Ive been with my g/f for 4 years and well I think I want her to move in. Ive asked my friends what to do and they told me no cuz it will mess things up. What to do?
2007-05-23 06:44:00 · 21 answers · asked by Dreamer7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ask yourself these questions:
Does she have a reliable source of income?
Does she pay her bills on time?
Have we spent enough time together to know that we're able
to live together?
Is her place up to part with how I think or agree that things in a place where I'd live should be kept?
Ask yourself these questions now, because they could become issues later and ruin the relationship if she moves in.
2007-05-23 06:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by geminig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally.. if u have been together for 4 years and u ask her and she says yes.. then i think u should do it.. if u feel its the right move.. go for it.. I mean 4 years is a long time.. I would assume u guys have been through the worst and best of a relationship. Talk to her about it and see what she says.
2007-05-23 06:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyWoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im about to move in with my boyfriend of two years, Im a little nervous but excited at the same time. The way I look at it, if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person then why not start making moves now? Putting it off isnt going to get you anywhere. And you wont know if it will work until you actually experience it. I say go for it, tell her how much you love her and ask her to move in with you. Good Luck with everything!
2007-05-23 06:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by LilMiss143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys always said no way, such an ego thing, if you love her and you both get on, then the next level maybe to move in together, asking friends opinions is one thing, but deep down you know you want too, dont be afraid of the slagging from your friends. The thing about moving in with someone is to remember that you still need your own space, example, i live with my boyf, i love it, but sometimes i wish he'd go out for awhile so that i can watch my girlie tv or whatever we girls do in peace, and sometimes he wants to watch the footie in peace, have a few beers and so thats fine, as long as you both know not to take offence with the other persons need for space. you'll be fine....ask her!!!!!
2007-05-23 06:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by natc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just asking this question mean you want her to. you cant focus on what will go wrong. think about the things that can go right. take the chance. if things go wrong then you can say you tried and it was good to find out instead of wasting more time.
if you follow what your friends say you will never move in with her or any other girl for that matter, so you can forget about marriage and kids too lol.
2007-05-23 07:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Your friends are 100% right it will mess things up moving in together. What ever happen to the proper way of waiting till marriage to move in together. You would be shacking up if not married!
2007-05-23 06:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, look at good vs. bad. See which one outweighs the other, and then sit down and think for a while... do you REALLY want to move her in? Once you answer that question for sure, go with your gut. Don't worry about what your friends say... just go with your gut. Hope this helps!
2007-05-23 06:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by WTF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her enough you will ask her to marry you. If you have lived apart this long, then why not get engaged and test your love.
I loved being in a realationship, but I felt married without actually being married. SO, I would make an honest women out of her.
2007-05-23 06:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by peaches830 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years and still going stronge, Why not live together. Makes perfect sense
2007-05-23 06:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by zeleigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way!!! Why not get married to her? You realize of course that even when you are living together you have to share bills, debts, etc. Also, if she gets pregnant you are still going to have to pay both child support and alimony. AND to add to it, if you live together, your chances of a divorce down the road go UP from 45% to 85%.
2007-05-23 06:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋