Oct. 30th will make it 4years. My boyfriend and i met in 4th grade and stayed in contact all thru middle and high school. We got together a year after graduation it's going on 4 years. He always tells me he wants to be with me forever but he's not proving it.
His sister just got engaged to a guy just b/c shes pregnant by him and only knew him for 8 months. His brother just got down on one knee to his g/f of 1 year. Is something worng here? Or is it just me? Please help me b/c it is really getting to me now.
2007-05-23 03:13:09 · 25 answers · asked by tinkie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You mean you think there's a timeline for love? Like you've been biding your time with this guy long enough, so he should ask you already?
You haven't given any important details, like is he in school now? Is he waiting on a promotion? Transfer? Are you guys planning on buying a house? Is there any major changes looming on the horizon? There are many reasons that he might not have popped the question yet. Money, distance, education, job security...this list is endless.
Just sit down and talk to him about your concerns for the future. Maybe you'll find out what the reason is.
2007-05-23 03:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously not comitting to you in the way that you expect from your relationship. You may love him but he's totally disrespecting you by stringing you along. What if he never asks you to marry him? What about the four years you've put in already? There have been women that have waited 10 plus years and the guy never pops the question for some reason or another. Don't take any excuses from him...set a date, get a ring, or end it. You want someone to want to marry you not sit around hoping on something that's not paying off. You are not being a brat or pushy! Stand your ground and be a strong woman don't let him take advantage of you!
2007-05-23 10:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Allisia C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A year after graduation...plus 4 years, so you're like 24, 25? right?
if so, you still have so much time and maybe he just wants to get enough money together to get you the best ring he can and to be able to give you the best wedding he can...
four years is a long time, so when you feel the moment is right, talk to him about where you two stand and where you're going...
best of luck!
2007-05-23 10:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by sofia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if your under 25 i'd say wait, if your approching 25 in like the next year or so, i'd say its time to make a dession.
4 yrs is long enough plus all the time you two were friends for him to make a desision on weather or not he's really going to marry you.
There is no sence in hanging around if he's got no intentions of marrying you. That is ultimately your goal is to get married and have a husband.
I'd say talk with him and then go from there.
2007-05-23 10:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by lovelyinkedlady0613 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you ever talked to him about marriage? Maybe he does want to be with you forever, but just doesnt want to rush into marriage. Or perahaps he told you that just to make you happy but is still afraid. Marriage is a big step. It can be scary. No one wants to rush into it unless they are completely sure. Just because you have been together for 4 years doesnt mean you have to automatically get married. He may just not be ready! But on the same note, every girl wants to have her wedding day, so I see why you are so anxious! Ya know, you can propose to him too? You dont always have to wait on the guy to do it.
2007-05-23 10:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by nuniestar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no I agree with you! If he thinks your good enough to have around for four years aren't you good enough to marry? I would seriously sit him down and tell him that you don't want to let him have everything a wife woudl do for her husband without him being your husband. Like they say why buy the milk when you can have the cow for free. If he still doesn't want to get enaged within the year then take away the milk... no sex... no living together... no cooking every night. I would start dating and find a man who finds me worthy!!! Good luck!
2007-05-23 10:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by kerriannsurratt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not be ready for marriage. its more than just being together forever...its a whole new realm that comes with a lot of highs and lows. be patient. when it is time then it will be time. u dont want to get married before u know what it means because im telling u from what i know it wont last long.
2007-05-23 10:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by Karyn1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every couple is different and should be treated as such. Just because his sister just got engaged does not mean you should be too. If you're ready for that, talk to him about it. If you can't talk about it with him and tell him how you're feeling, it doesn't sound like you have a very mature relationship.
2007-05-23 10:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no your not being a brat, but you dont wanna rush it because then it may not work out. I know its been 4 years already but some times people need longer. It'll come, just be patient..... GOOD LUCK
2007-05-23 10:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need to know if there is a future in your relationship or not. Tell him that you are not asking for a proposal right now, but you need to know whether or not that is in your future. If it's not, you need to reevaluate your relationship and decide if this is really the guy for you or if you need to find someone who will eventually make a life-long committment to you.
2007-05-23 10:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by Brandy B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋