any DEEP guys out there. I like a guy who really thinks about things and thinks for himself...?

Question

i find when i date, a lot of guys talk about money or designer stuff or trying to get up the ladder etc which is fine but i like men who are sensitive and not afraid to stand out from the crowd and who are more interested in the deeper things rather than becoming some manager in an officer somewhere and trying to impress his friends. as a recently single independant woman in my 30'si'm worried that there are no deep thinking guys left for me to consider! are you out there?

no rob not all women like providers. i earn more than enough to keep me and three men.

Answer 1

I am happy being myself and do not feel the need to impress others, i leave that to the stress merchants. Unfortunately i am too old for you being in my mid 50s but i do wish you the very best of luck in your quest for happiness.

Answer 2

Judging by the other answers I think you should have started looking a bit before now because it seems most of the really genuine interesting guys get taken and the ladies who get them hang on to them as hard as they can! I'm taken and the only guy I know that falls into this category would not be interested in you. Oh and by the way I have some designer clothes, because they are very good quality (not because of the name) and the job I've fallen into requires me to wear a suit and if I'm going to wear a suit I make sure its a good one! I don't have much money and so I do talk a bit about it because I'd love some more! I've been in more bands than you can shake a stick at and have been an alternative musician / songwriter / poet for over 20 years. I have a degree and also professional qualifications. I also write and campaign for social justice, environmental causes etc. So don't always judge a book by its cover!

Answer 3

I'm all about deep. Every day of my life I spend my time thinking about the meaning of life and what it all means. I've never really cared about superficial things. I enjoy wearing nice clothes and having a good time, but the juice of life is much deeper, mysterious and wonderful. I've learned so much about life and myself and love. I kinda feel sorry for people that never think twice about the deeper questions because they will never know. I've met a woman once and loved her so deeply. We've connected on a level that most people will never dream about. It was eternal - almost magical. Some guys will think I'm a sissy. So what, I don't care. I live and breathe to know about life and if that makes me 'nerdy' or 'weird' then so be it.

Answer 4

They are out there. I consider myself that but sorry I'm taken. I have always been quiet (not shy), an observer, a good listerner, and a thinker (minored in Philosophy).

I think you need to be clear when you meet a guy. They want to show off and impress and those are the things that are important to them. Prepare some questions that could steer the conversation to deeper thinking......Good Luck!

Answer 5

I don't want to sound pretentious but I really love the deep things in life because designer things are just reflections of other, materialistic things (not necessarily bad things - its nice to have design) but are they relevant? Do they make sense of complicated matters and do they improve our understanding and knowledge?

Also, if you talk about what really matters to people it is a lot quicker to find out if you are on the same wavelength and going to make a go of it. Ultimately you don't move to a longer term relationship on falsehoods either.

However, if you are talking small talk/designery stuff to impress so you can be in bed together that's fine too if that is what you want?

Perhaps it is a way of finding out what kind of person you have in front of you.

best wishes, Shay

Answer 6

Of course they are out there. But the harder thing is finding us. I think the reason men talk about their successes so much is because we are taught we have to impress you enough for you to want to find out more of the inner things about us. So sometimes you will have to put up with the bragging and such initially to find out what is on the inside.
Besides in to days society it seems most girls want a bad boy. So most men try and act that way to attract the majority of women. Yet in reality most men are not bad boys. You have to get to know them and make them secure enough to allow that barrier to be let down.
Good luck

Answer 7

This is just an observation that I do not wish for you to take personally. I do taxes and keep most information privileged and to myself; as a result I don't talk much. I have also noticed that women enjoy talking more than men and that they verbally process mucho information. Men are simple creatures that drink beer and grunt. If we step outside the boundaries we are in over our heads.

Answer 8

If you took the time to read what "youngie" wrote then you have way to much free time on your hands. War and Peace was not that long and made more sense.

There are guys out here that fit that bill. Strong (mentally and emotionally), Confident and able to have an intelligent conversation.

But I think most people are looking for true love but what they don't know is that..........LOVE is a verb.

Answer 9

Yeah, I think there are some deep thinkers out there. But women like providers, whether you think you do or not. Naturally, guys want to make some money. Doctors, lawyers, and professors, instead of corporate types, might be what you are looking for.

Answer 10

Because it's the thing that they are good at, has nothing to do with deep thinking...and to become a manager you got to be able to stand out from the crowd...

Take it easy