I paid for their dresses, so I was wondering if I should give them something small, and if so, what should I give them? Thanks
2007-05-23 03:29:35 · 41 answers · asked by mannasox 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I just noticed I cant spell today. lol BUY^^^
For those of you who commented about them helping me. I havent had a single piece of help in planning this entire wedding. I did it all with my fiance and his step-mom and his sister. none of my bridesmaids have helped with a single thing. one of them lives out of state, so thats understandable. But the one thats here hasnt done anything, and I've even questioned firing her.
2007-05-23 03:34:22 · update #1
oh and by the way for you rude azzes out there, My bridesmaids picked out their OWN dresses, so they dont think they're ugly. UGH why are people so rude and stupid?
2007-05-23 03:45:09 · update #2
no you should not. It's enough that you bought the dresses, usually they have to buy them
2007-05-23 03:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by jacky 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You paid for thier dresses, you already bought them a gift. If you want to get them something else here are a few ideas:
A small pair of earring for them to wear on the wedding day. They don't have to be expensive - they only have to compliment the dresses.
A trendy jewelry box or other item - check out a store that specializes in items made by women from other countries that are running these micro-loan businesses. The items are usually low ost and support a woman in an under-developed country and are really cute.
A travel jewelry/cosmetics pouch
A nice card thanking them for sharing the day and a CD compilation of some love songs and fun girl songs that you all share memories of (that you can make on your computer for plactically nothing but time!)
2007-05-23 04:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by Christina G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You paid for the dresses that should be enough. As for the bridesmaid that is here maybe you should just ask her out right to do whatever it is you want help with. I know you said you confronted her but what did she say? Bridesmaids are the ones that should plan the shower but if you only have one here is able to $$$$$$$ by herself? Does she know the other brdsmd. and could she get in touch with her to ask for some help$$$$. As far as planning your wedding that is your job. Unless you ask someone specifically for their input. You have to be careful when you ask someone to be in your wedding many people would like to but can't always afford what goes along with it. Good Luck on your Wedding
2007-05-23 05:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by BrownEyedGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think you need to buy them a gift since you paid for the dresses and they've put in no time helping you. Congrats on your wedding.
On a side note, I know what you mean about rude answers, dont understand why those people cant just move on to a different question or stay off the site if all they are gonna do is spew forth negativity, it is extremely annoying.
2007-05-23 04:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not required, but it is nice to do. My wife gave hers some inexpensive earings and necklaces that still looked nice. It is nice to have something they can remember from that day. My wife was heartbroken when she lost a monogrammed bag that she received as a bridesmaid's gift many years ago. My best man still carries the flask I gave him. The dresses were a very nice thing, but weddings are all about the memories and preserving them through the years.
2007-05-23 03:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by aerman01 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You aren't required to do anything. I would think that paying for their dresses was enough. However, if you feel like you should still do something small you could get them:
jewlery for the wedding
let them take home a centerpiece from the wedding
a picture frame and later insert a picture of you and them
wine glass for the reception that they can keep
purse
slippers for after the wedding
2007-05-23 03:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You paid for the dresses, you are a saint. I was in four weddings. The gift is just an after thought. I did get a nice Cross Pen which I still use every month and a mug with my name on it I still use. I would get them something like that, something they will use and remember you by, yet inexpensive.
2007-05-23 03:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by Tim O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dress is your gift, You have been more than generous by footing the bill for the dresses and no further gifts are required.
If you feel compelled to give them something else, try a lotion sampler from Vistoria's secret or Bath and Body works for abour $15 dollaras a piece.
Good luck
2007-05-23 04:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you paid for their dresses and they aren't helping plan the wedding I would say no. But if it would make you feel better you could get them all some cheap earrings or something small like that to say thanks for being in the wedding. Since they are from out of town, that may be a nice thing to do- they have to travel to get to the wedding. Good luck with your wedding
2007-05-23 04:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by like the ocean needs the waves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Buying their dresses was a really great and thoughtful gift! If your budget is strapped, I'd just give them a thank-you card at the rehearsal dinner and maybe a picture of yourself with each bridesmaid in an inexpensive frame (from the dollar store or wal-mart).
I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
2007-05-23 03:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to buy them anything. you didn't even have to pay for their dress. of all the weddings ive been in i always paid for my dress I never got a gift and ive been in weddings since i was a little girl doing flower girl. I've been in at least 25 weddings. the only gift I got was being part of wedding.
i'm getting married in november and yes all my bridesmaids are aware that they are paying for their dress and are not required to get me a gift and i will not be getting any of them a gift. i'm the one getting married i need all the cash i can get.
2007-05-23 03:37:13 · answer #11 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋