I met this really nice guy , we are falling in love for each other , however he lives in London and I live in NYC ... he wants me to move to London this Summer :) he wants to get married .. i do too.... but i think its too soon .. what would you do ?
2007-05-23 01:31:38 · 11 answers · asked by jhonatanms 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
does it have to be 'get married' and live happily ever after....... why not be more realistic and go for the summer, and see how it works out, at least then you have your life and family back in the US to fall back on if it doesn't work out. Also, apart from your lover ..... have you been to London? Do you think you'd like living there? That's the other question you should ask (apart from working visas etc).
I'd go for a week or two and get the feel for him and the place first before making any decisions.
2007-05-23 01:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Christine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some times love is about chances....you don't wanna spend the rest of your life wondering what could of been, this is a decision you must make on your own, you must look into your heart and see what it says there, i'd say move there and live together and get to know each other first before you rush into marrying, if he loves you he'll wait for the marriage part, you don't wanna rush into it and regret it as well, so like i said, it's all about chances, don't get married so soon, that way you can live together see how it goes and make your mind up from there, and if it doesn't work you can move back home but if you rush into marriage that's a hard mess to get out of , so take your time and if he loves you he'll wait.....
2007-05-23 01:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a summer trip to London. Plan to stay just for the summer. That way, at the end of the summer, you can come back home. Or if things work out really well, you can stay there. Don't plan on getting married just yet! Just enjoy the summer and see what happens.
2007-05-23 01:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If ur heart says the guy and the timing is right.. go ahead.. otherwise tell him u love him but wanna wait a few more months before moving to london.. always trust ur intuition, it knows the right path..
2007-05-23 01:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... how long have you 2 know each other? Well, I would say allow at least one year to know him really well before you take a move.
I would change my life for someone I love, only that I think is important that I have a clear picture on how would life and things change when really making the move.
God bless!
2007-05-23 01:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do it. But only after I met him a couple of times, and had some good face to face conversations with him. Alot changes when you meet someone in person, you have to get to know his quirks before you jump the gun. Give it some time, and then see where it goes, you should have a good idea of what you want to do by then.
2007-05-23 01:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by My December 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd commute a couple of times first just to ensure your not going over there to be with a psycho.....As far as long distance relationships, they can work, I moved in with a man in Feb after we had been taking turns traveling back and forth for close to a year.
2007-05-23 01:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say love conquers all. I moved from California to Switzerland. I left "everything" for him. I miss my sons and family very much. It has been difficult to say the least. You at least can already speak the language. Just know that he cannot be "all" to you. Any chance he could move to NYC? Good luck.
2007-05-23 01:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by kick it 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really love him. Tell him you are okay with marrying him, but you feel rushed. So tell him you will but you want to delay the wedding to a later time.
2007-05-23 01:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey thts nice to hear............congrats !!!!!......if you love ur lover than you would like to see your love happy rite.............and feel sad if your love is sad.........so i feel yes one has to change her life for love........... has to sacrifice her feelings just to see love happy and most of all to avoid any conflicts A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself -- to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart
2007-05-23 01:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by shona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋