I dont know why im so depressed.. he was horrible to start with??

Question

my ex bf is a piece of sh*t! when I was with him we were always fighting! we were on again and off again all the time! when we broke up for the last time it was cause he "cheated" on me. a few days ago he asked me if we could go out again and that he loves and he never stopped loving me! then this morning i found it he has a GF! I started crying but I dont know why! what should I do?

Answer 1

Hi dear,

there's not a lack of gd guys on earth... y cry for such a cheap guy then?
choose someone who would love only u...
do not waste ur time being depressed on this guy...
instead if i was in ur place i would enjoy life... try to be even more beautiful and fashionable and search for a nice partner who has some self respect... i am sure u agree with me...
life is meant to be spent with a nice person and not cheap people like that...
gd luck... and concentrate on future and do not think about the past...
ur future only will keep u happy...

Answer 2

Anytime you have a breakup you need time to grieve. You've lost what your dream for the relationship was even if it was just a dream. On top of that you are feeling so many feelings of anger, hurt, distrust, etc which you should. Allow yourself the time to feel all these emotions but then remember that you can do better (which you can!) and that Karma will come back and bite him. Dont forget what he's done in the past when he comes crawling back. Just be strong and know that your prince charming is out there! I went through this situation a few years ago and I was so heartbroken but now I'm marrying a great guy and he (the cheating ex) is still in our hometown doing nothing with himself but getting into trouble. Im glad I didnt stick around to get dragged down with him!
Be strong!

Answer 3

If ur ex treated u so badly why did u go back to him in the first place? U sound like u were miserable when u were with him to start off with! So y go back? He sounds like a terrible guy and u should get away from him completely! Break all contact and make it clear to him that u dont want him in ur life anymore! That way u can move on! U dont need his crap! AND if he never stopped loving you then why did he cheat on u? Shouldnt he not wanna hurt you! So not only is he an A**HOLE but he is also stupid! Dont worry he will get what he deserves in the long run!

Answer 4

This is the way men are most of the time. When they don't have you, they want you and when they do have you, they don't want you. I was in a relationship like this for 10 years and finally put an end to it last year. It was hard as emotionally it's like a divorce. The best thing you can do is surround yourself with good people. Don't think that jumping into another relationship would be good, but giving yourself time to move on emotionally is the best thing you can do. You deserve better than this as do a lot of women who are in this situation. Keep your head up. Don't talk to him, or message him, or have any contact with him. Block him as much as you can so you don't have the temptation there. I wish you luck as it can be hard.

Answer 5

You said it all in your 2nd sentence- your ex boyfriend is a piece of s*$!@. And he is - so why would you even think about going out with him again. He can't be trusted. It hurts you to think that he could do this to you and that's why you are crying and that is normal. Please, please do yourself a favor and just get rid of him. He is going to cause you nothing but pain. If he is sleeping with someone else, he make bring you a disease. That is not a relationship. He does not respect you honey - so respect yourself. You need to find someone who cares enough about you not to do this. We woman keep letting these things slip by hoping the cheating or whatever will stop. It WON'T - let the other girl have him. She is not getting any prize.

Answer 6

You are crying because first of all you feel betrayed, and not special. But you are. Feel glad that this happened, as you say, you knew he was a bad apple to begin with, but you felt you could change him. Now you know that wasn't true. You are better off on your own. Think about it, months down the road, when you find that someone who treats you with respect and admiration, you will look back and laugh at your decision of staying with him after knowing all the facts.
Be glad, and take this opportunity to set your values straight. What you expect from a relationship, and what you will not tolerate.
Good Luck!

Answer 7

Stop answering his calls. Stop seeing him.

He will always be this way. If he is a teenager or up to age 22, he may still be immature. You will have to ignore him for 5 years and then see if he's improved.

You are depressed because it is the end of a relationship. Any "end" is like a death. You must give yourself time to mourn it. Afterwards you will be able to go on.

Begin looking for a new boyfriend.

Answer 8

drop him and pretend he never existed! i know it's hard to forget, but try! he's not worth your time at all! i know it hurts. i, myself, have just gone through a heart-shredding break-up with my boyfriend of almost 4 1/2 months...it hurts and i still keep thinking about him even until now. but sometimes you just have to think, is he really worth crying for? especially when you know that nothing good can come out of it?

i think about my ex all the time especially at this time coz i just miss all those times we used to share and the daily evening talks we used to have on the phone. but you gotta think of the present and the future, not the past....that's what i'm doing now. sure i miss the times we had, but i'm surely not getting it back, so why think of it in the first place?

by the way....your statement really hit me. coz when me and my ex were together, we also constantly fought over things. so we keep semi-breaking-off and then back together again. then when we finally did break-up for real, he went out an flirted with some other girl, then like a week or two after we broke up, he came back telling me that he made a mistake by leaving and that i should take him back. well, stupid me said yes and so we got back together but it only lasted a week coz i suspected he wasn't all that serious. and by the time we broke up again, i found out that he'd been hanging with several girls after all.

so there....i forced him to talk to me honestly and we both agreed to break-up. so now, i'm single. a bit lonely coz of the change of not having him around like before, but satisfied knowing that it's the best for me.

Answer 9

You can give yourself a mental kick in the a** for taking back a sh*tty boyfriend, and I'm saying this with the best intentions. If HE is the cr*ppy one, why get upset over him? Do you feel remorse for Osama's hardy life?

Answer 10

Oh come one sweetheart.,.. u already know he is piece of **** and trust me he will come back again to disturb u.,.. just remove urself from the situation, disappear if u can and then u will be in a much better position to handle this...