I live with my parents, but don't talk to them much about what's going on in my mind, life.
I work full-time as an Accountant and am out of the house from 7 a.m. to 6 p.m.
However, in the evenings I get bored and lonely sometimes. I just eat dinner, help in the kitchen some and then am on the computer or read.
I am planning to move on soon and am only living at home temporarily.
I do attend a Divorce Support Recovery Group one evening per week.
What else can I do to prevent the loneliness and boredom?
I know that I should be more open with my parents, but they offer their opinion and I don't always want that.
I am dealing with guilt because my child is not living with me and nasty, threatening voicemails from my ex-husband which I try to ignore.
My parents put pressure on me to vacation, spend money and go out and meet someone. I will do this, but in my own time.
My brother is of no help because he tells me that I am bipolar which I am not.
2007-05-23 04:04:58 · 8 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have been where you are...and its hard. Its hard to just move on with your life, esp. after a divorce. And having your x- leaving you nasty voicemails...doesn't help. You said you are planning on moving out soon...maybe? Start making plans for it. How are you going to re-do the place? Busy your self with projects for your new place. Do you have any old friends that you can re-connect with? Or any new friends that you can maybe go out to dinner with or to the movies? You don't need to find a new relationship...if you don't want one...But you need to start doing things here and there to keep yourself busy. You will get depressed if you keep following the same patterns. The guilt you feel about your child...I don't know the situation with that...but I know my daughter is living with her father and I have visitation rights, that he doesn't follow and don't get to see her when I want...but I talk to her twice a week...try reconnecting with your child. It helps. Good luck
2007-05-23 04:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could invite your parents to go bowling with you. That's a fun activity you can enjoy together and not have to talk about deep issues while you do it.
Since you like to read you could sign up for a reading group at a bookstore. Barnes N Noble, or Borders and others have reading groups posted on their walls.
Since you are homesick for your little one, how about adopting a lil brother or lil sister?
Any hobbies are very good at keeping your mind at peace. Any interest in cooking, scrapbooking, cake decorating, sewing, photography, etc?
2007-05-23 11:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by SayWhat? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick back and smoke a J.
What interests you? If you've got lots of free time, you can improve on an old talent or interest, or learn about a new one. Learn to play a musical instrument. Take up an art medium. Train a dog. Learn photography. Read, study, improve yourself. Find out what it takes to get custody of your child and work on that (if that's what you want).
VOLUNTEER!! It's a great productive way to spend your time and a great way to meet people and gain friends with similar interests and values.
2007-05-23 11:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to hear about what you are going Thur.if i was you there is a ton of single web sites that you can to. i have two friends that found their true love on a web dating site. if you have a religious belief they will probably have a website to go to meet singles with your same belief backgrounds. there is also support groups for single moms. it sounds like you are lonely you have to go out and find some friends to talk to. good luck in your life.
2007-05-23 11:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to find some hobbies that really interest you. Join a painting class, a sports team, something that will introduce you to people and allow you to have fun at the same time. Find some things that make you you, and make you happy.
2007-05-23 11:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try taking walks, maybe going to a local concert, coffee shop, library, etc.
Just get out and do little things at a time that you enjoy, and pretty soon you'll build yourself up a busy life.
2007-05-23 11:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by batmantis1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about talking to your child on the phone since he or she doesnt live with you.
2007-05-23 11:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by crystal lee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
buy a vibrator.
2007-05-23 11:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋