Those of us who have children- do you ever discipline them, or confront them about their behavior? Do you just tolerate what they are doing "because you love them so much". I hope not. God is our father, and He has His commands we must obey- if he tolerated us, God would not have sent Jesus. His love was shown on the cross- but He desires a change in behavior as well, and we are held accountable for that. IF someone is sinning, we should gently confront because we want what is best for others- not to make us look better, because we are sinners saved by grace- Tolerating sin is not love, it is apathy
2007-05-23 06:47:31 · 12 answers · asked by AdoreHim 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Red, I am not pointing fingers- I am also asking if we are tolerant of our own sin- Jesus loves the sinners- but He also told them to sin no more
2007-05-23 07:01:48 · update #1
I really think people have misunderstood me, and if that is the case please forgive me- telling people they are sinners, in a judgmental way is wrong- but if we were tolerant of every thing that happened in life, convicted murderers, would not be in jail, etc- that is what I meant.
2007-05-23 07:04:32 · update #2
Yes, I disciplined my children when they were young. Now they are older, I advise them, because I am no longer responsible for their behaviour.
Part of my work in a rehab for those who have suffered with addictions is confronting negative talking and behaviours. It is not natural to do so, but if it is done in love then the person will see that, and is more likely to see their error. Its called tough love, and it works!
2007-05-23 07:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tolerate doesn't mean ACCEPT. Our job with our children is to
lead them in the right direction, letting our lives be an example, and discipline them. We just need to ensure that we balance praise with discipline, so that our children are balanced and feel loved.
I have to TOLERATE, while not accepting, my co-worker belching every 2 seconds while he swigs back more soda, making the matter worse, because we work in the same office. Grrrrrrrrrr
2007-05-23 06:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by ™Tootsie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I confront MY children about what they are doing wrong. I don't confront someone else's, unless they're doing something that puts EVERYONE in danger. Its not my place.
And trust me, God will confront each one of us about what we're doing wrong. Whether we listen or not is our choice. I'm not going to tell some else that they are sinning. I'm not going to tell another person how to live their life.
I'll leave the gentle nudging to God. In the meantime, I'm going to try to be a good example of love and kindness to the people around me.
**edit: Sentencing criminals has nothing to do with religion or with Christian love. Punishing those who break the law has nothing to do with gently confronting them about their "sins", its about removing them from society for a certain amount of time because they've proven themselves unable to abide by the laws that society has set for itself.
There's a difference between confronting someone about a lifestyle choice and about allowing them to freely act in ways that are detrimental to all of us. For example; drinking alcohol is a lifestyle choice. Drinking and driving puts everyone at risk, so its against the law and its punished by the judicial system. But is driving while intoxicated an offense in the eyes of God? Who knows?
2007-05-23 06:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by ◦Delylah◦ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having children of your own is different than offering opinions to people who haven't asked you for yours. I am a Christian, but I was always taught to "witness" by my actions, not by words. My answer to "What would Jesus do?" He was tolerant and showed love and acceptance to everyone, no matter what they had done.
Why does everyone seem so pre-occupied with everyone else's sin? Do you live in a glass house?
2007-05-23 06:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by An Inconvenient Thinker 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's true no matter what your religion. I think it's worse than apathy. It's cowardice and stupid. When we treat our children this disrespectfully, not only does the child suffer, but the whole world suffers the fallout from one more insufferable, self-centered, undisciplined, hedonistic narcissist.
2007-05-23 06:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by jaicee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You spare the rod and the bible says you ruin the child. Sin is sin. By grace we are saved, sin is in no wise tolerated but forgiven.
2007-05-23 06:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tolerating sin is not love, it is apathy
AMEN SISTER!
The USA is becoming so PC it is nauseating.. THis will end soon as aJesus promised..
Blesss everyone even the atheists who sometimes Satan would like me condemn to eternal hell but I don't because Jesus is on my side.
2007-05-23 06:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Given your scenario, I suppose it would be okay with you if someone went up to YOUR kid and told them that they weren't acting right and threaten them with punishment. Is that right? I mean, they're just trying to be helpful and loving!
2007-05-23 06:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by glitterkittyy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes because teaching children the fundementals is comparable to someone who has a culture different than your own
2007-05-23 06:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by Kam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are saying that god sent himself to save us from himself by getting himself crucified.
Make perfect sense to me.
2007-05-23 06:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by JerseyRick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋