My step-dad hates me. He tells me that my feelings dont matter and other things. My mom keeps telling me she cant stand it and she is going to leave him. I dont understand why she is even with him when he TRIED to kill her!!!and he brought drugs into my house and everything. He even tried to beat me and other things. My left him last year but got back with him cause her bf took to to Harrisburg and left me there until 3 in the morning I didnt know where to go.I feel like I did something wrong. and my mother is sending me to conseling because of him! I didnt even do anything! HELP ME! I need help....
2007-05-23 06:30:17 · 7 answers · asked by Jazmynnn :] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
omg jasmine! If he is really that horrible, than you should tell someone like the guidence counselor. but if i was in that situation then i wouldnt want the guidance counselor to know soo....try talking to your mom. If she doesnt listen to you then, maybe you shound move in with your REAL dad. okay bells about to ring. cya
2007-05-23 06:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK there are no easy solutions. It's sad when the child has to be the parent. I feel for you.
How old are you? Can you be an emancipated minor?
If there are drugs in the house - call the police. Press charges.
If your step dad hits you - call the police. Press charges.
If your step dad is violent to anyone else in your family - call the police. Press charges.
If you get "dumped" in a strange city ever again, call the police. Press charges.
The thing is, once you press charges, everyone will be furious with you because you upset the apple cart and now there's a public record of it. Of course your Mom needs a kick in the pants to get motivated enough to leave - but she'll be the first to deny anything going on.
But call the police and press the charges. make them stick. Even if you have to go to foster home - press the charges and make them stick.
Otherwise, you'll both end up physically hurt - or worse -
Good luck. I'll pray.
2007-05-23 13:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is physically abusing anyone call the cops when it happens. Also when he isnt there get his drugs and flush them. If cops find drugs there your mother could also go to prison for it because she allowed it in the house.
Go ahead and go to counseling that sure cant hurt and the counselor can help you. You might be able to teach your mother something about living with abusive men.
Hang in there, things can get better. Your life isnt just about now and the next few years. It will get better, sometimes it just takes time.
2007-05-23 14:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom, let her know that if she wants to stay in this destructive relationship that its not only destroying your life but your an her relationship. i think you need to call family member and ask to stay with them. why should u be mentally and verbally abused. drugs around minor> ur mom has made some poor choices and u shouldn't go to counseling she should! tell her if anyone needs counseling its her and in the mean time u need to stay with a relative who will look out for yoUr best interests not theirs. ur mom is a very selfish person and i feel sorry that you have to deal with this abuse. good luck.
2007-05-23 13:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely speak to a family memeber that you know that you can trust. maybe they will allow you to stay with them. Or if you don't have a close family member, you definitely need to speak with the authorities (the police). The one thing that you don't need is to be in an abusive household. This jacka** is tearing up your home, and won't stop until his damage there is done. Good luck with everything and God Bless!
2007-05-23 13:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi Hon... before i say anything else, i want you to know that counseling is nothing like a prison sentence... it can be very helpful and healing.... just give it a chance. i have been in therapy off and on for years, and it's helped me quite a lot.
be honest and up front with your counselor. let them know how you are feeling and what is going on in your life... they have heard it all, and won't be shocked or surprised... and it can be quite comforting knowing there is someone you can talk with and who is there to guide and help you.
you deserve good help, and i think that is what your mom is trying to provide....
therapy works when you WORK it.....take care of yourself. xo
2007-05-23 13:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops. Get out of this abusive family life.
2007-05-23 13:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by Atavacron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋