Do you know how people tell you that you will want kids when you get older?

Question

Well it seems the older I get the less and less I like kids. Does anyone else have this happen to them?

Answer 1

It's rather surprising how many people will tell you to your face that you do indeed want kids even after you've told them you don't want them. It's sooo hard for a lot of women to accept not all women want kids. Every single person I tell that I don't want kids, and haven't ever wanted kids even when I was little what a lot of girls my age were thinking of names, will tell me I'm wrong and that I'll "grow out of it". I try telling them these 10 years of not wanting to have kids is not a phase but they roll their eyes and tell me "I just don't know what I want" as if they know what's best for me. It's normal what you're feeling. Some women just want something different with their lives.

Answer 2

Everyone is different. You will get older and you may or may not want them later. Personally I believe if you feel like you don't want kids don't have them because the child deserves to have a parent who wants them and loves them (not that YOU wouldn't love them if you did have them). I grew up wanting to be a mom...that was what I knew I was born to do. It is hard and it is all time consuming but EVERY little thing my baby boy does gives me so much joy. You know what is right for you, don't let anyone persude you otherwise. As for when people tell you stuff like that just tell them "I think I know what I want out of MY life" and just leave it at that. Or ignore them =) haha good luck!

Answer 3

I'm 38 and never had kids. Never wanted them. We are friends with two other couples who feel the same way, and don't have kids.

We also have several friends who do have kids.

If you don't want children, it's not right to have them. Don't let other people judge you or make you feel "weird" for making an important, life changing decision like this. It takes a lot of guts to go against convention and do what you feel is right when it comes to something like this. You should be commended.

Answer 4

Yes. I'm 24 and any one I express with wishes to not have children with gets all up in arms about it, saying I will change my mind when I get older. Having just got out of a relationship with someone who has a child, who I helped raise for a few years, I know I will not be changing my mind.

Answer 5

Having kids is such a personal choice...fraught with so much personal information...health, finances, timing, etc. Don't fall for anyone Else's idea of what you should want. In this area, there are no returns, no refunds, no exchanges, no exits.

My brother and his wife staunchly refused kids...until she got pregnant! Nowdays, they are the worst parents I've ever had the displeasure of seeing. Learn from their mistakes!

Don't do it if you don't want to!!!

Answer 6

If you dont want kids, then it's simple....use a contraceptive or a condom. There is no shame in not wanting kids, it's your own personal preference. Personally, I love kids and you are producing a part of your own heritage, someone to leave your possessions to and someone to leave part of your life to. If we all felt like that, there would be no-one left in the world..............would there???

Answer 7

You may or may not want kids when you are older. I wouldn't worry too much about it. If you don't want kids, make sure you are taking all the necessary steps NOT to get preganant.

Answer 8

I don't believe that is true. My aunt is 38 and has never had kids and she is happy with that. She says she still doesn't want kids. Not everybody has to want kids and age doesn't necessarily play a factor in that.

Answer 9

what happens to me is that the more i grow the more the ordeals of pregnancy seem just too overwhelming. I guess it's easy to assume that we'll want them as we grow - we may not experience this change, and still live wonderful childless lives!