hi,all am 20 years old its been for a long time am in love with my cousine,i couldnt tell her yet but last saturday i called her and i asked her to come out with me,i wanna tell her that i love being with her,do you think i should tell her before going out?or should i just keep it for the time we go out?and by the way do you think it makes sense?that i have fallen in love with the daughter of my uncle?and do you think she will accept it?thank you all for your opinion.lol
2007-05-23 03:29:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi -- this is probably not all that uncommon, but it would be better to persue a girlfriend who isn't your relative.
2007-05-23 03:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are talking about a blood relative right? This would make her your first cousin? I usually don't like to judge on this board when making answers and I'm not going to now but I am going to state what I think is fact, Isn't this still illegal? Does she have any idea how you feel other than the family way of caring? Your taking a great risk here, if she doesn't feel the same way you two may not be the only ones who know what happens on your nite out. Maybe you should start by asking her questions about how she feels about interfamily relationships to see if she gets creeped out, tell her you heard such a story on a TV show and see how she reacts before you drop the bomb on her. There is a saying that goes,"Fore warned is fore armed." In other words, if you know what's ahead you can prepare.
2007-05-23 10:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure if she will except this, men are a lot more open to banging there cousin than girls are, if she does accept it don't keep reminding her that she is your uncle's daughter this may creep her out. unless she gets off on the fact you two are related then get ready for some hot incest sex.
In all serious i don't see a problem with this but i also bang trannys so i may be a little more open minded to this than your uncle will be
before you may the move just think about what next years family bbq will be like if she rejects you, if your willing to take the risk go 4 it
2007-05-23 10:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ahmed Abdul-Wahab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's interesting that you're so open to sharing your love...especially since she is your family...I guess that happens...I would try to find someone else. All the trouble it will cause won't be worth the love you have for her. She's your cousin. Your family won't be pleased. She might not be so down with the incest either. Not to mention that if she is and you don't care about the family opinions that your kids will be screwed up. So...put this love to the back of your head and limit it to family love...find someone else...you're only 20.
2007-05-23 10:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by Donnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saman thats a stange 1. Its not the 1st time Ive heard of it though as 1 of my close friends had a similar experience bout 2 years ago and when he told her she felt the same but their family went crazy and they moved to australia together to get away from all the s hit they were getting from people. but they are still together today. you gotta make your feeling known if its how you really feel, but be prepared to fall on your face if she reacts like most people would. good luck with wotever you choose.
2007-05-23 10:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be aware that there is a huge taboo surrounding love within families. even when it comes to cousins. if she is like most people she will probably reject you if you say anything about it and not really ever want to be around you again. without knowing her its hard to say what she'll do. but you have to decide within yourself whether or not its worth it to you to get your feelings out in the open at risk of losing her forever.
2007-05-23 10:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by kestrelk8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bit close in the blood relation, if you ask me.
Buttt I am not going to judge, if you really do feel that way, tell her. Better to tell the truth to someone instead of living a fantasy.
2007-05-23 10:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by Questionable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say what kind of reaction you will get. You should be prepared for her to be totally creeped out. Some people are ok with it while others think it's just one notch above sleeping with your sister. If it was me, I'd look outside my family for a dating partner.
2007-05-23 10:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not wrong to date ur cousin but i say tell her straight out and tell her that u love her and want to be with her. just if she doesn't take it the way u would like tell her that u want to be with her no matter what.
2007-05-23 10:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
err. i wouldn't advise on getting involved with yr cousin. think about the consequences when u break up. u still gotta see each other. and the ick factor when both sets of parents know.
2007-05-23 10:34:36 · answer #10 · answered by thatsoundssowrong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think , nothing is wrong with that, Let her know when you are out together, and great surprise for her. Wish you all the best and success
Good Luck
2007-05-23 11:48:54 · answer #11 · answered by Go Green 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋