My one year old has started to have tantrums and I have been told the way to deal with them is to ignore her. However she has started to throw her whole body backwards so she falls over and bangs her head. Is there something wrong with her, is this signs of some mental disability and how do I deal with it.
2007-05-23 04:49:11 · 16 answers · asked by Debs 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
LOL. She doesn't have anything wrong with her. They twist, turn, jerk, hold their breath, bang their heads, anything to try to scare you so that they get what they want. When she starts it, put her in her play pen or crib. She can throw herself backwards in those places w/o getting hurt. I had a cousin that did this around her age. He threw a tantrum on concrete, hit his head, and never did it again. However, I don't suggest that you let her do that. Let her work her problems out in safety if possible. If she does it in public, take her to the car until she calms down. These are just attempts by her to get your attention. Explain what is going on, why she can't have her way, and put her where she is safe. She does understand what you are telling her at this age, she just can't answer back. Kids are smarter than most people give them credit for.
2007-05-23 04:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she just wants your attention. When she sees it's not working...she's going the "extra mile" to make sure you "see" her. Make sure when she is behaving you coo over her and tell her how proud you are that whatever your doing at the time is going well. Ignoring the tantrum thing...if you can leave the room, not just ignore... if she doesn't have an audience for the performance then she will give up. If you see the tantrum coming stop it before it starts... redirect, go do something else with her. Also talk to her about being mad or frustrated and while it's ok to feel that way it's not ok to act the way she's acting. babycenter.com can give you some ideas on how to redirect her and advice from other parents in the same boat.
2007-05-23 04:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by trblueyess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is fine she has just learned that you are going to ignore her so now she has to try something new. My daughter tried banging her head on the floor a few times and learned her lesson. She is just testing you...you have a strong little girl there...my best advice would be to chose your battles wisely. My 2 1/2 year has also been very strong willed and it doesn't seem like it will ever go away, but I'm ok with that. She has calmed down a great deal since she vocabulary is increasing everyday and she can just say what she wants or doesn't want...what a blessing...lol.
If she hurts herself a little, I would check on her, but not fuss over her. Once you know she is fine let her continue her tantrum...she will get bored and find something else to do.
Good luck.
2007-05-23 05:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with her. She's just doing her best to get your attention. As she's in danger of hurting herself by doing this, try distraction rather than ignoring her. She's a little young to understand being ignored at a year old. When she starts to throw a tantrum act really amazed at something outside the window (Wow, come and see this! It's a really pretty bird) and when she comes over lift her up and say "did you see it? No? Never mind. Would you like a drink?(Or to read a book or whatever)" She'll forget all about it!
2007-05-23 04:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by georgina155744 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL my son been doing that since i don't know i say for about since he was 5 months and it is better if you just ignore some times but other time when she gets to throw them tantrums that just want stop you have to correct the situation by telling her that it is not okay to do that and when you do that you don't get your way and a little spanking want hurt or you can fall down with her and show her how crazy it looks that worked with mine son lol.
2007-05-23 05:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with her my son use to do it, he done it that hard he use to fling him self backwards then forwards & head butt the floor, people thought he was @ special ed!
It is normal believe me a lot of people have had there kids go through this.
I know what you mean about ignoring.
If mine started to do it I picked him up put on the sofa & made him sit there, I also took his favorite toy away & said "your gonna make mammy fed up if you move off the sofa & dont behave you do not get your toy back"
Mine sat on the sofa sulking for ages which gave me some peace for a while lol then would get up after 20 mins half hour & ask for the toy, I would say the rules again if he started again I repeated the process, it took me about a month but it sunk in in the end
2007-05-23 04:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by ♪¥Nicole¥♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe get a travel cot as these are soft all round. You could put her into the travel cot/play pen (a safe place) when she starst having a tantrum so that if she throws herself back she will come to no harm and you can take a back seat and ignore untill she has finished. I use a travel cot and its a godsend. I dont have tha same problem but would use it in this way if i did.
2007-05-24 22:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by carinaburke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with her, she's just going for the biggest impact to get your attention.
If you are at home and she throws these types of tantrums...move her to an area where she can't hurt herself and say you can have your tantrum over here (then ignore her) or put her in her crib and say when you're finished you can come out. .... we leave the door open, but it's really up to you.
2007-05-23 06:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by kittynala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not a mental disability.
Don't ignore it...do you know what a tantrum is? It's a challenge to you. She wants to see how far she has to go to get your attention (I'll bet banging her head got it, didn't it?).
Ignoring it means she will just turn up the volume. Address it. Tell her to stop and punish her for misbehaving. Keep doing it until she stops. She will kepe trying to challenge you and try to go further---you just have to let her know who is boss. If you don't, she'll never learn!
2007-05-23 04:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by Waiting and Wishing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a little young for the terrible twos, but it is most likely her way of trying out independence. When my daughter was 18 months, she got to be such a terror that we took her to the doctor. He laughed. At one point, in a super market, she demanded to be carried in arm. I told her she could ride or walk. She was screaming mad, throwing herself in front of the cart. Finally, I just lost it and started laughing at the whole situation. I walked around her, she would get up, run and throw herself again in front of me. We covered half the store before she finally realized she would not win. The rest of the store she rode in the kid seat in the cart. Now, if she keeps hitting her head, you might want to take her to a quick doctor visit. Just to make sure. It is likely that it was pass. My little one is now 21.
2007-05-23 05:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by Songbyrd JPA ✡ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋