guys I need your help!?

Question

Alright, Here goes: I went to my fiancee's softball game and for the first time since they have started playing they won 17 to 7 and all the other fiancee's and girlfriends and wives that were sitting over by the diamond they were playing on said stuff like "you know we are getting some tonight" and I knew that I was the onlyo ne who wouldn't be... so the game is over and he gives me a victory kiss and all that and we leave to go pick up our kid's from the sitters and go home....on the way home I asked him jokingly if "i would be getting some" and he said "you work 11-5 tonight and you are off tommorrow so we can celebrate tommorrow" so I left it at that and went to work, the whole time I was at work i couldn't help but be upset over the fact that it's been a month since we last did anything and he keeps avoiding it, I wrote him a note for him to see this morning when he got up for work and it basically said that I acknowledge other couples affection and am wondering where we lost ours

Answer 1

There are alot of things that could be factoring in. Stress, problems at work etc. Just wait and see what he says. Cause its not very often that a guy turns it down.

Answer 2

You have a right to ask....and yes...this is a good question. I'm a man that has a passion for life as well as a passion for a woman's company. But a month....a month???...that is a warning sign. And don't put it on your shoulders. There is something wrong, and you need to talk to him. Just ask straight forward and see what he says. I hope this works out for you. The only reason I'm pushing the envelope on this question is that I could not imagine going more than 3 days if I'm in a relationship with someone. Hang in there and keep him "Honest"

Answer 3

How long have you been married? This happens and its something you HAVE to get to the bottom of. Marriage takes work on so many levels. Intimacy is just one of them. If the intimacy goes away for too long it will leave forever and the marriage will fail. It must be solved. Sit him down and discuss it. Therapy is another solution. You can try the normal sexual things that get a guy going to see if that makes a difference. Try everything and desperately fix this.

Answer 4

OK well.. AHUn i say take off work FOr just one night, but make him think you are leaving.. Send the kids to a babysitter.

Come home , and suprise him when he walks up stairs. Have on something black, and see through do your makeup fix your hair, and just smirk at him as he comes through the door.. He will be shocked, and happy..

Take on a role.. if it helps you like a succubus, or somthing along those lines.~Bay~

Answer 5

thats a tough 1 sam, man involved in sports team (thats normally loses) wins a game and he doesnt want to get home to celebrate wit his woman. Thats a guy I dont understand. hey it could be something medical or maybe he just doesnt fancy you any more. you should find out wots up, if it s medical just support him all the way, if its the other option then I'm not sure how you fix that. good luck

Answer 6

while a note starts the process you need to sit down and thrash this out ---- what is his problem --- if you cant find out and reestablish the affection there are problems on the horizon --- best wishes

Answer 7

I'd wait to see his response to the letter. Alot could be factoring into his lack of drive.

Answer 8

baby girl, arrrgh! what with the note! this would make you play defense. sweetie, just go get what you want from him. don't let him use sex as a tool. in a relationship, it's just not healthy.

Answer 9

You both need GOD in your lives.. at home .. at work and of course god can renew your lives for better - try it once and youll never regret it - best wishes .

Answer 10

That's good, your trying to communicate with him, now you have to get him to communicate with you