I've been seeing this guy for about 2 years on and off. We used to live near each other but then I moved about an hour away. We still saw each other when we could but we both have very busy schedules. We always talked on the phone even though we couldn't be with each other and everything was fine.. and then..nothing. He disapeared for three months without a trace! Mean huh? Well now he's back and wants to be with me again really bad. He admitted that he met a girl close to him that he got serious with but then they didn't work out. He's completely over her and now he wants me back. Should I give him another chance? Sorry this was long but any insightful answers would be appreciated.
2007-05-23 07:15:57 · 17 answers · asked by Eisbär 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
MY BEST ADVICE FOR YOU IS TO GIVE IT TIME. BEING WITH SOMEONE IS ALL ABOUT TAKING CHANCES. TAKE YOUR TIME AND SEE WHAT HAPPEN'S. DO NOT FREE YOURSELF TO HIM ALL AT ONCE. TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME AND SEE HOW IT WORK'S OUT. IF YOU STILL FEEL THE WAY YOU DID BEFORE THEN YOU KNOW YOU MADE A GOOD DECISION TO TRY IT AGAIN, BUT IF THERE ARE NONE OF THE SAME FEELINGS AND ACTION'S THAT YOU HAD WITH HIM BEFORE. TRY SOMETHING NEW. TELL HIM MAYBE IT'S BEST IF YOU GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER AGAIN AND SEE WHERE IT GOES FROM THERE... GOOD LUCK!
2007-05-23 07:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by SWEETPEA!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took the time to write a well thought out question, the least I could do is tell you the truth, the truth which is already in your question! "He admitted that he met a girl close to him....but then they didn't work out. He's completely over her and now he wants me back." Did you actually read that part? And if so, how many times? He not only left you, he was with another woman. Not only was he with another woman, he was serious with this woman but according to him " it didn't work out". That could mean a million different things, but if it was really his decision to close the relationship he would have said something like "I left her", "I told her she wasn't the one for me" "I couldn't stand losing you" any bullsh*t statement, but he chose, "it didn't work out" Translation? - "she was too smart and tossed me to the curb"
Don't be sorry your question was long, be sorry it wasn't long enough! You have a right to be concerned about letting someone back into your life. Just do it for the right reasons, not because it's an easy solution. Good luck to you.
2007-05-23 14:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by bei j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really into this long distance thing? An hour isn't a huge distance, but it makes it tough to see one another during the week if both parties work.
How often is he going to decide something local is more convenient than something an hour away?
This is your choice, but I think his previous actions should tell you a LOT about how he feels about you and your relationship...it's better than nothing.
Don't you want to be more than "better than nothing"?
2007-05-23 14:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he left for three months and didnt contact you and went out and found anothe rgirl closer to him what makes you think he wont be with both of you without you finding out because you live a hour away
go find someone new and closer to you so you can be happy again forget about him
he is over or was trying to get over you by finding a new girl
2007-05-23 14:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by shebas mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friends first, get to know each other first and I don't mean sex! connect with each other mind, spirit, soul, don't jump just because he came back. show him that you wasn't waiting around for him. but don't push him away either. Just chill and hang out first. Too find out if he is really over the other girl.
2007-05-23 14:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by wanwan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Na - lose him. Pulling a three month disappearing act is a shitty thing to do. If he does it once and you take him back, you've sent him the message that this type of behavior is acceptable.
2007-05-23 14:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure.
Maybe he now realized that you are the one for him. Don't drop everything for him immediately, but give him a chance to win you back.
2007-05-23 14:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by gmaher3700 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he would have told you that he met someone else when he did.. then I would say yes.. but just skipping out on you proves he is immature and only thinking about himself.
2007-05-23 14:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by Dee S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lisa, Sweetie only your heart can awnser this one. When ever someone strays though watch out for s.t.d"s !
2007-05-23 14:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your schedules still are just as busy and you arent moving closer or anything then i would end it while it wont hurt as badly... cause its pretty apparent he'll ditch you for someone in town.
2007-05-23 14:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by Garrette H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋