She wants to marry me?

Question

Me and my girlfriend we are together for almost 3 months. I am 40 and she is 32
I go often at her appartment and she cooks for me. We have an honest relationship (I believe)
We have discussed about the medications we both take
We met at yahoo personals.
Yesterday I introduced her at my best friend. Before that she offered me a red rose.
Somehow we had a conversation after that and she proposed me to live with her for some time and marry her. That was suddent.
Its not that I don’t want but is it too early?
I have never been married and I don’t know what should I do and what movements so this can be succesfull. Maybe some more time to establish that we or she really is what she wants?
Please give some advices according to your experience
Thank you

Answer 1

I wouldn't think 3 months is enough time to get to know someone well enough for marriage but of course this is my opinion... others will say it is plenty of time.

If you aren't sure it's the right time, then it's NOT. Just be honest with her, tell her you would like to get to know her better and have more time to see if marriage is even something you would like to do at all.... I mean if your 40 and never married, you must have reasons for that.

Honesty is always the best option and allthough it may hurt her at first she will appreciate it and everything should be fine.

Answer 2

3 months seems like it would really be hard to get to know that person. People change so much as time goes on. I would advise waiting and experiencing more things together so you get to know a person in all sorts of different situations. Also it's still the phase were where you are giddy and lovey and the world seems perfect. I've though someone was the one after a few months, then down the road the romance would wear off. From personal experience I would say wait at least a year. If it was really meant to be then you will have a lifetime together and there is no need to rush.

Answer 3

I think 3 months is a bit too soon. Perhaps you should talk to her and just be honest. If she loves you, really loves you, she will understand. She needs to understand, that maybe it would be better to live together to see if you are really compatible. Sounds she like she is rushing into this blindfolded. Not that you are a bad guy or anything like that...is she the type that needs someone in her life? Is she the type that needs to be married? You really need to sit down and talk to her. I am a woman, and I would never ask someone to marry me after 3 months....yes..maybe we might know each other..but it takes a lot longer to build a stronger foundation for a lasting relationship.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Part of your description sounds like my boyfriend and I. I'm 32 and he's 40. We're open and honest with each other about all things. He spends frequent nights at my place, and I do cook for him sometimes. We've only been together half the time you and your girlfriend have been. My friends tease me about marrying my boyfriend someday and the like. But even I think it's too soon. 3 months is too soon to consider living with someone, let alone marrying them. I wouldn't even want to live with someone if I didn't love them. 3 months is not enough time for me to know that I feel love for someone.

I would be honest with her and tell her that she's moving too fast and you don't know if you're ready for something like that...yet. At 32, she should be able to understand and respect your feelings. And of course, you're not saying you don't want to be with her, but you need to be sure of what you want and how you feel before you can take those steps.

Answer 5

You could ditch this woman and meet the kind of woman you think you deserve, and she might be the very kind of woman you do deserve, and she might dazzle you with her knowledge of the world, dazzle you in bed, dazzle you into marriage, kids and family, dazzle you and dazzle you while secretly loathing your narrowness, your coldness, your insufferably self-centered worldview and secretly seeking warmth and fire in a man twice your size in every respect, secretly giving him the money you earn and the affection you used to get from her, giving him even the children that you think are yours even though they look more like your wife, actually, perhaps representing the activation of some recessive gene that she probably wouldn't understand because she is not, after all -- dazzling as she is -- your intellectual equal, though she's certainly closer to your ideal than that poor, mewling sentimentalist you left crying on the side of the road that rainy November Sunday when you just couldn't suffer her insipid tales of real life, real friends and real family any longer.

You could live with the woman of your dreams in initial happiness but growing discomfort until one day you return home from work at the prestigious chemical laboratory where you're developing a new compound of mental Viagra to find all the furniture, cars, money and children have disappeared, and the note she left says she's living on the other side of town with a bigger, harder, sweeter, better-looking and smarter man, the kids were never yours, goodbye sucker, sweet dreams.

I can imagine this with a relish that is sickening in its sweet vengeance, aesthetic

Answer 6

i'm assuming that for some reason ppl think it's any differet from a successful relationmship. i'd assume as two grown adults you have communication down if not it's a must as well as honor and commitment and being able to say yer wrong when she's the one who's wrong lol. don't sweat it man if two people are meant for reachother it will work if not such is life. other than that it's a breeze with the comfort of knowing you both have to think about things before you split usually which for some couples is a good thing others not i suppose.

Answer 7

Well, as you stated, you have an honest relationship with her. Don't let this proposal stop you now. Be honest with her, and let her know that it's just too soon. That doesn't change how you feel about her, you just need more time. If she is the kind of woman you think she is, she will most definately understand, and be willing to wait for you.

Answer 8

Your ages don't matter but moving in after 3 months is not a good idea. You barely know her. Wait at least a year, then talk about moving in and marriage. It's a big step to take in a relationship and you should be sure and ready. I'm no old fogee or conservative but I think it when it comes to relationships you need to take it a little old fashioned. There is way too much divorce and its way to easy to get it. Marriage is sacred and people just take it to lightly nowadays.

Answer 9

omg dude, I'm so happy that you are in love, that's wonderful but 3 months...no no if you never been married god you are in for a ride. Why don't you see where this love takes you & about a year goes by ask her to marry you if she is still around (not to be mean) but if she wants to be married already at 3 months something is wrong with that picture. I think this girl just want's to be married for any numbers of reason you might have other than your love! P_lease be careful in your choice divorice it not pretty & she will leave your a** with half!

Answer 10

i am only 16 and so i dont know anything about adult relationships! but what i do know is my parents dated for 4 months then my dad proposed... they got married 2 years later... n they are still very happy and very much in love today! i say if you both know you love each other and are both happy then do it... and you dont have 2 get married straight away... like my parents you could wait a couple of years to see if you feel like you are doing the right thing! and if things change then you will know what to do!

good luck! xxxxxxxxxxxxx