Would you still date that person? -this is for a paper so be honest!
2007-05-23 02:26:56 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did. In college I met a guy and he was a great guy, treated me better then anyone ever has till this day. He was also 4 years older then me. On my 21st birthday he asked me to marry him and I turned him down. I loved him with all my heart and I wasn't ready to get married, but I also wasn't in love with him, because I wasn't physically attracted to him. I wanted to be, but I wasn't and it hurt for a long time, and I tried for a long time, but if you don't find someone attractive, there isn't much else there. I still care about him and wonder about him to this day.
2007-05-23 02:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by ***ME*** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of us usually run to the attractive person. That is a very natural thing. If you happen to meet someone that's very attractive and also happens to possess the qualities that you're looking for in the relationship, then you are very lucky. However, if you're serious about finding someone to spend your life with in a committed, loving, and trusting relationship, then look beyond the exterior of the person and get to know them inside. That what I made up my mind to do when I realized that I no longer just wanted lust relationships, but a truly meaningful relationship. I unexpectedly found the love of my life when I met someone that I, at first, did not find sexually attractive, but would certainly consider as a good friend only....however, that friendship grew into love. We've been together for seven and a half years now and continue to be happy.
2007-05-23 02:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by Michael V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would still date that person if the guy has a great personality that i admire..n loves me truely n has everything i look for in "the one" then physical attraction isnt all that important..cuz the attraction might go away in time like when u grow older..u wont look as attractive but still if u love the person honestly then u will still be happy with that person nomatter what so yeh i would.
2007-05-23 02:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met the love of my life and, Roy , like you .... my heart is broken in half because my other half stays far away. He was not the best looking man although After getting to know him....I thought he was beautiful. The physical attraction develops slowly ....thats when you know...theres more to it than sex. The difference between someone you love and the love of your life.......I miss him..........You would be surprised what time does for a relationship.. In the beginning I didn't really want ... and now that I want I can't have.... .....
2007-05-23 02:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by quen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because you would never meet them in the first place to find out if they are the love of your life physical attraction is the "ice breaker" for relationships the only way around this that i can think of would be if this person just was always around or something talking to you and you built a friend ship before relationship
2007-05-23 02:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by Milton C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly along time ago i would not have, but i have found that since i have grown up , actully due to my current situation, i did; and still am, or would i supose as you asked, because when i think about it, yes, being physically attracted DEFINITLY has its good points but in the long run, we will all lose our looks (unless we have a pot-load of money to help) and that once that is gone, you have to look at what would be left, which is who that person is, not how they look.so to answer you question yes, i would.
good luck with your paper!
2007-05-23 02:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so hard. I just don't think he would be the love of my life if I was not attracted to him. That might sound shallow - but the love of my life would be attractive to ME, even if no one else found him attractive. At least for a few years. =)
2007-05-23 02:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by so Fresh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I would probably be attracted to her. Even if I loved her personality, if she was the love of my life then there would also be an attraction there for me. Even if she wasn't all that pretty to other people, she would be to me.
2007-05-23 02:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, I tend to find people's personalities attractive in themselves. If I wasn't physically attracted to them at all I wouldn't date them. I'd be their friend. I think that being attracted to someone is very important in a relationship.
2007-05-23 02:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by eva m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I have dated (back in the day, lol) guys who were not my 'type' but were soooo funny, reliable, exciting, whatever. You first decide how you feel about someone by their looks, but it's what they say and do that make them truly attractive.
If a guy is super hot but acts embarassingly or cheats or is a jerk, only the shallowest woman would date him.
Look at all the tv shows or bands with 'regular' looking guys (or gals) but their character makes you flip for them.
2007-05-23 02:32:52 · answer #10 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋