Im 20 yrs old and my lil sister is 11. my question is whats the best way to talk to her an advise her about life, sex and boys... she's really young i know but she knows way too much... i mean she's a little adult.. i want to talk to her and explaine that everythin has a time because she wants to grow up fast and i want to keep her little inocense... i dont want to scare her, or make her look at me like i got 5 heads... u understand... kids these days want to do everything to impress others... i just want to be there for her!!
2007-05-23 04:38:15 · 14 answers · asked by [[Simply*Genuine]] 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i think the best thing for you to do is be her big sister and her friend. if you go at her like you are mom, it is not going to do any good. if you have a good relationship with her, then you should nurture it. she probably looks up to you and will come to you for advice if she feels like she can. just try to maintain a positive relationship with her and hopefully you will be her confidante.
2007-05-23 04:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by iluvnola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her generation is at a faster pace and it may be best to do that now. You being a sister rather than mother you are more of an idol to her. Explain to her that she should live her childhood to the fullest and when it is time to grow up then she will know. Let her know the consequences of having sex and having a boyfriend. Explain to her that she will soon enough be a teenager before she believes it and things will be much more difficult to decide. Make sure she knows that only SHE can decide on what she does, no one else does that for her.
2007-05-23 12:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by Meggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it then just be there for her. Tell her boys are only after one thing and see if she knows what it is. I assume she is closer to you than your mom but that can be good. You are not outdated as your mother might be. Do not however lecture her. Then you will be your mom. Just help her feel that is she needs to talk that she can call you anytime and let her know that you are not trying to keep her a baby you just want to keep her from getting hurt but remember...you live and you learn. She will lose boyfriends and friends it is inevitable. All you can do is be there after the fact. Help her understand the consequences of sex bbut she will ultimately make her own choices.
2007-05-23 11:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by zimzigger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her read this. I am 16 years old and I have a baby and Im pregnant. I was not ready for it and before this all happened I had dreams of becoming a doctor now Im not saying I still cant but it will be very hard. Take it from me, you are not ready to do anything like this. Have fun being a kid. I was a cheerleader before I got pregnant and I lost my whole highschool life because of it. I love my kids and all, but I wish I would have waited until I was older.
2007-05-23 11:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by andybrittanychelsey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good big sis. My sister was 9 years older than I as well.
Seems to me, your sister is going to do what she wants no matter what you say, if she is as anxious to grow up as you say. My suggestion: give her advice whenever you see the opportunity, but expect her not to take it. Be there for her when she falls, as she most definitely will. Make sure she knows you are on her side.
2007-05-23 11:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by moonshadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to any major bookstore and the juvenile section will sell books that expalin these terms regarding sexuality. Insure you know here friends, keep her involved in whole some activities.
One question-- why isn't your mother doing this? Are you her guardian?
2007-05-23 11:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by kaitken52000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand you want to be there for her, and explain these things, but where are your parents? They should be the one to have the "talk" with her, then if she has any questions afterwards or would feel more comfortable talking to you, then she can come to you...
2007-05-23 11:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Alexisbelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are willing to answer her questions. Whatever she asks answer with just the facts, don't be judgemental, just honest. And just simply answer her question--don't go into a whole bunch of detail until she asks for it.
2007-05-23 11:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi my names alice and im twelve my mom explained stuff to me like that and told me more as i got older at fist it was when a momy and a daddy love eachouther they have a baby then it got to they make love then they have sex ect,you dont have to embarris her just tell her you there if she wants to ask you anything and it stays beetweeen you 2 its good that u want to advise her i no im some times embarised to ask my mom stuff but my bros 19 and i feel less embarised to talk to him pluss hes going through i trust him and his judgment i even talk to him bout girly stuff like who i fancie and what to do about it and he askes me to when he brings ladie friends home he askes me if i like them and if i think they like him and its good to have that bond of trust hope this helps alicex
2007-05-23 11:52:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stare at the ceiling until the ordeal is over.
2007-05-23 12:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋