My boyfriend of 3 years say if I don't convert from Hinduism to Christianity , then we can't get married. What should i do? I know we will have problems with kids and stuff along the way if I don't but i am willing to try. I don't want to convert, but at the same time I am not a hardcore Hindu. Still I don't want to convert. Help please.
2007-05-23 06:17:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It's hard to come to this kind of question when you're in love... but really it takes more than love to make a marriage work.
If you are willing (or even if you CAN) to subjugate your beliefs to his, then I am very sorry for you. He does not respect your opinion or beliefs and he will always expect you, for the rest of your lives, to defer to him. He will always be in charge, because you would be sending him the message from the very beginning that what he wants is more important than what you want or feel.
This is not a life I would want to live nor a setting I would want to bring children into... but it's your life and not mine, so I can only offer my opinion and what I would do. I would find someone who would be okay with my beliefs. In fact that's what I did, so I know it's possible.
2007-05-23 06:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always study it and then decide, I suggest that he study Hinduism as well so he can understand your beliefs.
But, even though I am a Christian and would love to welcome you, don't change for anyone else than yourself.
You have to be true to yourself first.
Good Luck and God Bless you in your search.
It is a good thing that you are talking about this before marriage!
2007-05-23 06:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a christian. Being a christian is something you have to decide for yourself. It is a decision you have to make willingly to follow Jesus as your Savior. He wants you to come to him of your own free will. I suggest that you take this course called the Alpha course to find out more information about Christianity. It is free and offered all around the world. No one there will pressure you to become a christian. It is just for people who want to know and have their questions answered about Christianity. Check it out at http://alpha.org/default.asp
2007-05-23 06:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who REQUIRES you to convert to HIS religion in order to make you worthy of marriage, is an arrogant piece of crap and you should dump him on the spot. If you marry this guy, you will regret it and it will end badly. Find someone who loves and respects you for who you ARE, not someone who requires you to change to meet HIS specifications.
You're lucky you found out about what he's truly like BEFORE you guys got married. Lose this loser.
2007-05-23 06:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a decision that is right for you, you have your own mind and if you are not comfortable converting then maybe you two might have to reevaluate your relationship. And also there can be a compromise, but it will be difficult to have two different beliefs in one household.
2007-05-23 06:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by karamelchem_1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would seek answers independently of him, and then decide. I wouldn't do it just to marry him, because it will cause problems later.
I would look through a Bible, try praying to the God of the Bible, and ask questions. I would also speak with a mature minister about what it means to be a Christian, then decide.
2007-05-23 06:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by peacetimewarror 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your boyfriend insists on you changing your religion, he will continue to insist on many other things in your life. Are you prepared to have him make all your decisions for you? If you are then change your religion but expect to have to submit to his demands forever.
On the other hand if you don't want to be told what you can and can't do all your life, find another boyfriend now.
2007-05-23 06:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its evident that this relationship wont work as there isnt any spark for sacrifice from either side.
Get over it.
2007-05-23 06:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by ManhattanGirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋