For them, is it a sin to enjoy sex? Do they only do it for children. I want to have great sex, when I find the right guy. I'm not a religious jew, but the guy I like is pretty religious. He wears a yamaka. Do they do that thing when they make a whole under the cover and "do it"?
I can not live without the real good, pleasurable part of it.
2007-05-23 07:46:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm pretty ignorant so please educate me.
2007-05-23 07:53:58 · update #1
1) It is REQUIRED that a husband pleasures his wife (not the other way around- but then few guys have a problem with that...)
2) It is the wife's prerogative as to when and where sex takes place. This includes after the child bearing years (yeah- we may find the thought of octogenarian sex off putting- but apparently it is rife in old age homes...) and at times of the month (when she is not a niddah) but she is aware that she is not fertile. So sex for pleasure IS allowed (Birth control is an entirely separate matter and many Rabbinical responsa have been written on that subject.)
3) While it is encouraged to do it in the dark for the sake of modesty- the idea of a "hole" in the sheet is actually contrary to jewish law- in the discussions in the Talmud on sex (yep, EVERYTHING gets discussed in the Talmud- certain parts aren't taught to young people until just before marriage...) suggest positions where the maximum amount of bodily contact is available to enhance pleasure and intmacy.
4) Sex before marriage is Rabbinically forbidden. If your boyfriend is an onservant jew, he won't be indulging in sex with you (of course, like every other group there are people who don't obey the rules...)
5) Marriage to a non-Jew is forbidden- if your boyfriend is an observant jew he will not marry you unless you convert to Judaism.
6) A correction to the person who said digital stimulation (hand jobs...) and oral are not allowed. They ARE allowed- but not to ejaculation. There is absolutely no reason why they should not be used to help a woman reach orgasm . (Their is a disagreement amongst rabbis as to male on female oral sex- some do allow it (see "Kosher Sex" by Shmuelly Boteach), but rather speak to your local Orthodox Rabbi on this issue (and don't be shy- they get these queries frequently and one of the most frank discussions I ever heard on sex and sexuality was by an Orthodox Rabbi with a group of teenagers at a youth camp)
7) Correction to Mark S on abortion: In Orthodx Judaism, as a rule abortion is NOT allowed. It IS allowed under some very specific situations- such as medical necessity of the mother (including the possibility of mental damage- though that is something that needs to be discussed with a rabbi before making such a decision). Conservative and Reform DO ALLOW abortions.
2007-05-25 00:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by allonyoav 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a Jew: 1) No, it's not a sin; 2) Very religious Jews do it under the covers as a sign of modesty; 3) No, they don't do it only for the children; 4) You'll have a great time; 5) Abortions are allowed under Jewish law, just to set the record straight.
2007-05-23 18:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mark S, JPAA 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have good sex or you can have a Jewish guy for a husband BUT you can only have one or the other and need to make a choice of one or the other. esp if you plan to marry an Orthodox Jewish person as a husband. In less you also plan to have a man on the side that would even be willing to and able to actually please a women with out all the sexual hang ups and baggage a Jewish man would bring in to any bed room they have ever entered with a women.. I dont even know how a jewish guy could even keep it up with all that worry about how his mom and his rabbi would be judging him and critizing him every step of the way and telling him hes doing it all wrong and is going to go to hell or where ever it is they think they go if they dont provide god a great time watching them have sex or what ever there weird perversions and demented believes tell them. One might as well marry a christen mamas boy there just as screwed up in the head and think god is some pervert voyeur to. who is a god but also some how has a cream pie fetish or some thing like that.
2013-12-10 18:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a sin to enjoy sex according to the tanakh or talmud. But depending on the rabbi his view upon it might be different from another rabbi's view.
So officially it's totally ok as long as you're married, but you will have to ask him to know how he personally interprets it.
One detail however, anal, oral and handjobs (not fingering however) are disallowed. That doesn't mean you can't get a towering orgasm that will send you shivering afterwards... i mean the sensitive spots are where the shaft is intended to go to anyway. O.o
Condoms!... i forgot earlier but condoms are disallowed too. And birthcontrol. Abortions too.
2007-05-23 14:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First, you're way off, it's not a sin to enjoy sex. You should actually know where you're coming from before asking such an asinine question.
2007-05-23 14:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're not a Jew, you spelt "yarmulka" Wrong.
2007-05-23 14:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by Black Hole Gravity Unleashed 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, my name's Lucky - how you doin'?
2007-05-23 14:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
they sing while doing it
Kum by ya my Lord, kum by ya
Kum by ya my Lord, kum by ya
Kum by ya my Lord, kum by ya
Oh, Lord kum by ya.
Someone’s crying Lord, kum by ya
Someone’s praying Lord, kum by ya
2007-05-23 14:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋