dont understand them.
Maybe i just was not cut out for this job, its rewarding but i dont think im as strong as all the other workers, they seem to have a grip on themsleves so they can handle the clients. I have no experience or schooling with this job, so its all from scratch..and the other workers treat me like a moron and glare at me all the time, like im not suppose to be there, but some of the children/adults seem to really like me, i have a blast with them, sometimes. Im just abit worried and scared about all this stuff
should i find another job or is there a way i can get over this
2007-05-23 08:06:42 · 9 answers · asked by *CoUrAgE* 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Find a job working with persons with special needs who are stable enough to not hit people. You should not put yourself at risk.
2007-05-23 10:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by DCFN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time. You say you have a blast with these special needs people and they like you. It sounds like your heart is in the right place. You'll learn what is expected from your work. You'll also learn to predict when a client is about to have an outburst. If you're not happy after a while longer, put in your notice. But I have a feeling you will get very attached to your clients before then. Shame on your co-workers for not being more supportive. They once felt just like you.
2007-05-23 08:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by Rosemary's Baby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi hun. I have a severly disabled brother and we have had a number of workers come in to help. There have been a couple that were just not the right type of person to be working with him. They were afraid to do something wrong, they just didn't know how to act around him. They told my mom and she was very thankful that they told her. It is completly normal to feel uneasy around disabled people and to be frightened. I work at a disabled summer camp and I see people that find out t hey don't have what it takes to help these people. If you like helping people maybe try working at a daycare or something? You sound like a great person. Don't get down on yourself for this!
2007-05-23 08:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who care for other w/ disabilities are great for doing it but it is not for everyone such as me..... I knew a lady that done the same thing for a living and got attacked by someone she took care of and damaged all of the nerves in her arm and can't use it very well and this was at least 10 years ago! So she is messed up for life, that is not all of her problems she has had after getting attacked that is just 1. That is a hard decision to make just follow your heart and if u don't think u can continue than don't.
2007-05-23 08:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have compassion for them, which is a great start. If you find that your compassion overpowers your fear, you may settle in there quite nicely. However, fear is often far more visible than we realize. I think you need to be able to speak openly about this with your supervisor or someone at work who can help you get some perspective. Anyone who does not feel safe at work is going to have problems. Whether your fear is coming from you or coming from the work itself is something you will need to sort out. Not everyone is cut out for that kind of work, as it can be very intense at time. But for those who are, it's very rewarding.
2007-05-23 08:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by Simmy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow both your child and you have alot on your plate. My oldest son is Autistic and ADHD along with other diagnosis as well. What are some of the other diagnosis? Is Sensory Integration a problem? He has so much going on. If he is not able to properly receive the messages being sent to him, verbally, and physically, it could be a sensory problem. I would take him to a specialist in child behavior and consult with them, take him to a therapist so he has someone no judgemental to talk to, and I would have his sensory system tested to see if there was a problem processing information. I would try my darndess to be consistant with whatever disciple system I put in place and not run to a new type everytime it seemed to fail. Repitition is key. Good luck. Also try going to some support groups for the different diagnosis and talk to other parents to see if they've had simular experiances and how they handled them.
2016-05-21 00:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not everyone is good with the mentally disabled. there are other jobs that can be rewarding. maybe you should ask the other workers how to handle the clients' behaviors. watch what they do and try to do that, too. if you really don't feel safe and secure, find another job. there's no shame in leaving this one.
2007-05-23 08:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie there are a lot of people who are weirded out by them. I for instance am one of those people. My mother has been working with people with disabilities for over 17 years. I am 21 and have been around them all of my life, but I still get worried around them. Plus given some of the stuff I have seen I seldom want them to touch me, and they love to touch people. I may seem harsh, but that is the way that I feel.
2007-05-23 08:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand. They can be scary. Some people are totally ok with them and some are not. It does not mean you are a bad person. I think maybe you should find another job that works better for you. Good luck.
2007-05-23 08:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋