Is it better to have a large or small wedding?

Answer 1

If you have a large family and so does your fiance than no matter what you try to do the wedding is going to be large so don't even stress your self and try making it small. But even if it is big you can save some money and make some smart desicions. Don't be stressed out and remember to not to care what others think because this is your wedding day not theirs. Congrats, and hope it goes great!

Answer 2

It depends on the couple. Some people almost can't have small weddings because they know tons of people and don't want anyone to feel left out or their family is very large and close knit. And some people just like having tons of people and a huge celebration that's as big as the excitement they feel about getting married. Other people may feel that a wedding means more if only close friends and family are there. Or perhaps they're thinking ahead and would rather save to buy a house than spend a ton of moey on a one day celebration. Big and small weddings can both be very meaningful if the couple getting married is really in love. Personally, went with a small wedding, less than 50 guests at a private room in a nice restaurant. We enjoyed it and everyone else said they did too.

Answer 3

I wouldn't say one is better than the other, but there are considerations with each. I, personally, had a relatively small wedding. There were maybe 75 guests, but the ceremony itself was simple. Until one actually starts planning a wedding, it's hard to understand just how much work is involved and how stressful it can be. I feel that a wedding should be fun, and if you're totally stressed out because there are so many details, you aren't going to be enjoying yourself. However, if having a small wedding is going to make you feel as if you cheated yourself out of something special, then go for something a bit more elaborate. There is also the money aspect of a wedding to consider. You're fixing to start a life together, a life that will require money. Do you really want to drop thousands of dollars on an event that, even including the reception, likely won't last more than a couple of hours, or would you rather have that money to go towards a down payment on your new home or something else tangible? I work with a man who cashed in his pension in his early 60s and spent $40,000 on his daughter's wedding. That, in my opinion, was absolutely ridiculous! Even if my dad had wanted and been able to do something like that for my wedding, I wouldn't have let him. There are more sensible and responsible ways to spend $40,000 than on a wedding, like, for instance, your retirement. The most important thing, though, is that you and your intended be happy with the ceremony you plan. It's the same thing I told my brother and his fiancee before they got married. Don't worry about what people say you should do or have to do or anything else. You're just as married if you go to a justice of the peace and say your vows as you are if you spend $40,000 (not to mention taking five years off your life from stress) saying them. If you want "the dress, the guests, the cake, the car, the whole darn thing," go for it; if you want everyone wearing their bathing suits and eating corndogs, that's your perogative, too. Remember, it's YOUR wedding. As long as the two of you are happy, that's all that matters.

Answer 4

It's better to have a wedding that you and your fiancé want. For some people it's a large wedding, for others - a small one, or anything in between. I personally would never want to have a large wedding - but if someone's dream is to have the fairly-tale wedding with 300 guests and all the bells and whistles, then they should try and fulfill the dream.

Answer 5

I guess it really depends on personal preference. I personally think a smaller wedding is better. Weddings are supposed to be intimate and meaningful. I've been to weddings where I knew the family but not the couple - they didn't mean anything to me and I know the couple couldn't have cared less if I was there or not. One of my friends adamantly believes that people only have large weddings (over 80 people) for the gifts! So who knows?

Answer 6

Think about your budget first of all and what you can afford. Let this be a guide to the rest of what you plan because you dont want to end up in debt. Then have you and your fiance make a list of the people you just have to have at the wedding. Then you need to assume that not everyone is going to come. Since we are throwing our wedding in a different town than everyone lives we had 55 % of our invited guests coming which is the perfect number of 120 for us. But they say expect 1/4 of the people invited not to come.
Make sure to include the people that are going to make your day special and dont worry about hitting a set quota!
Good Luck!

Answer 7

I think it's nicer to have a small, intimate wedding with the families and close friends included. Those huge over-the-top fiascos that cost in the 10's of thousands are not going to last any longer than a smaller one (just ask Tori Spelling) The cost of a small one is less.

Answer 8

We're having a small wedding on June 15th of this year, 33 people. It's more intimate that way! Of course, sometimes this isn't possible if your or your fiance's family is large. The choice is up to you!

Answer 9

I'm a fan of small intimate wedding..Why have a large wedding with a bunch of people you probably don't know or like?

Answer 10

It really depends on who you really want at your wedding. We're having just family and our closest friends, so that's about 80 people. If you have a large family and tons of close friends, you're going to want a bigger wedding.

The point of a wedding is invite people you care about to celebrate your marriage with you.