So, my fiancé and I are having problems trying to plan our wedding. He listed a question last night, you may want to check it out: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Al1ZiOU8KF7B6ItvmDDjlDPE7BR.?qid=20070522215007AAqKv0N
So our problem is that his family won't all make it to the wedding, since they are in Western Canada and the timing is bad with graduations in the family or they don't have the resources to come here. And I don't want to have a wedding with my 30-40 family members and only between 4-10 of his. I will feel really awkward with that.
I'm considering a destination wedding, and only having the guest list include my parents and their significant others, my two best friends, my fiancés two best friends, his parents, his sister and her husband, and maybe grandparents, But I'm afraid my family will resent me if we do that.
I'm not opposed to my fiancés idea, but I think it's too hard to exclude my family from the wedding if it's in the same city they all live in HELP
2007-05-23 03:00:27 · 9 answers · asked by Kayleigh♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The wedding is supposed to be about the bride and groom. Everyone wants to share their big day, but you need to do what makes you happy. If you have a very small destination wedding with only very close family, you can always have a party or open house when you get back to invite all the people that didn't make it to the destination. If you keep it to your most immediate friends and family,
If you do another party, it allows people to celebrate with you, but you can keep it inexpensive by having it at your house with just munchies.
2007-05-23 03:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends of mine had a destination wedding and they made it an open invitation. Word of mouth. Anyone that was interested contacted them and we got a group rate at an all-inclusive resort in St. Lucia. 14 of us ended up going. Just do that so that certain people won't feel like they have to attend. Some may not be able to afford it or go that time of year and that happens. In the end, it's all about you and your fiance and the life you are about to start together. Take a deep breath and just let things fall where they may. Congrats and good luck!!
2007-05-23 03:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by sunflower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has got to be the toughest thing to plan... Its up to you what you want to do and is comforable with. MY Wedding I only had under 20 ppl on my side and Hubby had 60ppl on his side come.
My family delt some think this... It ended up having a weeding and mostly her family able to attended in NC A few weeks latter they had a party for the rest of the family and friends that werent able to come of be invited in His home town, in upstate NY.
It worked out great and no one was upset about it at all..
You could do a destination wedding with close family and have a grand old time and Later plan 2 parties for your freinds and family that we not able to attend... It can be something very simple as a BBQ picnic in a park pavillion of back yard.
2007-05-23 06:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by jamz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read the other question yeterday, but didn't have an answer then! If the date of your wedding can be changed to be another few weeks earlier, that could work.
The question lingering with me, though, was where the two of you are going to live once you are married.
Seems to me the best solution is to have the wedding in the bride's hometown, then to have a second reception in the groom's hometown. That's what my oldest sister did when she got married - we were in Saskatchewan, and his family was in British Columbia.
Think about this - you get to wear your wedding gown a second time for the second reception!
2007-05-23 08:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My BF needed to do the desitination yet they desperate to no longer via this reason: They felt they have been telling people the place they have been to holiday and how they spent their money that twelve months. They felt very impolite and uncomfortable with making people use their time and money for sometime of their existence. and additionally that people could do it begrudgingly via fact it grew to become into their wedding ceremony and not basically yet another day. so as that they desperate on doing a marriage at a place around the place they lived, I dont think of they could have been happier with the way each little thing grew to become out. And afterwards I asked if that they were unhappy that they hadnt long gone to the Keys to get married as they initially deliberate. They the two stated that they have got been plenty happier that they had the "massive" wedding ceremony, they have been waiting to proportion with all of us relatively of basically a pick few. And it actual exceeded my sisters wedding ceremony (which had sat atop my maximum stunning 10 weddings record for 12 years), I dont think of it could have been as particular an afternoon if she had long gone away. stable success mutually with your determination.
2016-12-11 18:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt has this very problem a couple of years ago. If at all possible why not try and move the wedding up or back a week? Unless the places you have already rented for that weekend are already taken for another weekend then many places don't have a problem switching weekends. Congradulations on your wedding and I hope this helps.
2007-05-23 03:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day the wedding is about you and your fiance, so invite/don't invite whoever makes you feel most comfortable.
One solution is to do the small, intimate wedding, and send out letters to your other family and friends inviting them to a party at a later date "in honour of your union". That way everyone will be able to make it and nobody will feel left out.
2007-05-23 03:10:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off calm down you are way too stressed over this thing . My husband and I eloped for this very reason . Too much fighting in the family and too many ppl wanting to have a position in the wedding . so we finally gave up and eloped and I would suggest the same thing to you . It is not worth stressing over or alienating anyone . Save the money and put it down on a house . good luck and congrats on your wedding !!!
2007-05-23 03:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST ME, You will not make everyone happy no matter what! It is your wedding day! Do what you and your fiance want to do!!!!
2007-05-23 07:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by Leslie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋