Can i get some advice please folks?
My sister-in-law, just emailed me to tell me about her little nephew's illness. He is literally a baby - 8 months old - and has been receiving treatment for leukaemia.
For the past three weeks, Dylan has gone into the hospital for 24 hour chemo treatments and then home for a few days and to go back to the children's hospital for more chemo. Though he was in great spirits and almost back to his old self, something has happened......
The chemo is tearing the lining in his little body causing pain and bleeding. The doctors have put him on morphine and now he has the 'runs' and is very very uncomfortable. He may not make it.
I wish I could give my brother, my sister-in-law, and her family a huge hug but they are in the States and I'm in the UK.
How can I help her to cope?
2007-05-23 02:21:28 · 9 answers · asked by Wildamberhoney 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ruksana P- I would, but I can't. I am literally penniless and have so much debt that I can't get any loan, credit, or anything. I work fulltime and it all goes on bills and debt - I have no chance of getting to the States. Believe me, if I had any way of getting there, I would go.
2007-05-23 04:34:04 · update #1
Unfortunately I can't even pay my rent, let alone fly out anywhere. :-(
2007-05-23 04:34:58 · update #2
Right about now Dylan is in such pain that the kindest thing you can do for his family is to be a listener.
Let then know that you will have your heart and ears open for them day or night if they need to let all their emotions out.
Be their strength without giving them false hope and try to bring a little daylight into their sorrow.
To help yourself be strong. tell yourself each morning that you can be strong for them. You can offer them a safe refuge when they need to cry or even to laugh. That is something they may be afraid to do where they are, for fear of seeming heartless;but is a very necessary part of survival.
You can hug them all in your prayers and light a candle every night and let it send your messages on the wind as it blows out.
All love. Take care of yourself and stay strong.xxx Christine
2007-05-23 04:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by Christine H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear what you and your brother and sister in law are going through, they must be going through tough times to see their baby in that state. I think you are doing more that enough, if you really want to help and be there for them, then why don't you book a flight over there, I am sure they would love all the support you could give them, and be there for them. She needs someone she can talk to, they both are very tired of worries and concerns, if you are there they could talk to you, I am sure they would appreciate you being there, at times like this, they need all the family and friends around them. If you are that concerned and worried just do it, go to the States, it will help you too. Good Luck
2007-05-23 02:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh thats so terrible. Poor little guy! since your so far away the only thing you can really do is stay in contact with his mum and your brother and let them know that you are only a phone call/email away if they need a friendly ear. If they are religious why don't you have a mass said for him and let them know you are doing this, its possible that this might give her some much needed comfort. I'm so sorry this is happening and i really hope he gets well soon. x
2007-05-23 02:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by Lola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry about this situation.
Unfortunately you can't do alot. Moral support is important to
call as much as you can (obviously not too much so that it costs a fortune) email, etc...
what could be a nice gesture, is to send by post a little teddy bear or soft toy, to show you care, also with a little note saying a few things.
I really do hope things get better.
2007-05-23 05:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Chiinny. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your doing the best you can do. If you believe in God then tell them they and their son are in your prayers, ask them if there is anything else you can do such as send them something perhaps. If they have email, send them encouraging poems, messages. My niece was sending groceries to her brother in another state to help his family while his wife was in he hosp. for 4 mos. because of a problem pregnancy. Sometimes just calling and letting them hear your voice is a good and comforting thing too. Don't undervalue yourself. You'd be surprised how important support can be even by phone. I know this first hand.
2007-05-23 03:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by Becky 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Phone and E-Mail - keep in contact with them and let them know you are there for them if they want to talk about it (which they may not want to do - don't push if they're not forthcoming). How about sending something for the little boy?
2007-05-23 02:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its clear you all in need for GOD - why dont you and family start now - do you imagine that pray for someone can make an affect whither for someone at the states or even in Iraq .. try it once and youll never regret it !!.
2007-05-23 02:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by igia g 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
pray for her, and the little boy.
that's all you can really do for her, and that might just help.(no...it will help)
have faith that everything is going to be okay,
because he;s one of God's little lambs
he'll make it, don't worry.
2007-05-23 02:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by teddyGisgreat! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like your already helping them by being there and thinking about them
best wishes to you all ..xx
2007-05-23 02:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋