Every woman I try to hook up with only cares about what I have in my bank account and what I can do for them... WTF!!??
2007-05-23 07:25:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't come off like I have money but i do have a nice car and I do like to look good when I go out i.e. nice clothes, little bling. but as far as that goes I don't have a lot of money so why is it that once they find out i'm not going to buy them the world they get turned off? I am more than willing to pay for the date and gifts once in a while but I'm sorry thats all I'm good for, I'm not gonna buy you whatever you want just to get in your pants
2007-05-23 08:01:50 · update #1
Well if you don't have any and just got out of prison, why bother?
2007-05-23 07:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 5⤋
Well that's just how SOME women are.
What are you doing to attract them? Stunting? Showing off w/ jewelry? Showing off your car? Opening a coversation about material things? Bragging on what you have?
All those things attract "gold diggers" and if that's what you doing in the hopes of finding a decent girl that cares about YOU, you need to change your methods of talking to women.
If you want a spiritual person, speak of spiritual things. If you want lover, talk about things that sweep a girl off her feet. If you want an equal partner, talk to her as if she's your equal. You get what you put out.
If you are not doing those things, maybe you are looking at the wrong place. Go to a coffee shop or art gallery instead of the club or bar every now and then. Change up your scene.
And lets just be honest and frank here, everyone.... EVERYONE.... gets involved in a relationship to benefit themselves and get what they want. Whether that's just companionship or a new Benz. So if you are looking for a woman that gives of herself and doesn't asks for anything (i.e. money, sex, companionship, loyalty, time, whatever) your looking for something that just doesn't exsist.
2007-05-23 14:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by missp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time we clarify this stereotype: I don't think women care about the money. We're hardwired to look for a man that can provide STABILITY and financial assurance for potential offsprings.
So no matter how much you like a guy, as a woman, something makes you think Long Term, about how well will this guy provide for a family..If a guy doesn't have a job, some money, some type of property (car, house etc), a woman wonders why -what are the guy's priorities. She may think he isn't mature enough and he doesn't care about a potential family.
That there are some women that just want money for greed, what can I say...but MOST women just want the stability and assurance the guy is mature.
2007-05-23 14:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I resent that, a lot. I do not simply care for a guy's money. Yes it is nice to recieve a gift or go out sometimes, but I definatly recepricate, except with the random gift thing lol but thats for a couple of reasons A cant afford it and B dont know what to get if i oculd and C i dont think my bf would like it cuz last time I got him a present ( christmas ) he didnt like it and teasinly made fun of me anyway
I donnot simply like a guy for his money GOD why are men such .... nvm
2007-05-23 14:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOT ALL WOMEN care about money. As for me i am with someone who is broke all the time infact he doesn't even have a job right now. Money isn't everything but it does stand for being able to take care of yourself and proves that you are fincially responsible. So not all women want money and having it to be #1 but it would be in a list of the top 10 things. Beause like i said it does play a factor.
2007-05-23 14:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't. I make my own money. But I don't want to support a guy either. If he's a lazy mooch, I care how much money he has in his account, i.e. a negative balance. Other than that, if he supports himself and is productive, then I could care less if he has a little extra or not. Those other women who care about how much money you have, want you to support them. Or they are very materialistic.
2007-05-23 14:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Eisbär 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont care about money only... i can take care of myself.
the truth is, i don't want to be involved with a man who has nothing to offer, since i feel i have quite a lot to give myself....
i dated a man who pretended to be financially secure. came to find out he was months behind on his mortgage payment and his utilities were regularly shut OFF. his idea of a "date" was to sit around in his living room weekend after weekend watching movies and sleeping in his chair. all the while his home was beyond dismal, in disrepair and he saw nothing wrong with any of it. meanwhile, he was materialistic and a hoarder.
believe me, im not selfish or materialistic, but i do like a well-kept home and yard, neat and orderly. i like to go OUT on a date, and be courted... being shut in someone's living room stuck in front of the television watching tedious movies isn't my idea of a good time.
i don't expect someone to BUY me, or get me gifts constantly. but i do want someone who is financially secure and mature.
i already raised my kids.
one more thing -- if you are attracting materialistic money hungry women, perhaps you are putting on some sort of airs, sending signals that you've got money or something? step back and take a look...
relationships aren't all about money, that's for sure. but you cant live on love alone, either.
2007-05-23 14:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The only thing money-wise that I look at in a relationship is if he can support himselfl. It doesn't matter if he's a CEO at a Fortune 500 company or works at McDonalds after that.
2007-05-23 14:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by Erin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok revise your question to why do SOME women only want money!? My man don't have a lot of money, I'm the bread winner, and I don't have a problem with it. I had an opportunity to get an education and he didnt..not his fault.
2007-05-23 14:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by Ray Ray 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
We are living in a material world.
Also, some guys are total deadbeats and will mooch off their friends/girlfriends - it only takes one of those to make a girl suspicious. It's sad, but you'll meet someone different. It only takes one person.
Some women want to be taken care of, but not all want to be spoiled. I, for one, enjoy buying things for my boyfriend. I like taking care of him too.
2007-05-23 14:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by a gal and her dog 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
where do you find these girls sorry it is not about money she should have her own money and pay for stuff sometimes like every friday i take my boyfriend to a nice dinner because why should the guy pay for everything
2007-05-23 14:42:04 · answer #11 · answered by shebas mom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋