Confidence?

Question

Just how important a trait is it to have when it comes to first encounters and flirting. Is it better to actually show a lil nervousness, joke around a bit or all confidence? Just curious, girls give me something to think about if you don't mind.

Answer 1

>> A pleasant mix of "COCKY AND FUNNY" is the ONLY way to go. <<

Anything else is considered "lame". But remember you can only get away with being "cocky" if it's FUNNY.

But whatever you do --> Don't be a WUSSY.

EVER.

For example: If a woman asks "what you do for a living", and you are not "particularly handsome" then you say (in a normal tone) .... "Well, I am actually a Calvin Klein model, isn't it obvious??".

If you ARE a Calvin Klein Model and say "Well, I am a Calvin Klein Model, isn't it obvious??"... then that's "LAME". Even though it may be true.

And don't ask the GIRLS what THEY think. EVER.

Each and every one of them will "SAY" they like guys who are sensitive, generous, open with their feelings and you should always treat her like a lady (even if she doesn't behave like one???).

Don't buy it. Women RUN as fast as they can from guys like that and are NEVER genuinely ATTRACTED to that.

See the first thing you gotta know, is women (and I dont' mean "girls") are constantly looking to "DISQUALIFY" men all the time. Its in their PROGRAMMING.

The second she detects that you are a WUSSY, she's gone. And women have excellent WUSSY-BOY radar.

They look for more reasons to say "NO" than to say "YES" to a guy. They HAVE to do this. Because there are alot of guys out there who will approach them DAILY for the rest of their lives.... especially the very attractive ones. They will constantly be put in situations where they are looking for reasons to say "no thanks", "thats NOT the right guy for me", and " I just DONT feel it for him".

You don't want to be one of them. So avoid it at all costs.

They don't really understand what kind of guy they WILL be attracted to, they only will be able to identify the guys they are NOT attracted to. Women are actually better prepared with ways to deal with men who approach them which they are NOT attracted to, than handling men they ARE attracted to.

That's why you hear women say things like "I am STRANGELY attracted to him. I don't know why. I can't seem to get him out of my mind". SEE?? Even SHE is looking for reasons that explain why she is attracted him and is STILL looking for a reason to disqualilfy him. EVEN THOUGH SHE IS ATTRACTED AND CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM!!

When you get to know a girl, its helps to think of treating her EXACTLY like you would your "bratty little sister." You may genuinely LOVE your sister, but you wouldn't be a wussy boy who would run after her with flowers if you got in an arguement. You wouldn't try and PROVE how much you like her all the time. You wouldn't tell her how you FEEL about her all the time. In fact... you would be JUST THE RIGHT MIX of COCKY AND FUNNY.

And this will put you in another league of men that's stand above the kind who showers her with compliments, adoration and attempts to "take her out" all the time. The kind who extend her all the courtesies in the world, before she has had a chance to EARN any of them.

Women can sniff a guy like that from 100 yards away, and then start to walk in the OPPOSITE direction.

Until a women goes out of her way to mean something to you, she means nothing to you. .....and so does her "rejection".

Work on being the best man you can possibly be, and don't give a second thought to being the best man THEY think you should be.

If don't believe any of this now. . . . you WILL.

Answer 2

I think confidence is extremely sexy. I would even go so far as to say that arrogance is a pretty hot trait. I love to meet a man who is sure of himself. Don't be a jackass or anything, but you should definitely let the ladies know that you know who you are inside and what you want. A man who has little confidence in himself probably won't get too much respect from me.

Answer 3

There is no right or wrong answer. I would say it all depends on the female you want to impress.

My man was quiet and shy, which attracted me, yet I dated guy who were all confident and macho.

First impressions can only be made once. So make that first impression the one you want the lady to remember. Don't try and make yourself over just because you think that will get and keep her attention. Because, in the end, the real you will have to surface. And, if what you have been showing her is different from the real you, and she wants the staged version, she will move on.

Answer 4

Confidence is a great attraction. It shows that you know who you are and are comfortable in your own skin. Women love men who are funny and flirtatious because it shows that you have a sense of humor and that you are interested in them. Nervousness is natural and as long as it's not clumsy it's kind of sweet and shows your sensitive side.

Answer 5

Confidence is great just don't over do it. If you are nervous, show it, joke around. Be yourself, if that isn't enough move on to the next.

Answer 6

confidence is REALLY important....but dont show it off when you want the girl 2 go out with u....cuz it just seems cocky

after a few weeks of being an item u could show her she is safe with you

Answer 7

no one wants to with someone that doesn'y have any confindence, just becareful not to have to much you'll come across snobbish and cocky and most chicks don't go for that. But a little bit will take you a long way!

Answer 8

the trick is to be confident without be arrogant. and yes, joke around. most ladies are looking for someone who can make them laugh...

Answer 9

i would have to say confidence. when guys approach me they usually stare at me or completely ignore me and then later tell my friends that he likes me and i have a hard time believing that. so just go up to her and ask her what she likes to do and then offer to buy her a cup of coffee!!!

Answer 10

confidence is good just as long as you are not cocky