This was a topic on a radio station this morning. So many woman called in and said yes they would turn down the marriage proposal if they didn't like the ring.
2007-05-23 03:07:14 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
People do that?! That's horrible! This is a guy that went out and TRIED to buy you something nice and TRIED to give you a special moment and TRIED to show you how much he loves you. The material part of the engagement shouldn't matter. It's that fact that he loves you SO much that he'd put his pride and dignity out on the line for YOU. Why are people so materialistic these days?
2007-05-23 03:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by Donnie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it's more emotional of a decision than anything - but from a legal stand point - an engagement ring is a conditional gift given on the condition that the woman accepting the ring will may the man who is giving the ring. If the woman calls of the engagement or causes it to end (affair, etc) - she has not meet the conditions she agreed to when accepting the ring and it goes back to the man. If the man ends the engagement or causes it to end, she can keep the ring because she was not the one that ended the agreement. Of course - it's never that cut and dry lol. Personally, if I was engaged and it ended for whatever reason, I wouldn't want to keep the ring. Depending on how and why it ended, I might return the ring or I might just sell it off and keep the cash lol.
2016-05-20 22:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my opinion on this, if a girl turns down an marriage proposal because she didn't like the engagement ring.... hmmm she's not interested in the guy at all, and she's probably money hungry, lol... My guy proposed to me, with the most smallest ring in the world when we got engaged, yeah it was a small diamond, and made unique, at the time he said it was all he could afford, well I loved the ring and I loved him and I said yes, now we have been engaged for 10 months and last month he re-proposed to me with a very beautiful marquise cut, engagement ring and I love it even more, but the thing is the ring shouldn't matter its what they feel for the guy proposing!!!
2007-05-23 03:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not turn down the proposal, but I would let him know that I don't like the ring and ask if we could pick one out together. I wouldn't do this all in the same breath, though! Mabe bring it up a day later, after wearing it- maybe I would have a change of heart. (About the ring, not the guy.)
I think it's wonderful for the guy to take the initiative to choose the ring, but I would be wearing it for the rest of my life. I would prefer to love what is on my fing rather than fake it.
That might sound awful, but that's the reality!
2007-05-23 05:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by blahdeblah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can believe that there are ladies out there that would do that -
However, marriage is not about a ring. Its about you and the person you love making a promise to each other that you will love and take care one another, making everyday better than the day before (but we all know that there will be a few slumps here and there - that's why making up is so much fun).
Jewelry is just an accessory - plus most of the women I know 'upgrade' their wedding rings after 5, 10, .... years of marriage anyways.
2007-05-23 03:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by TX Angel 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Getting engaged is not all about the ring! It is about the meaning and the feelings behind the ring. If I really loved and cared about the guy that was proposing to me, I'd say yes, no matter what the damn ring looked like. Besides, you can always politely say that it isn't exactly your style and trade it in for a different one.
When my man proposed to me, he didn't have a ring at all. He proposed that night and the next morning he took me to a jewelry store and let me pick it myself. So I got exactly what suited me!
2007-05-23 03:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were being proposed to and considered saying yes, then you shouldnt think twice about the ring...its the marriage that matters, not the metal on your finger.
AND, even if you are that superficial, you can reset a diamond in another band or upgrade later. So suck it up.
Then again, if you're conceited enough to say no b/c of the ring, even if you hold your tounge, you'd probably have no probably telling him later that you don't like it.
Wow, some women!
2007-05-23 04:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by its about time 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"A woman unsatisfied must have luxuries. But a woman who loves a man would sleep on a board."
D.H.Lawrence
In other words, if a woman says no because she doesn't love the ring, the real problem is that she doesn't really love the man. Perhaps the women who called in to answer had never really been in love.
I would've said yes if my husband had proposed with a ring from a Cracker Jack box.
2007-05-23 03:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way!!! My boyfriend proposed before he got the ring, if the moment feels right then why wait. I cannot believe how many people are more bothered about the ring than the actual getting married part.
2007-05-23 04:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that is absolutely ridiculous. If they loved the guy then they wouldnt care about the ring. It's the guy they are getting for life not a stupid ring. Only thing I could say to a guy wanting to marry one of those women is good thing he found out right away what gold diggers they were so he didnt have to waste any money on them.
2007-05-23 04:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋