please help i didnt get very many comments on the other ones im gonna loose it what should i do and now im crying
2007-05-23 02:51:04 · 40 answers · asked by karebear4009 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell your mum and dad or kick his @ss
2007-05-23 02:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A 13 year old girl has no business having sex with anybody! If you were my daughter I'd have shot this kid already. I promise you, no matter how much you think this boy loves you, and how much he says he does - he doesn't love you and if he did he would never pressure you to do something you didn't want to do or something you have no business doing. I know that's something you probably don't want to hear but the truth hurts sometimes. And what is a 16 year old boy doing messing around with a 13 year old girl? This kid is out for one thing and only one thing - and he doesn't care where he gets it from. Turn and walk away from this guy. You've got your whole life ahead of you and plenty of time to explore and experiment. Now is not the time! Hold onto your virginity, hold onto your purity, and hold onto your dignity; if you give into this guy now, you'll regret it for a long, long time. Especially in six weeks when he's moved on to somebody else and you're heart is broken. Nobody is worth what he's asking from you and I gaurantee he doesn't deserve it from you.
I know this all sounds very cliche but take it from a guy who learned everything the hard way. This is not a path you want to start down. I may be over twice your age but it wasn't that long ago that I was there and was faced with the same exact decisions you're faced with now and will be faced with in the future. There are many, many things I wish I could go back and change and this is definatley one of the decisions I wish I had back to do over because when and who I lost my virginity to would be completely different and for the better. I can't change my past, the most I can do is try to help somebody refrain from making the same mistakes I did.
You have everything to live for and this guy is not one of those things. Enjoy your childhood! Things may seem tough now and they are, but many years from now you can look back at this situation and realize how important this decision can be for you. There is no gray area here. This is one of the few times you can see everything in black and white, right and wrong. Make the right decision and cut this guy out of your life; realize that you are special and that somethings are worth holding onto and saving for the right moment in time and the right person. And at 13 years old you are a long way aways from either.
2007-05-23 03:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by blue26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh i might sound like a mother but it is sooo not worth it. I'm not saying wait for marriage, but i was 15 and turns out that, sex was the only thing that he wanted and it BROKE my heart. Wait until what you have is something special not a crush. If that guy was any kind of man he would wait--but i bet if you tell him no that he will bolt!! If i could change my past I would you still have a chance, you should differently wait I promise it will be the best thing-cuz when you find that someone --either 3 yrs-5yrs-7yrs down that road even if marriage is not in the future you will feel soo much better about yourself-and that is all that matters. Hope i helped
2007-05-23 03:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by sissah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look girl he should not be pressuring you. Your only 13 and you should not be having sex. I am a 16 old girl and if I guy tried to pressure me into having sex he would get slapped in his face. He really does not care about you. He's just there to add you to his I had sex with this girl list. So move on an find a MATURE guy OK. Your worth more than 5 minutes of his meaningless time.
2007-05-23 02:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your intuition tells you. That, or ask people that really know you for advice. Thats not the kind of problem I'd trust internet strangers with resolving. By the way, every guy you'll ever meet wants sex. If they tell you otherwise they're trying to trick you. The sooner you realize the truth the easier your life will become. Why are you dating a 16 year old anyways?
2007-05-23 02:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well here's the thing: First, you said he's "not really with you." Well if he's not really with you now, it's for DAMN SURE that he won't be with you at all once he's gotten what he wants! (Trust me on that!) Also, there is a basic rule to live by that might serve you well here. "If you have to ask if you should do something, you shouldn't do it.) Look, sex can make life all kinds of complicated. YES it can be a VERY good thing under the RIGHT circumstances. But the RIGHT circumstances NEVER involve you crying and feeling like you are going to lose it! This guy is NOT looking out for you! He's looking out for himself! STAY AWAY!
2007-05-23 02:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by danl747 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not worth it. You are 13 and still have so much more to learn and maturing to do. Making Love is not the physical act of sex. Making Love is what you do in a relationship - how you treat one another.
Bottom Line - Sex is just that Sex....you have plenty of time in the future to experience that with someone who will value you and who you will value in return.
2007-05-23 03:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by famu_delta5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps trying to get you to do something you don't want to do then he does not respect you. You deserve a guy who does respect you. You can't have a good relationship with someone unless they respect you.
Drop this punk like a 100 pound dumbell and get one that knows how to treat you.
If you want to be a virgin then be one! He doesn't have the right to give you a hard time over it and you don't have/need to put up with it if he is.
2007-05-23 02:56:33 · answer #8 · answered by Bobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but 13 isn't old enough to have sex. This guy just wants to get what he wants with you so he can tell all his buddies. It sounds to me like you know you aren't ready. Don't do something you 'll regret just because he is pressuring you. You'll feel better about yourself now and in the long run. Tell him to leave you alone you just aren't ready.
2007-05-23 02:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by nahimana34 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
while you're actually not waiting for intercourse then you definately tell him that. If he insists on it then you definately leave him. He needs to contemplate your emotions in this count number. no longer only getting his rocks off. in case you do settle directly to have intercourse with him....make him use a condom. The tablet isn't a hundred% effective and neither is a condom. superb to apply the two in case you bypass forward with it. yet you should truly wait. How long have you ever been relationship? If this is no longer long he could desire to be wanting a wham...bamm...thank you mam.... and leave you once you have intercourse. think of approximately this truly confusing. solid success and be secure**
2016-10-31 04:23:40 · answer #10 · answered by student 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you are to young to have sex. Find an older person to talk to about this, if you don't think you can talk to your Mom. than an aunt maybe? No boy is worth crying over and the ones that are worth crying over would never make you cry. Chin up, legs closed, okay?
2007-05-23 02:58:49 · answer #11 · answered by tralala853 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋